Posted on 12/13/2013 1:03:43 PM PST by MNDude
Sad news broke earlier this week of a college student in Minnesota who may lose her limbs after spending the night on a porch in sub-zero temperatures. If there's one thing you can count on with a story like this, it's for anonymous Internet commenters to indulge in some nasty victim-shaming.
And while some folks offered support and good wishes, many others just couldn't help but get judgemental — shaming both Lommel and the friends who drove off without checking she'd got inside:
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Her “friends” are assholes and cowards. I pray she recovers. I remember facing Mr W when I brought his son home and carried him in the house. Mr W was a 6’6” New York City detective. Believe me that was no fun. If not for friends and the grace of God.....
At 19 and 20 I was just warming up. And then a DI cooled me down bigtime.
Losing a limb or two is a damn good very hard lesson...
Being dead is much harder one...
Tragic! She will suffer horribly for as long as she lives and her friends will or should suffer, with guilty feelings haunting them for a long long time.
It is not lack of empathy. The young woman was UNDER the age of 21 and shouldn’t have been drinking in the first place. You want me to empathetic with that??? Okay let’s be empathetic with millions of Mexicans and just let them all in.
IF she decides to become a sober member of society she will be a living example that others perhaps will relate to. From my perspective this young woman is really no better than the 16 yr old drunk driver who killed four people. Maybe you can muster some empathy for him.
I agree…. and they were probably drunk as well
Actually you and I agree. And most definitely my thoughts and prayers are with she and her family
OK.
I dodged that bullet fortunately but I did have a number of auto accidents two after heavy drinking as a young adult.
No one hurt fortunately but it caused me problems.
The problem with the drinking age at 18, and I know this from my experience personally, is 18 year old’s have friends younger than that, a great example is girlfriends and their girlfriends.
So in those days kids 15 and 16 were drinking on weekends outside in Keg parties or bottle parties.
Heck, I threw a few keg parties at 18 and I sure didn't card those who paid the $4, And they were on their own afterward, some got beat up, some of the girls did things they would never do sober.
The 21 age increase was a good move. Sorry it didn't save this girl but with a lower age maybe it would have happened when she was 17.
I always admire people like you who have never made a poor decision.
DI was Drill Instructor but the rest of it I;ve been there and done that. When I was 15 I was sitting at bars drinking beer. 2 bucks would get about 15 old time glasses of beer with enough left for a tip.
Where I lived in NYS it was tough to do that at even 17.
You needed a picture ID to drink even though they didn't put pictures on drivers licenses in those days.
I paid the county $8 to make me an picture ID so I could buy alcohol at 18.
I didnt drink much till then but my younger brother was going to keg parties at 15, most outdoors. And it wasnt good for him either,
How many of these incidents come from the fact that drinking is seen as something positive? This kind of binge drinking is a symptom. We have a society in which kids spend more time listening to music that glorifies debauchery than going to church, learning morality or practicing maturity. That’s just the music.
We turn our kids over to a world that at every level undermines the basic tenets of living that God has set out for his children. What you’re seeing is a symptom of the spiritual vacuum people feel. Most abusers, and this girl is an abuser, are self-medicating.
The law is the last vestige of a failed culture. There used to be no law against underage drinking, then in the 1830s a very few states regulated it and post prohibition it has varied but usually age of majority and up. What has all that law done to curb abusive drinking and alcoholism? Why does it still persist?
The drinking laws don't stop that vast majority of adults from drinking and that is not their intention.
Its just that immaturity and alcohol are a very dangerous formula that not only can destroy the drinker but hurt many others too.
So setting a minimum age for drinking is sound policy.
Would I have liked it at 18??
Of course not.
I mean would it make sense to legally allow a 12 year old to have sex with a 21 year old?
1. When you drop someone off wait to make sure they’re ok. The car starts, they get inside, they find a taxi, etc.
2. MN cold can kill you. Get inside, dress appropriately outside, and put survival stuff in your car.
3. Kids make mistakes. They have no experience. Alcohol is often involved. This poor girl will pay too large a price for this mistake.
I hope she’s ok. And I hope it helps her learn (ya never know).
Finally, thank goodness that the really stupid stunts I pulled when young didn’t do me in!
you are clueless…. this has nothing to do with compassion or empathy…. but then you probably noted for that compassionate conservative
God bless this young lady with his mercy. What a terrible fate to suffer from such a simple mistake. Poor girl. She has my sympathy.
Amen.
Prayers up, poor kid. Dumb yes, but she doesn’t deserve to pay this price. Prayers indeed!
Oh, there is going to be spiritual blowback on the likes of N.
God’s still the chief in charge. God doesn’t get mocked with impunity.
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