Posted on 07/08/2008 7:50:56 AM PDT by flowerplough
"Sometimes, a term of endearment can be anything but endearing.
"I had this manager who … started referring to me as 'honey,'" recalls May Snowden, former chief diversity officer for both Starbucks and Eastman Kodak Co. (one of DiversityInc's 25 Noteworthy Companies), who is now a consultant for Creative Wealth Alliance. "[It was] when I took my first director position. I was in a male-dominated job in the telecommunications industry and I did not want to embarrass him in front of his peers, so I invited him to my office and indicated that 'I won't call you sweetie if you won't call me honey.' We had that little conversation and he stopped. He was really embarrassed, [and because] he calls his wife, his daughters and other women 'honey', he did not even think about it."
"We all come to the table with biases and histories and upbringings in life that give us a perspective that may have 20, 30 years behind it," says Sherry Nolan, vice president of diversity and organizational capabilities at Pepsi Bottling Group..."
(The List:
Any kind of sexual comment
"You don't really want that promotion. You'll never see your kids."
"You'll get the job because you're a woman" or "You must be the token woman"
"What's the matter, is it that time of the month?"
"You're very attractive [or pretty, or beautiful, etc.]"
"You look great for your age" or "Do you use Botox?"
"You do that so well … for a girl."
"When are you due?")
(Excerpt) Read more at diversityinc.com ...
It's like this. They're female and believe that they should be treated like men. Well, at least when it comes to salaries, but not when the faucet's leaking, or when the basement's flooding, or when the lawn needs mowing, or when the toilet needs fixing. Fixing these things is beneath them.
OK, the above is extrapolated entirely from my sister.
And dates should show up with flowers every week, just like on the old "Mary Tyler Moore Show."
I think I've covered it.
....what happened with us a lot was my wife had to serve on committees that met after work...and let’s face it nobody wants to hang around after work for boring committee meetings....but somebody had to “represent the dept” and everybody else seemed to suddenly have obligations involving their children.
“I got your quarterly report right here, babe.”
It beats ma’am :)
my primary lender is a woman.
i’m a knuckledragger but she is great....she looks out for me and takes better care of my loan needs in business than do the men at the other banks I use.
it’s up to the individual
women have strongs suits in business when they let themselves be women I’ve found
strident chin leading types usually don’t cotton to me but reasonable happy to be female women usually like me and me them.
Have a black woman in our office. When I go running at lunch, more than a few times, she’s said; “damn, you got nice legs (or a nice a**)...for a white boy”.
Racism, thinly disguised by a backhanded compliment that sounds just like an insult.
And you KNOW I cannot comment, as anything at all that I say to her will be considered a racist comment.
A double standard exists.
Welcome to the planet.
“You must Tivo your soaps”
“Shut up and get me a sandwich”
Last week, I got the Good Word from a (really) young man at the local grocery, and was enjoying the compliment...up until he fumbled the pass by asking me "do you need some help getting your groceries to the car?"
DISCLAIMER: "50sDad" refers to my attitudes about the world, not my age, as I am yet a youthful 48!
Don’t ask, “Can I feel your material?”
Time and gravity will remove the bag boy problem.
As Ernest Gann aptly wrote, “A woman has got just so many years before men start looking through her instead of at her . . .”
Enjoy it while you can.
Besides, Murphy likes mouthy twerps, that’s why there are so many of them.
;-)
“Iron my shirt.”
Woman, I have told you 1,000 times that I refuse to wash the dishes until you iron my apron! :-)
Not pertinent to the thread but it is what came to mind when I read your post. :-)
Simple solution for that one. Just smile and reply, "Not even with a stolen dick, lady."
A man has to ignore a pregnancy and hope he doesn't get complained about.
Her job title was "vice president for external affairs".
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