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Things NEVER to Say to Women Executives
DiversityInc ^ | 8 July | Zadya Rivera

Posted on 07/08/2008 7:50:56 AM PDT by flowerplough

"Sometimes, a term of endearment can be anything but endearing.

"I had this manager who … started referring to me as 'honey,'" recalls May Snowden, former chief diversity officer for both Starbucks and Eastman Kodak Co. (one of DiversityInc's 25 Noteworthy Companies), who is now a consultant for Creative Wealth Alliance. "[It was] when I took my first director position. I was in a male-dominated job in the telecommunications industry and I did not want to embarrass him in front of his peers, so I invited him to my office and indicated that 'I won't call you sweetie if you won't call me honey.' We had that little conversation and he stopped. He was really embarrassed, [and because] he calls his wife, his daughters and other women 'honey', he did not even think about it."

"We all come to the table with biases and histories and upbringings in life that give us a perspective that may have 20, 30 years behind it," says Sherry Nolan, vice president of diversity and organizational capabilities at Pepsi Bottling Group..."

(The List:

Any kind of sexual comment

"You don't really want that promotion. You'll never see your kids."

"You'll get the job because you're a woman" or "You must be the token woman"

"What's the matter, is it that time of the month?"

"You're very attractive [or pretty, or beautiful, etc.]"

"You look great for your age" or "Do you use Botox?"

"You do that so well … for a girl."

"When are you due?")

(Excerpt) Read more at diversityinc.com ...


TOPICS: Business/Economy; Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: workplace
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To: Perdogg
You're so short and I'm so tall.
I could give you six inches of me and we'd be even!
81 posted on 07/08/2008 8:53:45 AM PDT by The Brush
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To: chickpundit
Of all the things I could get upset about, being called “honey” is not one of them. It depends on the delivery, but honey is most often a term of endearment. Why are people so easily offended?

It's like this. They're female and believe that they should be treated like men. Well, at least when it comes to salaries, but not when the faucet's leaking, or when the basement's flooding, or when the lawn needs mowing, or when the toilet needs fixing. Fixing these things is beneath them.

OK, the above is extrapolated entirely from my sister.

And dates should show up with flowers every week, just like on the old "Mary Tyler Moore Show."

I think I've covered it.

82 posted on 07/08/2008 8:55:49 AM PDT by Aquinasfan (When you find "Sola Scriptura" in the Bible, let me know)
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To: PLMerite
That’d be good name for a magazine...”PMS Monthly”

The Moody Bible Institute has or had a magazine called Moody Monthly. One time my dad, a pastor, at a couples dinner asked the question, "How many of you get Moody Monthly?" There were a lot of snickers.
83 posted on 07/08/2008 8:58:24 AM PDT by aruanan
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To: Mr Inviso; NativeSon; CholeraJoe

....what happened with us a lot was my wife had to serve on committees that met after work...and let’s face it nobody wants to hang around after work for boring committee meetings....but somebody had to “represent the dept” and everybody else seemed to suddenly have obligations involving their children.


84 posted on 07/08/2008 9:00:06 AM PDT by STONEWALLS
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To: flowerplough

“I got your quarterly report right here, babe.”


85 posted on 07/08/2008 9:00:19 AM PDT by OB1kNOb (ISLAM IS THE SPIRIT OF ANTICHRIST, DIRECTED BY SATAN AND HIS FALLEN MINIONS.)
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To: donna

It beats ma’am :)


86 posted on 07/08/2008 9:02:26 AM PDT by chickpundit (I will abide under the shadow of the Almighty.)
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To: Centurion2000
"Who lit the fuse on your tampon?"

This one doesn't work all that well but sure as hell schocks em.


You owe me a new keyboard.
87 posted on 07/08/2008 9:02:50 AM PDT by JamesP81 (George Orwell's 1984 was a warning, not a suggestion)
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To: flowerplough

my primary lender is a woman.

i’m a knuckledragger but she is great....she looks out for me and takes better care of my loan needs in business than do the men at the other banks I use.

it’s up to the individual

women have strongs suits in business when they let themselves be women I’ve found

strident chin leading types usually don’t cotton to me but reasonable happy to be female women usually like me and me them.


88 posted on 07/08/2008 9:03:35 AM PDT by wardaddy (most white people are stupid piles of brainwashed guilt addled mush)
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To: Manly Warrior

Have a black woman in our office. When I go running at lunch, more than a few times, she’s said; “damn, you got nice legs (or a nice a**)...for a white boy”.

Racism, thinly disguised by a backhanded compliment that sounds just like an insult.

And you KNOW I cannot comment, as anything at all that I say to her will be considered a racist comment.

A double standard exists.

Welcome to the planet.


89 posted on 07/08/2008 9:03:42 AM PDT by woollyone (100 rounds per week totals over 5000 rounds in a year. Just thought you'd want to know.)
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To: omega4179
I miss the America of my father's youth, where men often fought over politics, where a woman could accept a nicely-phrased compliment without assuming you were a rat-bastard, and if you disagreed with somebody, you had the right to tell them to go to Hell.
90 posted on 07/08/2008 9:03:49 AM PDT by 50sDad (OBAMA: In your heart you know he's Wright.)
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To: flowerplough

“You must Tivo your soaps”


92 posted on 07/08/2008 9:05:41 AM PDT by bobjam
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To: Schnucki

“Shut up and get me a sandwich”


93 posted on 07/08/2008 9:06:38 AM PDT by glorgau
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To: caseinpoint
I am "of an age", and have always tried to include the compliment "young man" to men older than myself, whom have been universally grateful. However, these days I have discovered that I have been on the receiving end of said secret handshake all too often.

Last week, I got the Good Word from a (really) young man at the local grocery, and was enjoying the compliment...up until he fumbled the pass by asking me "do you need some help getting your groceries to the car?"

DISCLAIMER: "50sDad" refers to my attitudes about the world, not my age, as I am yet a youthful 48!

94 posted on 07/08/2008 9:08:53 AM PDT by 50sDad (OBAMA: In your heart you know he's Wright.)
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To: flowerplough; MotleyGirl70; Cagey; Mr. Brightside; Gamecock; Rebelbase

Don’t ask, “Can I feel your material?”


95 posted on 07/08/2008 9:09:34 AM PDT by Larry Lucido
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To: caseinpoint

Time and gravity will remove the bag boy problem.

As Ernest Gann aptly wrote, “A woman has got just so many years before men start looking through her instead of at her . . .”

Enjoy it while you can.

Besides, Murphy likes mouthy twerps, that’s why there are so many of them.

;-)


96 posted on 07/08/2008 9:11:08 AM PDT by GladesGuru (In a society predicated upon freedom, it is essential to examine principles,)
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To: maggief

“Iron my shirt.”

Woman, I have told you 1,000 times that I refuse to wash the dishes until you iron my apron! :-)

Not pertinent to the thread but it is what came to mind when I read your post. :-)


97 posted on 07/08/2008 9:11:16 AM PDT by El Gran Salseron ("Terisn" is my new favorite word. Thank you, Allegra.)
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To: woollyone
Have a black woman in our office. When I go running at lunch, more than a few times, she’s said; “damn, you got nice legs (or a nice a**)...for a white boy”.

Simple solution for that one. Just smile and reply, "Not even with a stolen dick, lady."

98 posted on 07/08/2008 9:12:30 AM PDT by Centurion2000 (A citizen using a weapon to shoot a criminal is the ultimate act of independence from government.)
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To: PLMerite
Actually, it's a double standard. You're supposed to notice if she's pregnant, and you'll be chastised if you don't fawn over it. If she's just fat, you are also in trouble, only bigger (no pun intended).

A man has to ignore a pregnancy and hope he doesn't get complained about.

99 posted on 07/08/2008 9:12:30 AM PDT by Cyber Liberty (Who would McQueeg rather have mad at him: You or the liberals?)
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To: Lancey Howard
Michelle Obama is handed over $270,000 per year to be “diversity coordinator” for University of Chicago Hospitals.

Her job title was "vice president for external affairs".

100 posted on 07/08/2008 9:12:44 AM PDT by wideminded
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