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'Marriage Is for White People'
Washington Post ^ | 3/26/6 | Joy Jones

Posted on 03/25/2006 11:08:03 PM PST by Crackingham

I grew up in a time when two-parent families were still the norm, in both black and white America. Then, as an adult, I saw divorce become more commonplace, then almost a rite of passage. Today it would appear that many -- particularly in the black community -- have dispensed with marriage altogether.

But as a black woman, I have witnessed the outrage of girlfriends when the ex failed to show up for his weekend with the kids, and I've seen the disappointment of children who missed having a dad around. Having enjoyed a close relationship with my own father, I made a conscious decision that I wanted a husband, not a live-in boyfriend and not a "baby's daddy," when it came my time to mate and marry. My time never came. For years, I wondered why not. And then some 12-year-olds enlightened me.

"Marriage is for white people."

That's what one of my students told me some years back when I taught a career exploration class for sixth-graders at an elementary school in Southeast Washington. I was pleasantly surprised when the boys in the class stated that being a good father was a very important goal to them, more meaningful than making money or having a fancy title.

"That's wonderful!" I told my class. "I think I'll invite some couples in to talk about being married and rearing children."

"Oh, no," objected one student. "We're not interested in the part about marriage. Only about how to be good fathers."

And that's when the other boy chimed in, speaking as if the words left a nasty taste in his mouth: "Marriage is for white people."

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; News/Current Events; Philosophy
KEYWORDS: blackfamily; education; marriage; people; racist; racists; white
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To: cgbg

You said -- "imho within two generations there would be a major turnaround in the black "underclass" if this policy were "adopted". :-)"

Yeah, in two generations the gay population will have all the babies that they need...

Regards,
Star Traveler


101 posted on 03/26/2006 4:42:18 AM PST by Star Traveler
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To: Crackingham

The trend is changing and I see a lot of white girls having children and not marrying the father. They seem to be lowering their expectations like black women have been doing for decades. I call it the bastardization of America.


102 posted on 03/26/2006 4:42:48 AM PST by LoudRepublicangirl (loudrepublicangirl)
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To: Crackingham

This article says it all about people who won't achieve success because they're so misguided.

I have a brother with a 12 yr old son, and he's very involved with helping out with soccer practice. He spends a lot of time with the boy, who is a great kid.

BTTT


103 posted on 03/26/2006 4:47:13 AM PST by Dr. Scarpetta (There's always a reason to choose life.)
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To: Calpernia
You see pictures of Jesus in your church? He’s a white man isn’t he? But let me tell you prophet Mohamed, peace be unto him, was a black man just like me and you. He understood us. And he set down a way of life for us in the Quran.”

Very interesting...

104 posted on 03/26/2006 4:50:33 AM PST by Dr. Scarpetta (There's always a reason to choose life.)
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To: Crackingham
Direct result of growing up in a welfare environment. Racist from the cradle due to a check from the government.
105 posted on 03/26/2006 4:52:41 AM PST by DocRock
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To: Crackingham

Dc kids are racist


106 posted on 03/26/2006 4:55:00 AM PST by bert (K.E. N.P. Slay Pinch)
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To: Crackingham

So to summarize the boy who said, 'Marriage Is for White People'


We don't want to do anything that makes them successful. We just want reparations.


107 posted on 03/26/2006 4:59:00 AM PST by festus (The constitution may be flawed but its a whole lot better than what we have now.)
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To: NonValueAdded
Yes indeed! When the Government steps in the male steps out as he is no longer required. Every feminists dream. It would be fun to dig that paper out and see just how prescient it was. You can bet that it's not discussed in any black studies course, even at Harvard.
108 posted on 03/26/2006 5:03:40 AM PST by Jimmy Valentine's brother (Crush Code Pink, see them driven before you and hear the lamentation of the womyn)
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To: BunnySlippers
"Marriage is for white people."

Like staying out of jail and making good grades.

109 posted on 03/26/2006 5:07:30 AM PST by arthurus (IL)
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To: LWalk18

The statements are not the same but they are complementary. Who says A must say B and all that.


110 posted on 03/26/2006 5:09:30 AM PST by arthurus (IL)
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To: Lancey Howard
"Thank the Democrats and their "Ingrate Society" for this."

It would be naive to believe that this is an accident. The family is the basic building block of society, if you destroy the family you have only individuals to worry about (from a leaders perspective).

Top down authority is then umchallenged by any cohesive organic unit.

BTW, it's also the rational behind the attack on Christianity, the promotion of Gay sex, and of course; abortion.

We now have the "right" to bust a nut anywhere, anyhow, and anywhen we want, but freedom of speech: that needs strict regualtion, you have to register w/ the authorities for permission first.

111 posted on 03/26/2006 5:19:00 AM PST by Pietro
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To: texasbluebell
We're well on the way to seeing the dissolution of the family, but that's exactly what the socialists are after.

The war against Genesis...

112 posted on 03/26/2006 5:20:18 AM PST by Sir Francis Dashwood (LET'S ROLL!)
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To: Crackingham

The author points out that marriage among blacks was more prevalent during slavery and immediately afterward than it is today -- due to the commencement of a decline in Black marriage rates commencing in the 1960's. Sad but true, and reminds us all of the eveil effect of Sixties counterculture and liberal politics and policies. Perhaps reparations aren't justified after all.


113 posted on 03/26/2006 5:21:00 AM PST by Viet Vet in Augusta GA
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To: Pietro; Viet Vet in Augusta GA
Pietro: ...it's also the rational behind the attack on Christianity, the promotion of Gay sex, and of course; abortion.

Viet Vet in Augusta GA: Sad but true, and reminds us all of the eveil effect of Sixties counterculture and liberal politics and policies.

The war against Genesis...

114 posted on 03/26/2006 5:26:34 AM PST by Sir Francis Dashwood (LET'S ROLL!)
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To: onedoug

"Bush's fault, no doubt."

Isn't this automatic response to everything getting a little shopworn?


115 posted on 03/26/2006 5:27:28 AM PST by billhilly (The Democrat symbol is no longer the donkey, it's a strait Jacket.)
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To: Crackingham

Bump


116 posted on 03/26/2006 5:29:41 AM PST by sport
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To: dfwgator
"The Great Society" - The 'gift' that just keeps giving.

That's exactly as I see it! LBJ did great disservice to America that most Americans don't see (or refuse to acknowledge)...

117 posted on 03/26/2006 5:30:07 AM PST by eeriegeno
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To: 4U2OUI

"The article states there is a problem. What is the solution?"

Do you take this man/woman........?


118 posted on 03/26/2006 5:34:13 AM PST by billhilly (The Democrat symbol is no longer the donkey, it's a strait Jacket.)
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To: Calpernia

You said -- "After listening to this “sales pitch”, it is easy to see that Islamic outreach in the United States is targeting this segment of the population. "

They need their baby factories. It looks like they're getting them.

Regards
Star Traveler


119 posted on 03/26/2006 5:36:52 AM PST by Star Traveler
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To: nightdriver
the gub'mnt did more harm than good with their socialistic programs

Since that was their intent I guess they were successful.

120 posted on 03/26/2006 5:41:45 AM PST by ASA Vet (If fences don't work, tear down the one around the White House.)
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