Being childless and having abortions are from the same root: selfishness. Period, end of story. If you could have, but do not have, kids, why waste the oxygen? I know this is harsh, but...
My personal recommendation is if you want kids, do it young. My wife passed when I was 45, she had a son by a previous marriage, but we never had any together, and I'm not close with her son at all.
Now, at 50, I very much regret not having any.
And still deeply miss her.
My wife and I have been married for 6 years now and do not have children because we are trying to finish college.
Meanwhile our siblings have children but are uneducated and struggle to provide for them. We are both 28 and feel that we still have time however we do find ourselves isolated at times by our parents who think we are weird for being married so long without children.
I can relate to this article. We often ponder about having children but have zero desire to do so right now.
If we do have children we want to be able to provide the best for them that we can therefore finishing college is a must!
Some couples feel happy being with each other and finding their mutual company fulfilling. Have kids changes everything and you have to always put them ahead of each other. For some husbands and wives its too big a hassle.
This fits right in with the ABA model divorce code which evisions children as a MERE ACCESSORY to marriage. In other words marriage is only a means of ADULT behavior.
Why is this important? Because this fits in with homosexual marriage advocated by the ABA and other groups. As long as marriage is tied as an institution raising children then there will never be viability to homosexual marriage.
This article is nothing but propaganda since the childless couple described is acting as AUNT AND UNCLE and at any time could subsitute for mother and father without being notice.
Homosexuals deride normal people as "breeders", a check of the author of this article would probably reveal support for the homo-agenda.
Goebles would be proud.
To all the people calling these folks "selfish":
Do you think married people who don't want children should have them???
Stop and think for a moment.
To do:
1. knock up girlfriend....
I want to take part in this discussion somehow, but I don't like the tone of these childless people in this article that think they are somehow special or left out of life and need a support group. It's just one of many choices in life, and whether you are the odd-man out because of your child-status depends on the age and your circle of friends.
My new husband and I are in no hurry to have children. We like children, but aren't sure right now that we should have them now... we married late, I am the 'she' and I am 37. We have much we'd like to do in life, for the next year or two we'd like to spend our summers horseback riding and for now, children would interfere with much of it. It's more complicated than that, certainly, but we just aren't drawn to parenthood, and don't know if we ever will be.
My best childhood friend, same age, just had her first baby. In our circle of friends, she is more the odd man out right now if anyone, because most of our friends with children did babies years ago and theirs are half-grown. I can see that for the next several years, we may not have a lot in common. But most of my other friendships adapted to new children, and if this one also can, it will.
I was frustrated for a while that I had no time for all my little projects and hobbies. After a while, it dawned on me that the kids are more challenging and rewarding than anything else I will ever do.
Most people without kids simply can't relate. They see the time demands and constraints of children to be heinous, even on people other than themselves.
But the older I get, the more I feel my own mortality, the more I realize that time spent on myself is more of a necessity than an entitlement or priviledge. And spending too much time on myself is just vanity, a waste that neither makes me nor anyone else happy.
I was frustrated for a while that I had no time for all my little projects and hobbies. After a while, it dawned on me that the kids are more challenging and rewarding than anything else I will ever do.
Most people without kids simply can't relate. They see the time demands and constraints of children to be heinous, even on people other than themselves.
But the older I get, the more I feel my own mortality, the more I realize that time spent on myself is more of a necessity than an entitlement or priviledge. And spending too much time on myself is just vanity, a waste that neither makes me nor anyone else happy.
I have a daughter who is 36 and childless. I think it is a very good decision. She does not have the temperament to be a GOOD mother. She's a pretty emotional person, and her hubby was adopted. Neither want children, each for their own reasons. They are not selfish. They know themselves well.
I've never felt the desire to have children. It's not because of career or parties or money or anything like that, it's because I just plain don't like kids. If I ever did have one though I'd raise it right... homeschooled or private schooled, no TV, lots of outdoor play, etc.
Adoption...I imagine as wars and natural disasters increase there are and will be many young children in need of decent homes...and loving parents....
I have no problem with people who want to be childless. Honestly, there are some people who should just not have children. I only get mad at people who assume that all children are little monsters. In one restaurant years ago a lady saw my 8 month old son at our table and loudly complained about "not another baby". Except for a few giggles from him that had other customers smiling he was very well behaved.
I feel sorry for these selfish people.
And the beat goes on ...
That's great that they aren't going to have children just to have children, but then the man assumes that the fathers he knows thinks he's the lucky one, and the woman wants a party for not investing herself in the next generation. Some greyhounds are better off, though, and that's to their credit.
I know a couple who choose to remain childless; they are politically conservative.
If you want life to always be "all about you," don't have kids. I am so glad my life is not all about me.