And I'll lay money that he voted for Ketchup Boy and My Little Pony.
Just damn.
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Posted on 11/05/2004 11:52:42 AM PST by iheartusa
There is an unspoken taboo in our society where if you admit that having kids wasn't quite what you thought it would be and that if you could do it all over again that you would have chosen NOT to have kids, that you are a monster, an evil, despicable monster. The truth is a large percentage of parents HATE being parents. They will never say it out loud and they can't even admit that to themselves because "only an evil demon" would come to that conclusion, they think. However, underneath it all, underneath all the B.S. is the truth that we all know: Children are overrated. For every precious moment where the little brat does something special, there are 1,000 moments where they drive you crazy. They literally tear your life upside down. Marriage, sex life, your wives appearance, your social life, the list goes on and on and on. Oh yeah, the worst part is yet to come - the teenage years. I could write volumes on this subject. The reason people have children is because of this unwritten societal norm where the standard is to get married and immediately begin to produce offspring because "that's the thing to do". Here's another fact for you if you're interested in the subject: the highest points of martial satisfaction are: 1) after the kids leave and 2) before the kids were born. Look it up, it's true.
I decided not to have kids or a wife... And haven't regretted it one bit!!! I look at all my sorry faced friends straining to make ends meet, having the endless honey do lists, soccer games, Dr bills, bitching, whinny little brats, debt up their asses!!.....and me....well I focused on work and saving money and have no debt, date all different kinds of women, no strings attached, buying a brand new custom house that my friends and family can only dream about, and will be able to retire at 45..... Yea, I may grow up old and have no one but look....most of you will be divorced and so broke after raising kids, alimony, child support, kids college...that you will have nothing to show for it when you are 65 and still have to work till your are dead......sorry thats reality. My relatives have given up asking. They know better. Then someone always pulls me aside and says, "I would love to have your life".
I think most people end up having kids because 1) They're too stupid to know how to use birth control properly and/or 2) They have an idealistic, completely unrealistic vision of what parenthood entails. People imagine dressing their daughter in pretty clothes, or playing catch with their son. They don't think about being awoken at 2 a.m. by a sick, screaming kid who just threw up all over the bed, and who doesn't give a shit that you have to get up for work in four hours. They don't think about the mortgage company threatening to foreclose, or the electricity being shut off, because the husband can't pay all the bills on one income. More people should think about these things, and fewer people should be having children. Parenthood should be left to those few couples who are willing to take the good with the bad.
NoMarriage.com manual will help you determine if you are ready and want to have children in the near future.
Frankly, I think society is lucky this guy didn't have any kids.
Gee, now why would such a thing be considered 'taboo'? Perhaps becuase you are stating that you wished your children DID NOT EXIST???? What an a**hole!
i've never even heard of any parent with the attitude he describes. What a fringe type!
Be fruitful and multiply! Do your bit to carry on the human race. The frightening thing is that I know a lot of liberals who have this attitude -- they don't particularly care if they have a family or not and would rather just go on with their "sex in the city" promiscuous lives without a care or responsibility.
As somebody who was raised in an abusive household, I personally feel that people who don't want children should not have them.
But that entails personal responsability and paying attention to details, and most people are too stupid.
The director of a crisis pregnancy center told me that he's never spoken to woman who changed her mind about abortion and regretted having her baby, but he's seen countless women devasted by abortion.
You're right. I think if people really feel this strongly that they despise children, society and especially the children they could have had are much, much, much better off.
He probably got brutally rejected so many times that he's given up, and is just trying to make an excuse. That, and his immense selfishness overrides all else in his life.
The only people who are happy being alone are the ones who need to be unhappy in order to be happy.
The most interesting aspect of his musings is the omission that had his parents followed his advice he would not be here to criticize them and experience the rapture of being childless.
You really don't have to use much imagination to wonder what kind of child this guy was.
Three children and twenty-five years later, my husband and I would not change a thing. We have the most wonderful life and we could never imagine not having our children.
We live in Santa Barbara County and we know many people our age who do not have children. We feel so bad for them. They have no idea what joy they missed.
he promised never to have a wife or kids. bet the females of the world are in mourning over hearing that!
guy is probably a michael moore clone.
I wonder how many women this guy knocked up and didn't mind them having abortions?
I'd say about 10% of the population.
As for myself, my little girl had a stomach virus last week and threw up all over me. I stayed up with her most of the night and went to work on almost no sleep.
And I wouldn't trade those five sleepless hours with my little girl in my arms for all the gold in Ft. Knox.
I think alot of people feel this way and I do think that some people who have children shouldn't have children and that many have children for the absolute wrong reasons.
Not me!. I have a kid and I don't regret it at all. AND I want more. I was married and I regretted it. Not because I don't like to be married, but the guy is a jerk. I would remarry again.
And I'll lay money that he voted for Ketchup Boy and My Little Pony.
Just damn.
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Not many. They don't procreate. Ü
Who cares what this bitter guy thinks? Really.
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