Posted on 11/20/2012 9:21:01 PM PST by John Leland 1789
Most of today’s citizens don’t want any constraints upon themselves especially in the area of sex; however, whatever government does, God still holds everyone to a very high standard: all sex outside of a marriage relationship is sinful and will be faced one day. Apart from God’s judgment, adultery can result in bastard babies, broken marriages, blasted careers, and baneful diseases.
Adultery seems to be too much pain for so little gain! I wonder if General Patraeus thinks his roll in the hay was worth the destruction of his reputation, career, and maybe his marriage.
God has not rescinded the Old Testament law forbidding adultery. In fact, it was strengthened when Christ commanded, “But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). He further said, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery” (Matthew 5:32).”
Apart from the Bible command, there are social reasons to prohibit adultery. One reason is because of paternity of children. If a wife is a cheat, how can a husband be sure that a child born to her is truly his? He should not be financially responsible for another man’s child. He also wants his estate to go to his own not another man’s child. Few sane people would disagree that sexual immorality has driven society to the cusp of the abyss, and it is in the best interest of everyone to have decent, caring, unselfish, and vow-keeping marriages.
Adultery is so serious, it is the only cause God permits as an excuse for breaking up of a marriage. It should be much more difficult to obtain a divorce, thereby forcing couples to solve their problems rather than breaking up a small civilization (the home) because of “irreconcilable differences” or “She’s a bad cook,” or “He keeps me awake with his snoring.”
I think it is astounding that any man would go to bed with a female not his own wife. When a man seeks sex from another woman, he often gets far more than he expected–such as syphilis and gonorrhea or even AIDS.
It is time for each state to reinstate adultery as a crime! Those who glibly say, “You can’t legislate morality” are “know nothings” since every law legislates someone’s morality. And yes, such a law would not be possible to enforce, but it would be a crime for anyone to have unmarried sex. That fact alone would keep some people from crossing the line into law-breaking.
With such a law it would make it easy to prohibit or prosecute those who would promote immorality especially to children, such as the Planned Parenthood pamphlet that was given to school children: “Sex is fun, and joyful…and it comes in all types and styles, all of which are OK. Do what gives pleasure and enjoy what gives pleasure and ask for what gives pleasure. Don’t rob yourself of joy by focusing on old-fashioned ideas about what’s ‘normal’ or ‘nice.’ Just communicate and enjoy.” States should make such jerks criminals for corrupting children and promoting sexual immorality.
Adultery is already an offense in the U.S. military but it is not forbidden by the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ). Adultery is usually prosecuted, if at all, under the General Article that “prohibits conduct which is of a nature to bring discredit upon the armed forces, or conduct which is prejudicial to good order and discipline.” Prosecution usually depends on the circumstances such as rank, publicity, background, and other considerations.
When General David Patraeus, although retired, admitted to adultery with his female biographer it brought discredit upon the military and himself. The knowledge by the world that he broke his vows to his wife of 35 years produced a loss of confidence in his military and intelligence capabilities. He destroyed his life, his career, and maybe his marriage because of adultery. Maybe a strict prohibition against adultery would have helped the general keep his zipper up. Loss of rank, retirement and brig time might also help with that. The consequences to society from adultery are great enough to add adultery as a crime in each state and use it as a tool against married people who break their marriage vows, unmarried people who live like barnyard animals, and politicians who expose themselves to blackmail by illicit sex.
The status of morality in America is shameful, shameless, and sad and it reinforces Madison’s statement in the Federalist Papers: “If men were angels, no government would be necessary.” We are not angels so some laws are necessary. And to critics who tell us that it is no one’s business what consenting adults do, we say, “Nonsense.” We already have laws restricting what consenting adults can do: drug use, watching child porn, conspiracy to commit crimes, bestiality, sadomasochism, suicide pacts, sodomy (in some states), etc.
Civilized nations have always accepted the Ten Commandments as part of their criminal code and if it should be illegal to steal and kill, why not restore adultery as a crime?
According to Plutarch, Demosthenes declared, “We keep mistresses for our pleasures, concubines for constant attendance, and wives to bear us legitimate children and to be our faithful housekeepers. Yet, because of the wrong done to the husband only, the Athenian lawgiver Solon allowed any man to kill an adulterer whom he had taken in the act.”
Killing a wife’s lover may be a little extreme but it was legal in Texas until 1974 to kill your wife and her lover if caught in the act of adultery. Many Texas and other state juries would still be reluctant to send a man to jail for “defending his honor” by killing his wife’s lover.
Whatever state governments do, adultery is still sin and making it a crime would label it as harmful to everyone.
(Dr. Don Boys is a former member of the Indiana House of Representatives, author of 14 books, frequent guest on television and radio talk shows, and wrote columns for USA Today for 8 years. Three years ago, the second edition of ISLAM: America's Trojan Horse! was published, and his new eBook, The God Haters is available for $9.99 from www.thegodhaters.com. These columns go to newspapers, magazines, television, and radio stations. His other web sites are www.cstnews.com and www.Muslimfact.com. Contact Don for an interview or talk show.)
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I heard a sermon on adultery once and the Pastor ticked off a list of consequences a mile long. It was enough to make many a man squirm in his seat
It’s pretty sad when people try making up excuses for adultery, when God figured it was never okay.
Didn't hurt Jimmy Carter.
“How can I trust a man if his wife cannot?” - Harry Truman
“If your wife can’t trust you, why should I?” - Ross Perot
When he was still running EDS, Perot would run a report that would cross-reference employees of the opposite sex who had the same address, but weren’t married to each other. It was also known that if you stayed in a corporate apartment, cohabitation was a big no-no. The maids were instructed to look for any evidence of such activity.
my question as always. what happens when one partner won’t offer any sort of sex for years upon years? Divorce? Even the Catholic church allows annulments under such conditions.
my question as always. what happens when one partner won’t offer any sort of sex for years upon years? Divorce? Even the Catholic church allows annulments under such conditions.
this is a two way street...my friend/co worker confided to me that her husband who is 60 is impotent...and she's afraid to suggest seeing a dr or using youknowwhat.....she's very upset about it because she is in very good shape and looks 20 yrs younger than her age of 60....
Please tell your friend, that marriage isn’t about “sex”, but about love, and fidelity to the oath taken for life.
I buried my beloved last spring, after 10 years of Parkinson’s Plus symptoms that seriously impaired not only our sexual relationship, but our emotional relationship.
Does that give me a pass on “youknowwhat”? I have no answer.
All I know is that vows are to be taken seriously, or else there is no meaning to marriage, other than an expensive party, trip, and accumulating stuff to impress the peer group.
I hope your friend/co worker has enough dignity to keep her personal life challenges out of the workplace, and that you have enough sense to politely tell her that such “sharing” is inappropriate in a work environment.
I managed, and she can too, and she should be kept at a distance, because she is already crossing the boundary of proper work ethics by discussing such a personal matter with you, no matter what her age.
That said, having traveled miles in her moccasins, I know the pain, the loneliness, and the urge to reach out for comfort and support.
The workplace is not the right environment, and you are not qualified.
Get her some phone numbers of skilled counselors. and tell her tt officemates are not the best at helping in such personal situations.
Wondering if you get my drift?
Might be wise to document things, and have witnesses for future encounters.
first, if you are having problems with one woman already, why do men think the solution to this is another woman?!? like any oter woman isn’t going to have their own problems, or that the dynamic between you two will never develop major problems??
second, if one can learn anything from affairs, they always end badly, and it always gets found out. and if it ends badly, often someone talks. to think you can pull off an affair shows just how stupid you are, and that you will fail at some point, and then everything’s over. and let’s not forget diseases. one in five adults has herpes. if they’re cheating with you who else have they cheated with. explain to your non-cheating spouse how they got herpes.
if you have internet and working hands, and feel the need to “cheat”, at least don’t ruin everyone’s lives around you.
Obama has gay sex every week (whenever he goes ‘golfing’).
That’s adultery too.
I realize you didn`t write the headline, John, but..
Really? “Bastard” babies?
I`ve always had a problem with labeling the children from out-of-wedlock sex. The babies are the innocent parties here. How about “illegitimate” or “bastard” parents?
I’m glad to hear that you know that the man who delivered this message is guilty of the sin that he spoke out against. After all, if one, five or ten pastors sin they are all collectively guilty. Don’t speak out against sin, after all, we’re all collectively guilty. If we don’t call it sin and outline the consequences, then I guess it’s okay. For the record, it sounds like the preacher didn’t condemn an individual, he just outlined the consequences. Do you think there are none?
It can also result in alliteration.
That is not correct. If a marriage was never consummated, then it is not a sacramental marriage, and can be recognized as "null." This is true, btw, if the "kind of sex" was contraceptive - because this is contra bonum prolis, and therefore the assocation was not a sacramental marriage. If either party never intended the association to be permanent or exclusive, then it is not a sacramental marriage.
If medical or psychological problems arise, resulting in sexual dysfunction, then medical or psychological help is in order. However, if the problems cannot be resolved - just as with any other medical or relationship problems - this is where you take "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse" seriously, or you're an oathbreaker.
What bearing would that have on the truth of what the pastor spoke? It is not a Church of holy men, it's a Holy Church of sinners. The sober don't really need AA, do they?
We have adultry, queerdom, partner swapping, group sex, teaching children how to wear condoms, teaching children the mechanisms of queerdom sex, etc. The sex laws in this country are written for barnyard animals. We are not an upright nation anymore. We have lowered ourselves to the barnyard droppings. And we expect God’s grace?
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