Posted on 10/04/2003 10:57:31 AM PDT by demlosers
WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.
Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.
The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a "gift from God".
And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: "Be honest girls, that's what we do".
Her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled "outrageous" by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.
Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100 million listeners every week to her radio show.
Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.
In her latest book, she writes: "If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"
Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks.
"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.
"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."
The Australian
LADIES: If it were absolutely true that sex on request:
1. Bonds your husband more to you.
2. Significantly reduces probability of infidelity
3. Certainly Enhances the home atmosphere (relational) would you be willing to have sex on request?
Hmmmm....interesting question. I don't "have sex" with my husband to keep him faithful to me. "WE" do this because we love each other. I guess everything else is a good consequence, but I never think about that. I only think about how much I love and adore him. He is a major babe. I'm very attracted to him, can't keep my hands off of him, love him more than anything in the whole entire universe, love him more everyday, etc. We’ve had some terrible, hard times and by the grace of God we are still together. When I hated his guts, it was that big word “commitment” and “for the sake of the children” that kept me in this marriage. Every time we make it through a horrible period and after we cross the deep painful valley together, our love for each other becomes stronger. Funny how that works. I guess God blesses you for hanging in there or something. (Not trying to make people feel bad for getting divorced. Sometimes it's needed).
We don't keep it from each other to gain something we want. It's not a game and it's not a toy to use to manipulate someone. That's not right. The wife is to phileo her husband and he is to agape her. I hope we love and live as God would have it.
Most of my friends keep sex from their husbands and give it when they want something. I think this is very cruel, unkind, unloving behavior.
Marital sex is awesome and I feel sad when people aren't experiencing Song of Solomon.
"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights."
I would say, yes you do. Granted it is polite to give each other "privacy" when we go to the bathroom for example, LOL, however my body is his and his body is mine. We are one. We are to leave and cleave. Besides, once you have a baby together and he nurses you back to health, the privacy thing gets shot to hell and you both don’t really care any more. LOL Nothing is more humbling then not being able to get yourself to a bathroom after a C-section and having your knight in shinning armor walk you there and pull your underwear back up. God love him. I think I'll get off and go hug his neck.
Many blessings.
Funny thing, it usually does.
It's the same with raising children. A parent doesn't wait to be loved by their child before they show love to the child. A parent loves the child first, and the child learns how to love from the parent. Like anything else, it becomes a habit.
My advice to women is to be more generous and loving with their husbands. And to do it without thinking of the circumstances or consequences. Just do it.
It's surprising how that love will increase as it's returned.
But it is disappointing that you're getting so many "no's." Real romance revels in the differences between the sexes.
Women should turn off "The View" and instead watch Marlene Dietrich follow Gary Cooper into the Moroccan desert; or Alan Ladd kiss the blind eyes of Deborah Kerr as they exchange marriage vows before they're shot in "Thunder in the East;" or Ingrid Bergman nuzzle Cary Grant while he's on the phone to the FBI in "Notorious."
Life's short and we can all be more creative if we half try.
Clear as mud?
Keep his stomach full and his bleep empty.
In the case of my nephew, I have never seen her prepare a meal, do a load of laundry and she sleeps in until 10am. Her two boys usually give a yell up the stairs around then to wake her up.This is an educated woman, not some welfare mother in the inner city. Thankfully, she is returning to the workplace this year.
Did it include instructions for how to accomplish that on demand?
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