OK, dear it might fix my headache

The Australian ^ | October 3, 2003 | George Gordon

[demlosers]

WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.

Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.

The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a "gift from God".

And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: "Be honest girls, that's what we do".

Her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled "outrageous" by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.

Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100 million listeners every week to her radio show.

Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.

In her latest book, she writes: "If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"

Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks.

"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."

The Australian

[Dog Gone]

This should be an interesting thread.

[G.Mason]

"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.

Lay down and shut up!

I never get to say that in my house.

It felt good.

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[fqued]

Actually, a thread dealing with the book and a different complainer came out a few days ago.
Yes, it was an interesting thread.

[Dog Gone]

Bummer, I missed it.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

I pretty much agree with this - women bitch all the time because they are home with their own children - husbands battle traffic, and demanding jobs to support the women so they CAN stay home and raise their children. They come home to caotic homes, whining wives, and no sex.

The liberal feminists have convinced women that sex is demeaning and should only be offered to husbands as a reward for doing as they say.

Sex should be a major part of a marriage, not end once the kids are born.

[Camel Joe]

Thats not quite how the good Doctor put it. I've heard her remarks on this subject while she spoke with a caller who complained that her husband became upset when she wasn't "in the mood". Dr. Laura told her not to be suprised when he left her for a woman who was more often in the mood.

[independentmind]

At least two different versions of this story have already been posted here. Just one more example of a self-proclaimed expert stating what should be painfully obvious--and what everyone's grandmother knew by the time she was married.

[NativeNewYorker]

Victorian era marriage manuals encouraged not-in-the-mood wives to noisily and aromatically use the toilet right before going to bed, as a deterrent to amorous hubbies.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

Exactly - and look how the divorce rate has risen since that time.

If we took a poll here I'm sure it would prove that few married men are having sex more than once or twice a month - and some, sadly, would say "wow, they get it THAT often?"

[Centurion2000]

"If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"

Bears repeating.

[NativeNewYorker]

more than once or twice a month

TYPO. You meant "...once or twice a year...", right? :)

[Cicero]

I'll probably get whacked for this, though I'm not sure if by the men or the women. But there IS an elementary difference between men and women. Women, as the Roman elegiac poets pointed out and any sexual therapist will tell you, are ready any time. Men are only ready when they're ready.

When Juno and Jupiter had an argument about this, Juno said it proves that women are superior.

[Dog Gone]

I vaguely recall having sex decades ago before I got married.

[independentmind]

If we took a poll here I'm sure it would prove that few married men are having sex more than once or twice a month - and some, sadly, would say "wow, they get it THAT often?"

Ahem. Maybe that's because they spend too much time on the internet.:)

Seriously, I have learned that people who frequent internet discussion groups are not necessarily representative of the general population.

I have to say, though, that I was more than somewhat surprised by a conversation I had with a young woman who works in my office. It seems that several of the young married women who work there have no physical relations with their husbands, and have no qualms about discussing it. Pitiful.

[StriperSniper]

OK, dear it might fix my headache

I once had a girlfriend that said that....ahh....I was the cure for her when she had a sore throat. :)

[Lizavetta]

Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.

Typical response from a feMEnazi. Me, me, me, and last but not least, me. This underscores one of the biggest problems with today's generation of women; it's all about them and their fatigue, their rights, blah, blah, blah. Women have a right to be tired? How quickly the feMEnists bitch about men whey they're tired and don't want to do things that women want.

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."

No she isn't. I've heard countless calls to her program from women who didn't want to, married to men who did. She does not advocate chattelhood or doormat status to his sex drive. She does advocate showing love to your man because YOU LOVE YOUR MAN; one's treatment of one's spouse should not be dependent on something as irrational and changing as one's mood. I suspect this article dragged out the most provocative quotes without the supporting material to keep it in context.

[stevem]

...and attracts 100 million listeners every week

This seems like an exaggeration.

WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand

Geez, if I thought this wasn't part of the job description, I doubt I ever would have made it to the altar. Aren't they also duty bound to dress in sexy clothing, keep their hair nice, and NEVER EVER wear flannel ANYTHING to bed?

I think there's also a rule around here somewhere that says when you are getting ready to go to a wedding and reception or some similar affair, the lass is NOT supposed to say, "You're not planning to wear that are you?"

[P.O.E.]

Ms. Bergat said, ".....declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim"

Maybe that's what Ms Bergat thinks of her own relationships with men, but for her to try and project such a thought on others is a sad commentary on her.