My informal survey is getting some interesting responses.
It was a hypothetical that said, "If you get X would you do Y?"
I think you answer "no." You had reasons for it, and noble reasons, but I think it was a "no."
Informally, the survey is getting very few "yeses." (That doesn't look right...how do you spell yeses..yesssess....my preciousssss.)
Dr Laura in the piece above said that ladies should grant sex on request to their husbands. No questions asked. That's the basis of the informaal survey.
It looks like she's not getting many takers.
Dr. Laura is a therapist. This is standard therapist advice, and it's generally correct. You can't change anyone else; you can only change yourself and hope your changes effect the other person positively.
Funny thing, it usually does.
It's the same with raising children. A parent doesn't wait to be loved by their child before they show love to the child. A parent loves the child first, and the child learns how to love from the parent. Like anything else, it becomes a habit.
My advice to women is to be more generous and loving with their husbands. And to do it without thinking of the circumstances or consequences. Just do it.
It's surprising how that love will increase as it's returned.
But it is disappointing that you're getting so many "no's." Real romance revels in the differences between the sexes.
Women should turn off "The View" and instead watch Marlene Dietrich follow Gary Cooper into the Moroccan desert; or Alan Ladd kiss the blind eyes of Deborah Kerr as they exchange marriage vows before they're shot in "Thunder in the East;" or Ingrid Bergman nuzzle Cary Grant while he's on the phone to the FBI in "Notorious."
Life's short and we can all be more creative if we half try.
I'm sorry I didn't answer yes or no. LOL Now I understand what you were looking for. The answer is "yes" I would on request, however, I would not answer yes because of the "motives" you listed. I would answer yes because I'm crazy about him, not to help our home life or keep him attached to me, etc.
Clear as mud?