OK, dear it might fix my headache

The Australian ^ | October 3, 2003 | George Gordon

[SpookBrat]

I haven't had a chance to read the whole thread yet, but I thought I would answer your ping while I had the time.

LADIES: If it were absolutely true that sex on request:
1. Bonds your husband more to you.
2. Significantly reduces probability of infidelity
3. Certainly Enhances the home atmosphere (relational) would you be willing to have sex on request?

Hmmmm....interesting question. I don't "have sex" with my husband to keep him faithful to me. "WE" do this because we love each other. I guess everything else is a good consequence, but I never think about that. I only think about how much I love and adore him. He is a major babe. I'm very attracted to him, can't keep my hands off of him, love him more than anything in the whole entire universe, love him more everyday, etc. We’ve had some terrible, hard times and by the grace of God we are still together. When I hated his guts, it was that big word “commitment” and “for the sake of the children” that kept me in this marriage. Every time we make it through a horrible period and after we cross the deep painful valley together, our love for each other becomes stronger. Funny how that works. I guess God blesses you for hanging in there or something. (Not trying to make people feel bad for getting divorced. Sometimes it's needed).

We don't keep it from each other to gain something we want. It's not a game and it's not a toy to use to manipulate someone. That's not right. The wife is to phileo her husband and he is to agape her. I hope we love and live as God would have it.

Most of my friends keep sex from their husbands and give it when they want something. I think this is very cruel, unkind, unloving behavior.

Marital sex is awesome and I feel sad when people aren't experiencing Song of Solomon.

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights."

I would say, yes you do. Granted it is polite to give each other "privacy" when we go to the bathroom for example, LOL, however my body is his and his body is mine. We are one. We are to leave and cleave. Besides, once you have a baby together and he nurses you back to health, the privacy thing gets shot to hell and you both don’t really care any more. LOL Nothing is more humbling then not being able to get yourself to a bathroom after a C-section and having your knight in shinning armor walk you there and pull your underwear back up. God love him. I think I'll get off and go hug his neck.

Many blessings.

[SpookBrat]

For crying out loud. What a sick book. What's the name of it so I'll be sure to never pick it up and buy it.

[RnMomof7]

A woman after my own heart:>))

[unixfox]

This would make a great stocking stuffer. 8-)

[xzins]

My informal survey is getting some interesting responses.

It was a hypothetical that said, "If you get X would you do Y?"

I think you answer "no." You had reasons for it, and noble reasons, but I think it was a "no."

Informally, the survey is getting very few "yeses." (That doesn't look right...how do you spell yeses..yesssess....my preciousssss.)

Dr Laura in the piece above said that ladies should grant sex on request to their husbands. No questions asked. That's the basis of the informaal survey.

It looks like she's not getting many takers.

[xzins]

I think you'd like my wife. She's the best God could have possibly selected for me.

As a high school math teacher who's heard every "no homework" excuse in the world, she has a sarcastic streak a mile long, and that's something that even gets turned on her pastor/husband every now and then. Our kids call it "the look." When she puts words to "the look"....OUCH! :>)

[OMalley]

LOL Im not sure which book its in..she gave me a few, but all the same author. Richard Taylor.

[OMalley]

great post....

[Dr. Eckleburg]

Dr. Laura is a therapist. This is standard therapist advice, and it's generally correct. You can't change anyone else; you can only change yourself and hope your changes effect the other person positively.

Funny thing, it usually does.

It's the same with raising children. A parent doesn't wait to be loved by their child before they show love to the child. A parent loves the child first, and the child learns how to love from the parent. Like anything else, it becomes a habit.

My advice to women is to be more generous and loving with their husbands. And to do it without thinking of the circumstances or consequences. Just do it.

It's surprising how that love will increase as it's returned.

But it is disappointing that you're getting so many "no's." Real romance revels in the differences between the sexes.

Women should turn off "The View" and instead watch Marlene Dietrich follow Gary Cooper into the Moroccan desert; or Alan Ladd kiss the blind eyes of Deborah Kerr as they exchange marriage vows before they're shot in "Thunder in the East;" or Ingrid Bergman nuzzle Cary Grant while he's on the phone to the FBI in "Notorious."

Life's short and we can all be more creative if we half try.

[It's me]

TMI = Too Much Information!

[SpookBrat]

I'm sorry I didn't answer yes or no. LOL Now I understand what you were looking for. The answer is "yes" I would on request, however, I would not answer yes because of the "motives" you listed. I would answer yes because I'm crazy about him, not to help our home life or keep him attached to me, etc.

Clear as mud?

[xzins]

A clear response AND a YES!!

You are among the few, the proud.....(the marines?)

In any case, you have a lucky husband.

[riri]

Some other freeper's grandmother, on a similar thread a while back, put it aptly.

Keep his stomach full and his bleep empty.

[SpookBrat]

I'm the lucky one. :)

[riri]

Wow. I understand your resentment. I have a nephew that has a similar circumstance. It is very frustrating. I don't understand women who just don't take pleasure in taking care of someone they supposedly love. I don't know how a woman can watch a man come home after being beat up all day and not have a meal prepared for him, or a clean home for him. Especially, if this man has provided for her and allowed her to stay home with her children, worry free.

In the case of my nephew, I have never seen her prepare a meal, do a load of laundry and she sleeps in until 10am. Her two boys usually give a yell up the stairs around then to wake her up.This is an educated woman, not some welfare mother in the inner city. Thankfully, she is returning to the workplace this year.

[Camel Joe]

Well put, and not overlooked in Dr. Laura's response to that particular caller. I also think that whether or not the wife is working outside the home has its place in the discussion as well.

[My Favorite Headache]

LOL...just found your ping here...and it is exactly what my screen name refers too..lolol.

[Old Professer]

It would be cheaper to buy them a cellphone and a small hammer.

[sonserae]

Dr. Laura does not have a PhD. in psychology. She has a PhD. in physiology. Big difference. She has no doctrid in psychology or psychiatry.

[JZdiablo]

Victorian era marriage manuals encouraged not-in-the-mood wives to noisily and aromatically use the toilet right before going to bed

Did it include instructions for how to accomplish that on demand?