You have an excellent point. I'm a 51 year old male, been divorced for 12 years, and right now, I'm finding it difficult to find a woman who isn't completely cynical and so emotionally damaged by the trainwrecks of previous relationships and/or marriage that they can even give me an even chance. I've spent a lot of time working through the issues, facing my own failures, and making the changes in attitude and understanding so that I can make another go of it. I want to.
Women my own age are either too set in their ways, have let themselves go physically to the point where they are unattractive, or are interested in only one thing. Add to that the gold-diggers, and it's difficult to find a good woman. I have tried to find a woman in the 35-35 range, knowing that there may be kids involved and not really minding that (I love kids), but I think my age puts them off. I am a young 51, look to be in my early 40's, and am not a fat slob. I can get dates, and often do, but I haven't found a woman who has a clue as to what constitutes a good relationship. They'd rather have a guy that treats them like dirt, cheats on them, and leaves them, than a guy like me who will treat her like a queen, love her like she was the only woman on earth, and will do what it takes to make things work, no matter what.
I know you're not kidding, but it seems so unbelievable. Why any woman would want the first scenerio when they could be blessed with the second is beyond me. Hold on nobdysfool, there are more wanna be queens out there then you think. I know, as I'm certainly treated like one at my home.
I know a girl who is so insecure, that she will only date the biggest losers. Guys who are drug addicts, can't even hold down a job at a gas station, etc.
It is sad what has happened to women your age and a little younger these days.
They will seek out a man just like you and seem like they have the same love and commitment.
I haven't figured out what happens, but they seem to be self-destructive. After finding the "perfect" mate years later some seem to not appreciate the love and commitment and then find the same kind of man and do it again. Because deep inside they really do want a good man like you.
If they stay self-absorbed and vain they will destroy the next relationship.
Perhaps some learn when they see they are very unhappy with the superficial attention of several men, but others become flirtatiously promiscuous and get unhappier and unhappier while at the same time maintaining an undetectable ( to most casual observers and the men they get interested in them) facade.
Those that don't recoginize wake-up calls end up giving up everything seeming held dear to them for their own vain (fleeting) pleasures.
It seems men are always seen as the ones that won't commit. And that would say after sex "that was fantastic I am not used to it being that good" and then make it clear they want someone else next.
The tables have turned and although I don't believe men should have sex just for sex's sake, women taking on the same trait is sad indeed. Anyone male or female who operates on that level does not have much self-respect.
Be careful.
Some women do become single because a man has treated them badly or does not love them anymore. But some leave relationships or marriages (or are forced out) because of their own selfish actions.
If you are lucky enough to find a woman who believes you are the man she was made for it may be a good idea to see how she treated the last man in her life. (No matter how sincere she seems if she starts treating you like that there's yer wake-up-call :>)
Some seem to go into the MAC-attack phase and never come out of it...