Posted on 07/05/2003 6:09:10 PM PDT by carlo3b
The "Oh no, not me" Male Complex!By Chef Carlo3b
NOT MUCH SEX IN THE CITY, or anywhere else for that matter if you are a maturing male, and experiencing some pretty common problems. For some men, being over 50, even if you are in great physical and mental health, can pose some really serious problems, and you may require the male equivalent of the 50,000 mile check-up.
The Problem
The "Oh no, not me" complex comes to mind! Contrary to popular belief, Men do not always think about sex, especially if it questions his own performance. Most men are, by nature, forbidden from thinking about sexual difficulties, and NEVER, any suggestion of a diminished capacity.To face what is the 3rd rail of masculinity, is to confront nature's call... the dreaded " I " word. Speaking of I, as in me, I would rather wrestle an Rabid Alligator than think about Impotence, or any variation of the squishy references to problems in the bedroom... But that doesn't change the facts.. and, it may be time to play with fire..
The Awakening
Most middle-aged men have begun to experience something equivalent to erectile dysfunction (ED). It isn't so bad if you think about it as a wake-up call, rather than a the distant sound of the male death rattle. It is in the worse case scenario, the inability of a man to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for his sexual needs or the needs of his partner.To suggest, or even worse, to discover, that you may not be, what you thought you were, (and probably never were to begin with.. DUH), is to admit you are reaching the end much quicker than you thought. Face it ..or deny it. Most men find it much safer to deny it.
Most guys start to experience this natural, evolutionary phenomenon, at some point in their lives, usually beginning around the age of 40. However, most men do not acknowledge it until it bites him on the ass. If you refuse to face it, the results are nearly always devastating, and the infamous slippery slope comes into play.. self doubt, lower expectations, refusal to engage in sex, and the true destruction of most relationships.. the total avoidance of intimacy for what is sadly, and subconsciously perceived as self preservation.
Have I got your attention yet...
Sounds pretty bad doesn't it? Avoiding the problem can be. Truth be known, it is not just bad, but this could be fatal. A life without sex or intimacy, is actually horrible for your health, physically, and mentally. Here is were it gets really interesting, This problem does not have to be end of the world, and this scenario, as serious as it is, can in most cases be easily averted.What in the heck is wrong with me...
Nothing is wrong with a man, or woman that have changes in their lives, on any or all levels. We have all been taught to recognized the ramifications of Female Menopause, but how often have we confronted with what is the equally as lifealtering as the Male equivalence of Menopause, clinically refereed to as Andropause. Androgen Deficiency, is the loss or decreasing levels of androgens, or testosterone.I do not intend to play Doctor here, (although I have played one on TV.. ha), however, a decrease in male hormones begins to create a physiological and chemical change in maturing males. This phenomenon, generally takes place between the ages of 40 and 55, although it can occur earlier or much later.
The most common symptoms of Androgen Deficiency, or, according to author Jed Diamond, in his book, "Male Menopause," he concluded, men experiencing this phase of life, "need longer to recover from injuries and illness, less endurance for physical activity, weight gain, thinning hair, sleep disturbances, irritability, and reduced interest in sex.."
Awareness, is the key to overcoming the natural injustices of life, and there are a milieu of other causes for many of the symptoms of sexual dysfunction, in the reverse order of causation;
TOP TEN REASONS
10) Fear of rejection
9) Physical limitations, stroke, handicap
8) Chronic tobacco use
7) Alcoholism, or frequent drinking habit
6) Prolonged drug addiction, cocaine, marijuana, hallucinogenics...
5) Illnesses requiring medication, i.e.: high blood pressure, prostate, heart conditions, diabetes.. etc
4) Stress
3) Depression
2) Physical condition, (weakness, lack of exercise, weight gain)And the #1 reason for hitting in a Sexual Slump... drum roll......
DIETYes, diet ranks at the top of the list of reasons most men can not achieve their sexual potential! In later chapters we will address how, and what you can eat, that can change your lives in the most dramatic fashions imaginable. Many of the most treatable conditions listed above can be altered by changing your eating habits. As and example, weight gain, which makes exercising so difficult. Atherosclerosis, the hardening of the arteries, caused by deposits of fatty substances, high cholesterol levels, platelets, cellular waste products, calcium and other substances build up in the inner lining of an artery inhibiting blood vessels and restricting blood flow..
Just avoiding cooking with animal fats, and switching to olive oil, can drastically raise your natural endorphins, which remove stress or pain, and change the condition of the blood flows to the extremities of your body, resulting in enhanced and prolonged erections... Ba da bing..
Did you know, that there are foods, such as natural aphrodisiacs, that stimulate the normal body functions, that have been used throughout history, to create high sexual interest in both women and men? Ba da boom
Any of this sound familiar?The Silver lining...
WHAT? Are you nuts? How can there be any SILVER LINING?
For most men, having discovered any of the symptoms as an early warning sign, can dissuade much of the long term destructive behaviors, and choices can be treated, corrected, and/or avoided, before they consume your relationships. Having been detected early, these common problems can be stopped in there tracts.Now what...
Having been made aware of the rules and red flags in the game, now is the time to take the ball and run with it. Lets get a handle on the problems and take the first step in solving them. Now with our help lets start to tackle, and remove the simplest roadblocks.Cooking now takes on a whole new world of fun, ...that is aside from holding your family and sex life together.. it tastes good too... blush.. smirk!
Copyright: Carlo3b, Morelli Publishing Inc.
It is a "GUY THING" for sure, but that is far from the devastation this problem has on a significant other, by destroying an otherwise loving relationship.. with doubt, shame, and sadness..
Whack off and stop worrying about it.
Pvssy is a double edged sword.
Why is it that male sexual health has to do with 'performance', while female sexual health is preoccupied with 'pleasure'?
You mean this is the cause of my diminished mental capacity???
Where do I go for treatment?
We (FReepers) have...Chef Carlo3b!
GOD Bless You Chef Carlo3b.
ARE THERE TEMPTATIONS LURKING IN TOMATOES? ...LET ME COUNT THE WAYS....
Tomatoes are by any definition, an authentic and reputable aphrodisiac. You don't have to be Italian (but it helps) to appreciate the true carnal prowess of this fruit... a ..er ..vegetable..
As part of the nightshade family, which includes potatoes and eggplants, tomatoes are enjoyed by almost every culture throughout the world with the possible exception of the orient.
Note to Guys; you really need to keep this fact in mind when wooing many Asian princesses.
As the story goes, tomatoes were originally a South American delicacy and were introduced to the world cultures, via the Spanish. At the time, most Europeans were not exactly enthusiastic tomatoes eaters until the French tried them, and began calling them “pommes d’amour”, apples of love. They believed that tomatoes carried powerful aphrodisiac qualities! However, it wasn't until the early 1900’s with the wave of Italian immigration that the tomato gained it's lofty place in the hearts of the people of the United States.
Associating food and prowess has been A link for centuries. Montezuma, Hippocrates, Casanova, felt food and sex were intimately entwined, and most every food from apples to zucchini has been considered to be a sexual stimulant, by one culture or another since Eve flipped an apple to Adam. Indulging in a night of real romance, starts with the intoxicating aroma of food.
Lets skip the small talk, and get down to the really important issues at hand, how can Guys utilize the tomato to Fire up Dolls?
Basil Habañeros Marinara Penne Pasta
A Latin Lovin Hot and Spicy Pasta
1) Heat oil in a large saucepan over medium heat.
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 1 medium onion, chopped
- 1 medium fresh Habañero pepper, chopped (Careful, you want to turn her on not burn her up)
- 2 to 3 garlic cloves, finely minced *(another powerful aphrodisiac)
- 2 (14 ounce) cans plum (Roma) tomatoes*, hand crushed, or diced, hard cores removed
- 1/2 cup fresh Basil leaves*, tightly rolled and sliced into thin ribbons (save some for a sprinkle)
- Salt and freshly ground pepper to taste
- 10 oz penne pasta, cooked al dente (medium firm)
- Parmesan Reggiano cheese. freshly grated
2) Add onions and pepper and cook until both are softened, about 4 to 5 minutes.
3) Add garlic and cook for 30 seconds.
4) Add tomatoes and cook over medium heat, uncovered, for 20 minutes.
5) Add basil and toss several times.
Remove from heat and serve immediately, add the basil and season to taste with salt and pepper, and freshly grated Parmesan Reggiano cheese.
CHARGE!!!!!!
*(another powerful aphrodisiac)
agreed ive been single for 2 1/2 years now and even though the im not sexually active the mental part of no intimacy is driving me nuts lol
Isn't this the part where you say," I"m not bad, I'm just drawn that way" (Jessica Rabbit from "who Framed Roger Rabbit").
Isn't this the part where you say," I"m not bad, I'm just drawn that way" (Jessica Rabbit from "who Framed Roger Rabbit").
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