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WHY DIVORCE IS SO PREVALENT: The #1 Answer To Society's #1 Problem
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Posted on 12/14/2001 3:21:12 PM PST by Dr. Octagon

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To: goodieD
All men certainly are not perfect, but what I've seen in my generation (tail-end boomer) and younger is that American women tend to be more immature than men. Hence their far higher rate of initiating divorce, and their vindictive pettiness over child custody.

(Let's watch and see if one such specimen responds to this post by writing, "Well, all men aren't perfect!" Thereby demonstrating that her attention span can't last even two measly paragraphs. I've encountered that type on many a previous thread!)

61 posted on 12/14/2001 8:23:31 PM PST by JoeSchem
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To: Dr. Octagon
IMHO, the reason people cannot stay married is that they no longer know how to compromise. Marriage should be 50/50, although it seldom is. In my experience, it see-saws somewhat. Sometimes HE gets the lions share, sometimes I do.

With the ME-ME-ME crowd, it is almost impossible to do something else that is VITAL to a successful marriage - saying, "I was wrong". A genuine apology is worth more in the long term than a buy-off diamond necklace - you will have nurtured the relationship instead of the store of "things".

FrogMom <----- married almost 32 years (which is difficult since I'm only 29!)

P.S. A little mind-reading helps, too.

62 posted on 12/14/2001 8:24:16 PM PST by FrogMom
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To: RedBloodedAmerican
LOL! you're bad!
63 posted on 12/14/2001 8:25:10 PM PST by Victoria Delsoul
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To: goodieD
Isn't it funny that people worry about getting jumped on for talking about good men, and have the same worry about talking about bad women?

Illustration of how entrenched feminist male-basing is.

Good and evil is in no measure gender determined. Cute math in an early post on this thread notwithstanding.

64 posted on 12/14/2001 8:26:15 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: JoeSchem
See #64.
65 posted on 12/14/2001 8:27:23 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: Dr. Octagon
"I offer that child-custody advantage is one of the top ones."

I am a little skeptical on that one.

66 posted on 12/14/2001 8:34:34 PM PST by Don Myers
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To: Don Myers
Countries with a presumption of father-custody have very low divorce rates. In the current family court system, fathers are targets, and children are the weapons to be held against them...
67 posted on 12/14/2001 8:39:35 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: JoeSchem
Freeper women are far above the ordinary. They are wonderful as a general rule.
68 posted on 12/14/2001 8:40:48 PM PST by xp38
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To: Dr. Octagon
"In the current family court system, fathers are targets, and children are the weapons to be held against them... "

I thought that was changing in the US. Anyway, if a woman wanted a divorce and could not get one for whatever reason, I doubt that she would be a joy to come home to at the end of a day.

69 posted on 12/14/2001 8:43:01 PM PST by Don Myers
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To: Dr. Octagon
. A study by the University of Iowa found that the expectation of getting the children was the single most important factor in deciding who files for divorce."

In other words, it is almost always the woman who files...

70 posted on 12/14/2001 8:46:58 PM PST by MileHi
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To: MileHi
Yes. And if the child-custody advantage were no longer, how many would?
71 posted on 12/14/2001 8:55:09 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: Don Myers
Changing...from bad to worse. They cloak it in psychobabble now...
72 posted on 12/14/2001 8:56:14 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: Dr. Octagon
bump
73 posted on 12/14/2001 9:01:24 PM PST by quietolong
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To: quietolong
Well said.
74 posted on 12/14/2001 9:06:22 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: Don Myers
Anyway, if a woman wanted a divorce and could not get one for whatever reason, I doubt that she would be a joy to come home to at the end of a day.

So it's a no-win situation for the guys.

75 posted on 12/14/2001 9:08:42 PM PST by JoeSchem
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To: JoeSchem
When laws are changed so that neither is advantaged in custody by divorce, both will have to work harder to stay married.
76 posted on 12/14/2001 9:10:31 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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To: Dr. Octagon
Look, marriage is tough, especially in the beginning. And young men are not the best husbands, they need to age a little to be good at it.

So a young wife has two choices, Work through the growing pains, or keep the house, the kids, and half his pay check.

The new guy hanging around tells here how great she is and she doesn't need all the crap the loser husband gives here, and it's a done deal. Then she hooks up with the new guy, and the cycle starts all over....

77 posted on 12/14/2001 9:11:53 PM PST by MileHi
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To: MileHi
tells here = tells her

Dang it...

78 posted on 12/14/2001 9:15:13 PM PST by MileHi
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To: Dr. Octagon
As a family law attorney, the majority of the causes of the divorces I see are one of the three "A's" - adultery, abuse, or addiction.

What causes these things I'm not too sure. I would guess that pre-marital sex is the primary culprit. Sex stirs up the emotions to such a degree that I think people's visions are clouded to such a degree that they don't think about whether they could actually live with a person day in, day out before getting married. The sexual activity takes priority over the development of communication, which is the crucial key to any successful marriage, and thus when people get into disagreements in their marriage, they are incapable of properly expressing themselves in order to resolve the situation. Resentment builds, and then one of the 3 A's occurs.

Just my theory.

79 posted on 12/14/2001 9:16:21 PM PST by GreatOne
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To: MileHi
Yup. The current cycle, well described.
80 posted on 12/14/2001 9:25:24 PM PST by Dr. Octagon
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