(Let's watch and see if one such specimen responds to this post by writing, "Well, all men aren't perfect!" Thereby demonstrating that her attention span can't last even two measly paragraphs. I've encountered that type on many a previous thread!)
While SOME of what you say is, no doubt, true, I would hasten to point out that in many, many cases the woman is the one who initiates the divorce due to the fact that hubby has gotten into the habit of having his cake (home life, wife, children) and eating it (girlfriend, bars, drinking buddies, etc.), too. Not all (nor, maybe even, mostly all), but a great many. Also, when you see REAL incidents of "domestic" violence, it is generally the man who is the perpetrator and I'm not talking about all the poor guys who have only been "accused" of this by some vindictive, slutty, moron of a "wife".
Now then, having gotten THAT out of the way, I see the REAL problem that is contributing to the high divorce rate as lack of morality and spirituality. I think that all would agree that we saw the divorce rate (AND pre-marital sex rate) spiral in wake of God and Christian morality being systematically removed from schools and public life. People no longer believe that sex is something to be shared WITHIN a LIFE-LONG marriage as ordained by God. Sex is to have "fun" and thus, nothing is sacred to a marriage between a man and a woman. Nowadays, marriage is not really viewed as an "until death do us part" committment. It is viewed more as a "until I see something better" arrangement. The FACT is, that more men seem to be "straying" than their spouses. Let's all be realisic here, shall we? Women (espcially after giving birth to two or three children) tend to lose a lot of that svelt figure (too tired to exercise at the end of the day - espcially if she's having to work outside the home as well as deal with the needs of little ones in the evenings and at night), she doesn't have as much free time to "pay attention" to that "fragile" male ego nor does she often-times have the energy to desire sex (although she would probably still like to cuddle and snuggle). The men, in the mean time, see the expanding waist-line and lack of attention to them as total disinterest and begin to (maybe) unconsciencely seek the attention of another woman. If/when they DO receive this "outside" attention, they carry things too far (an affair, etc.) and then when the wifey finds out and files for divorce, SHE gets blames for "initiating" said proceedings.
Now, I realize that to a large part, this is an over-simplification, but it is entirely too prevalent to dismiss completely (and yes, I DO know that this door swings both ways). Until we can get back to seeing divorce as a BAD thing and until we can start re-teaching our children the REAL meaning and responsibilities of marriage, we will see this trend continue and the nanny-state government providing a "safety-net" only makes the entire "single parent" thing more viable.