Men Must Champion Feminine Women

Toogood Reports ^ | December 5, 2001 | Henry Makow Ph.D.

[Starmaker]

A feminine woman has the effect of a sunrise on a man's soul.

In the words of novelist Alex Waugh, she draws a man "into a magic circle where everything is fresher, cleaner; where there is peace, warmth, comfort. She produces in him the desire to be his best."

Nothing on earth is so fine. On this continent, increasingly nothing is so rare.

The Official State Gender Ideology, feminism, has decreed that femininity is a "stereotype" invented by men to oppress women.

Feminism is no longer about equal opportunity for women. It is a thuggish, devious synthesis of Marxism and lesbianism used by ruling elites to undermine individuals and weaken society. It is to society what AIDS is to the body.

But men are also to blame. We have accepted the feminist lie that women should be independent and pursue careers. We have abandoned the many gentle and loving women who instinctively want to build their lives around a man. We have pursued the busy, neurotic, overachievers who guarantee us heartbreak, divorce and broken family.

By pursuing these women, we are really seeking our own lost masculinity. Many of us are happy to evade the responsibility of earning a living, and taking charge of a family. In either case we are condemning ourselves to frustration and arrested development.

For heterosexuals to find fulfillment, each sex must assume its instinctive part. The sex act is a metaphor: The man's spirit pervades the female and they become one. The male spirit must be active and the female receptive.

Many men ignore willing, feminine women who can provide Wholeness. These women cannot thrive, we cannot thrive, unless we recognize, defend and love them.

What is a feminine woman?

1) A feminine woman is motivated by love of husband and children. She is the heart of the family, devoted to her husband and children's wellbeing. This is her career. A woman who is preoccupied with another demanding career cannot pay attention to her family. Love is mainly paying attention. There is a New Yorker cartoon where a child is wearing a welder's mask and using a blowtorch to write, "I need love" on the living room wall. His mother says to her friend: "He's just doing that to get attention."

A feminine woman may have another career but it is her second priority. She is not driven by personal ambition. I liked the movie Legally Blonde because the heroine showed that she could excel in the work world but why bother? She had a more important goal: a husband and family.

Career is a feminist lie. Since when are careers the source of human fulfillment? What is so great about being an Assistant Loan Manager at a bank? Is society expected to provide successive legions of eager feminists with "fulfilling" careers to compensate for their loveless lives?

2) Feminists are teaching women to be "strong and independent." This is not feminine. Men respond to a woman's need. We want to rescue the damsel in distress and to win her favors. This archetype is also innate in women. She wants to be enlisted by a man.

A feminine woman DEPENDS on a man. This doesn't mean she is an emotional waif. She is competent but she doesn't pretend to be independent. Men and women need each other to be whole. As long as I have my wife, I am self-sufficient. So is she.

3) Just as the woman is the heart of the family, the man is the head and shoulders. A feminine woman is her husband's partner. They make decisions together but he has the last word. Men must be the visionaries, the navigators, and the captains. A woman's most important decision is the man she chooses to love.

4) A feminine woman is reserved. She wants a man to pay attention to "her" so she doesn't flaunt her sexuality. A woman wants to be loved more than anything in the world. She wants to be "known" in all her divinity. This happens when she is truly loved. Is it a coincidence the Bible uses the word "know" as in Abraham "knew" Sarah, to speak of sexual intercourse? All women are beautiful when they are loved.

Women's liberation has taught women to pursue sex for its own sake, as though they were men. This is not feminine. If a man prefers a new car, why would he marry a "used" woman? He doesn't want a car that's been driven by a lot of men. He doesn't know where it's been, what damage has been done. He will choose a brand new car. In my wife's words: "A man wants to be a woman's first lover; a woman wants to be his last."

I'm not saying all women should save their virginity until marriage but certainly sex should be reserved for honest, loving relationships. Men need to stop looking for sex and start looking for the right woman. That's the only guarantee of sex anyway.

If men chose wives with the same attention as cars, more marriages would succeed. Women are the vehicles to the future, in terms of emotional fulfillment and family. If men knew where they wanted to go, they would choose women who would get them there. They would not be blinded by sex.

5) A feminine woman tries to please the man she loves. No, this has not been outlawed, it just seems that way. A feminine woman generates love by giving love. She empowers her man by believing in him. Love is expressed in actions and effort. Baking a pie is an act of love. So is making the home beautiful. Are we so blind, impoverished and demoralized that we cannot appreciate this? Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves.

A feminine woman has grace, beauty and wisdom. These all come from staying in touch with her spirit and not pursuing an exhausting career that requires masculine qualities.

On the "Oprah" Show, I saw three young women interviewed about the "quarter-life" crisis. They were having trouble getting their careers on track and because of their families' expectations they were falling apart.

Oprah urged these girls to "follow their instincts." No one mentioned that for women in their early twenties, "following their instincts" might entail having a baby. No one is following their instincts any more. They are doing what feminists tell them to do.

It's time men started listening to their instincts too. We want to be the masters of our domain. We want to love and possess ("pay attention," "know") our wives. We want to create families that are loving, lively and happy. It's time we embraced the quiet, unassuming beautiful women who want to be our soul mates.

[Neets]

The author is not finding fault with women working. Just pointing out that women who make their career objectives their number one priority, have their priorities mixed up.

[connectthedots]

I'm not saying all women should save their virginity until marriage but certainly sex should be reserved for honest, loving relationships.

This author may not say it, but I will. Same goes for men, too.

Men need to stop looking for sex and start looking for the right woman. That's the only guarantee of sex anyway.

At least he got this part right.

[Ms. AntiFeminazi]

Thanks for the bump OneidaM.

[independentmind]

Hmmm... does Makow read Free Republic? I think he goes a little overboard on dependency. He should have emphasized complementarity, instead.

[Hugh Akston]

Interesting read, but quiet and unassuming is not necessarily feminine, nor is an assertive, confident woman not feminine.

[DC native]

Sigh........where do they hide all the men like this?

[Sabertooth]

Hmmm... Interesting.

I'm an enormous fan of feminity. The differences between men and women are one of the most beautiful miracles of life.

Nice article, though I'm not sure I agree with all of it.

[Blood of Tyrants]

We have pursued the busy, neurotic, overachievers who guarantee us heartbreak, divorce and broken family.

Just who is "we"? Very few of my friends have wives that are even remotely like this.

I liked the movie Legally Blonde because the heroine showed that she could excel in the work world but why bother? She had a more important goal: a husband and family.

A movie with a similar tone is Baby Boom with Diane Keeton who goes from being the busy, neurotic, overachiever type to a REAL woman when she is given custody of a baby due to the death of a relative.

[MeekOneGOP]

Big Texas BUMP for Texas women (ALL women) everywhere!

[anniegetyourgun]

#17 - and folks need to come alongside single moms like you.

[Bonaparte]

CANADIAN PROFESSOR CANNED FOR BEING NON-FEMINIST

WINNIPEG, May 30 (LSN.ca) - Dr. Henry Makow, PhD, 50, a former
lecturer in the English department at the University of Winnipeg, has
filed a complaint with the Manitoba Human Rights Commission alleging
discrimination on the basis of his political beliefs, and his sexual
orientation. He is heterosexual.

Dr. Makow, the inventor of the popular board game Scruples, has been
let go by the University of Winnipeg over being a "non-feminist."
University
President Constance Rooke, told him he was "anti feminist" and that
"anti feminists are anti-women." Dr. Rooke informed Dr. Makow that his
teaching services would not be retained next year. When Dr. Makow
objected, raising the issue of academic freedom, Rooke scoffed: "We let
you finish teaching the year, didn't we?"

Dr. Makow's punishment stems from complaints raised by four students
in one of his two classes. In an anonymous letter, the four students
told Dr. Makow that, "we have sensed your strong feeling that women
should be submissive and docile." The feminists at the college became
enraged because he expressed the view: "I don't believe being wives and
mothers has oppressed women. They have been selected by nature for a
task which is far more important than anything men do. It's time
society, stopped devaluing the role of wife, mother, and homemaker."
Dr. Makow believes that "a woman who puts husband and children before
herself brings love into the world. More than any other, this is the
way love is born."

The university took drastic action upon receipt of the letter despite
the fact that the complaint was not even formal. Dr. Makow informed
LifeSite that there was no investigation to determine whether the letter
had any merit. When he responded that he had been misrepresented he was
ignored, as were letters of support for his fairness submitted by other
students and Dr. Makow's submission indicating support for his position
in course materials. As well as deciding to release Dr. Makow from his
teaching responsibilities the following year, the university decided
another professor should grade the final papers and exams of the letter
writers. The university gave them permission to cut his classes and even
discussed providing these students with
tutors.

Dr. Makow told LifeSite that the action was taken since the
complaining students felt "uncomfortable," although radical feminist
professors were not disciplined at all even though they would not give a
passing grade to dissenting students. He
provided the administration with proof that he had given A's to
feminists. He lamented that the "university turns out women who hate
men." He said that the radical feminists "have turned the
university into an agency for their twisted social agenda."

[anniegetyourgun]

#5 - now, now...there are some out there!

[GenXFreedomFighter]

Maybe the next generation will wake up to the fact that women can't 'have it all' and men need to once again see women as special, something neither sex seems to understand anymore, to their great loss.

Amen, brother. And I have something else to add. Women have to start seeing themselves as special. All my friends talk about having sex with women whose names and faces they don't remember, or whom they don't want to see the next day. And they don't see anything wrong with it. Our culture is awash in the attitude that sex is as necessary as a bowel movement, and just about as romantic. Women who are putting themselves at risk of pregnancy and/or disease should be more discriminating about with whom they sleep.

A buddy of mine told me once, "One piece of ***** is just as good as another." How nihilistic is that? And a lot of my friends share similar attitudes. Incidently, he got his girlfriend pregnant soon after and ended up marrying her. This after cheating on her numerous times. My crystal ball foretells rocky times ahead for this couple.

The feminist movement and the liberal politicians, for all their talk of "sexual freedom" for women, have in fact made them sex slaves. In their drive to encourage women to enjoy sex with multiple partners in a transient manner, and remove the guilt associated with such behavior, they have actually made women see it as necessary to "put out" in order to get the attention of men they want to get to know better. There's a lot of competition out there, and who wants to be left out because they weren't competitive enough?

All this has coarsened and cheapened the covenant between men and women. I just hope it can be restored.

*whew* OK, now to climb down from the soapbox.

[anniegetyourgun]

You picked up on that little one, eh? You're right - the fems seem to pursue the lazy, neurotic, underachievers....

[scottiewottie]

Nice article. Let me ask my wife if I have an opinion on it!

[anniegetyourgun]

Agreed. Proverbs 31 sets the standard for woman.

[steve-b]

I liked the movie Legally Blonde

Get help. Now.

[independentmind]

. In an anonymous letter, the four students told Dr. Makow that, "we have sensed your strong feeling that women should be submissive and docile."

I have to say that, as much as I agree with most of this article, I do get the feeling that Makow likes submissive, docile women. And that is clearly not the right message for a college professor to be sending to young women.