Posted on 12/13/2023 6:14:15 AM PST by Rummyfan
A woman said she felt “betrayed by feminism” after deciding she wanted to settle down, have a family and a husband as she approached 39th birthday. At one point during the interview with Fox News Digital, she broke down crying describing how she feared she would end up alone and childless.
Melissa Persling recently wrote an essay for Business Insider titled, “I’m 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child. I’m terrified I’ve missed my opportunity.” She said after it went viral in November, hate began to pour in from men telling her that she’s lived a selfish life. Persling has a much different account of her story.
When Persling was 22, she married a traditional man and moved to a rural community in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, where she grew up.
“He wanted a simple life with children and home-cooked meals,” she said. However, Persling – despite coming from a religious Christian background – made it clear to her husband-to-be that she did not want children.
“At that time I felt very strongly I did not want children, that I wasn’t going to be like the traditional housewife. I knew I did want to pursue a career,” she told Fox News Digital in an interview. “And I felt very strongly that that would never change. And I guess I was wrong.”
Persling said both her and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable. Persling said she became resentful when he would ask for dinner or for his laundry to be done.
“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.
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My D-I-L had much criticism because she did not have a job outside the home. “What do you do all day?”. I know working women couldn’t do half of what she did in serving God, her husband, her twins, and the widows and orphans in her community.
“A woman said she felt “betrayed by feminism”
She was betrayed by her own defective mind.
LOL, her life destroyed by the lies of feminism. She isn’t the first or last, there are many just like her, I’ve known at least two, realized too late they were lied to and wanted a traditional life with a husband and kids.
One had to go to IVF b/c she was near 40 but found out she was in peri-menopause and it didn’t work. The other, also near 40, couldn’t conceive, as fertility craters the older you get, and her insurance did not cover IVF.
I heard growing up that a woman’s place was “in the boardroom, not the bedroom,” and not to be “shackled to a stove and/or children.” Your life will be so much better competing with men in the workplace.
My decision was to become a traditional wife with children - and I haven’t regretted a single second of it.
Now she’ll lead the rest of her life childless, husbandless, alone and bitter.
I know several in her exact position that bought the lies of feminism and made their lives all about their careers. My sister and I choose to be wives and mothers - and are reaping the vast, soul satisfying rewards of that.
“Yes we were all young once, and self absorbed...”
Not even close compared to today’s human dreck. I got married at 20 and still married to same woman 62 years later.
She still has a little time left, but the sand is falling thru the hourglass.....................
unless her name is sarah... it pretty much is too late... for the median woman... at 38.
Sigh, I miss him more now than ever.
and though the Lord will forgive them, the wall will not.
I am hoping my 30 yr old grandson has found a good one...she is Chinese, adopted American, and seems to like home body things, ie making sour dough starter. And, studied science in college. We shall see.
She’s only 38. Most women can have children naturally into their late 40’s. They simply choose not to.
She could ADOPT!
[I got out of the military and I’ve had wall-to-wall carpeting ever since...]
LOL excellent!
If the deal was, I’ll go out and work and pay the bills, mow the grass and keep the cars running and you do the laundry and cook the meals then that was the deal. If he was holding up his end and was providing the household income and being faithful, then she needed to hold up her end. Sounds like she didn’t want to do that. So, they divorced, she found her career and now at 39 is looking at an empty, lonely life going forward and realizes she really wanted what she had originally.
I’ve seen this often with Baby Boomer women. What they said they really wanted was a man who would work all day and then come home and share the household chores. They on the other hand wanted to have their careers and not be bothered with kids. After a while, when they are in their late 20’s or early 30’s, they get tired of their ‘house husband’ equal partner and file for divorce so they can have some space to pursue their careers and grow as a person. Then after polishing the resume’ and dating around as the clock ticks, they come to the realization that they are looking at a long, lonely life as they near 40. They have no husband, no kids, and many of their old friends and partying buddies do have these things and are therefore not really compatible anymore. They realize they were sold a bill of goods by the feminists, and they get angry and sad. Those women are now in their 60’s-70’s. They are as a group lonely, miserable people who often take out that misery on others, especially family members, who made different choices and now have a full life of kids and grandkids. I’ve seen it and lived it, it’s not pretty to watch. A part of me feels sorry for these women, but having been one of those men cast off by a woman I loved in her pursuit of the feminist’s life a part of me thinks you made your choices, live with it.
“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.
YOU can ALWAYS hire Merry Maids :)
LOL Only women have an expiration date? Have you looked around at the men? Some are in bad shape at 30.
You unhappy guys here on FR usually post stuff like this on Friday and Saturday nights. You're alone because the gals who looked like Farah Fawcett wouldn't go out with you. Maybe if your criteria had been a bit less shallow you'd be in a healthy relationship now.
Pretty close. We were both 40 when our son was born...
She still has a little bit of time, but she must hurry up..............
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