God designed man and woman to live together, married, and to have and raise a family. Things do not go well when we go against God’s design.
I essentially followed this path, although I have a FANTASTIC husband, but totally agree with her. Now I feel stuck working and don’t feel free. I work in a very man centric business and it’s a slog, day in and day out.
One of the best books I’ve read in the past few years has been: “Domestic Tranquility: A Brief Against Feminism” by F. Carolyn Graglia, published in 1998.
Makes a very strong case that Feminism was started by barren women who did not have kids, did not want kids, or had kids and felt no maternal love for their children. Feminism is an effort to disparage love, marriage and children — an effort pushed by jealous, bitter women.
The book covers women in the workplace before Feminism — lots of career opportunities for women — if they wanted them. But most women found their happiness as homemakers. That continued until the Feminists told the happy women that they were not happy and that they need careers to be happy. Now women have careers — and they’re miserable.
Also covers sex in detail and makes a strong case that men and women back in the “strait-laced” decades (ex. boring 1950s) actually had stronger, healthier, more satisfying sex lives than people do today with the “hook-up” culture.
Feminism has been very bad for everyone: men, children, and especially women.
While I agree with this message in general, I think it’s a mistake to suggest to young women that you must find someone while in your twenties. People can wind up just as miserable marrying the wrong person from a sense of urgency as from lifelong alone-ness.
Young women should have an ideal of the kind of person they would like, and then just let it go; live, laugh, make friends, with confidence that the right person will come along at the right time.
I didn’t meet my husband until I was in my late ‘thirties. Nobody that I met and fell in love with prior to that could have made me as happy as he has done. There were moments when I was lonely and wondered if I’d ever find him; but in general I had been raised to have many passionate interests and to believe in myself; and those years alone were filled with interesting pursuits and experiences that led to a lot of self-development.
One is responsible for one’s own choices and path.
Sorry, but that’s inescapable. The people you claimed programmed you are long gone, and the helm is in your own hands now. Steer as you will.
Once, American education and parents taught self-reliance and self-determination, along with self-control.
There were (and still are) actual Right and Wrong, and all things are NOT flexible and situationally relative.
“The Code Of The West” still applies, and ultimately always will.
I fell sad for this lady, and I hope she sees there are still fresh options and new paths, even if a few have been cut off by too many passed years.
She can still choose to be happy.
Go on a singles cruise for middle agers. They exist. You’ll find someone to share your life with, and make each other happy.
I did.
There is NO amount of money that could keep me working, you can't put a price on my walking my 8 YO grandson to/from school a couple of times a week.
LOL, "retirement" will become happier for me, once we complete our home remodeling projects.
She should be HAPPY with herself. She is the PERFECT LEFTIST, making sure that she dies off, there won’t be any offspring to continue the destruction of the planet.
I know several women who constantly tell their daughters that they should plan their life on the assumption that a man will not be there, and that they had better take care of themselves.
Then they are amazed when the very thing they trained and equipped for becomes their reality.
When discussing this with one woman, I told her maybe people should be focusing on training their daughters on how to build a good relationship with a man. She looked at me like I had two heads.
This counter-instinctual programming is well into its third generation, with no end in sight. It is deeply embedded into our education system, our media, our politics, our entertainment...and it takes a young woman of great character to reject it and endure the subsequent criticism of the brainwashed majority.
It’s nice that this lonely voice is saying “Don’t do it!” but it is going to take a massive cultural revolution to overthrow entrenched feminist dogma.
The feminists sold 3 generations of Western women a lie, and turned “having it all” on its head. Women ought to marry young, have their children during their prime fertility years, and once the kids are in school, THEN go to university. Women will be older, wiser, have stability, and a better idea what they want to study...and less likely that it will be Gender Studies.
Refreshing that people can be this candid, given the ultra PC culture we have.
Only issue is that I wouldn’t say ‘men don’t like competition’, as many men are highly competitive. Competition keeps the ‘blood flowing’; keeps you sharp. Forces you to be your best (if you want to win).
What men don’t like is constantly walking on eggshells worrying: “do I treat her like a lady, or treat her like one of the boys?” Either way a guy can be setting himself up for a visit from the PC police at best, or a false #metoo allegation somewhere down the line at worst.
Met my husband at 17, married at 21, first baby at 27. I see divorcee's have similar problems, living alone burned once by a marriage, but they have children and grandchildren.
I never told anyone what I wanted to do when I grew up as I was ashamed of saying I wanted to get married and have a family, feminists frowned on that in the early 70's when I graduated high school. There is not a day that goes by that my children don't upset me or break my heart, wouldn't trade it for anything though, especially when the grand babies started coming!
Bottom line, when you spend a decade telling a daughter to never put themselves in the position where they have to depend on a man. You have created someone unable to form a relationship with a man. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She woked. Way too late.
Before her spinster’s epiphany, she probably castigated any doubter of feminism. I’ll wager no authentic man could successfully cohabitate with her now. No widow’s life insurance bonus for her, either. Bitter fruits are raining down from the feminist tree.
Fatherless homes largely produce unbalanced children. We’re inundated with the emotion-driven, logic-challenged adult children of single mommies. And they’re further damaged by pubic school indoctrination.
Anyhoo, they were talking about all the wonderfully fun things that they've done, and poking at my wife. "Listen to how awesome we are, we're everything that you're not, and don't you wish you were us!" -type stuff. It was friendly banter, but I could tell it was getting under my wife's skin. All the wine her friends (but not my wife) had consumed likely didn't help things.
After a substantial amount of prodding - more than I'd have put up with - Mrs WBill had enough. "All those things sound wonderful, but I chose to have grandkids and someone to grow old with, instead."
You could've heard a pin drop at the party. Game, set and match to my lovely wife.
When I asked my single auntie why she never married she said it was all about timing. When he was ready she wasn’t When she was ready he wasn’t. She wasn’t a feminist. She enjoyed her career. She just didn’t meet the right person at the right time
50 is not too old to find a mate if you are sincere.
And when looking for a mate, I suggest joining a Bible-believing church. Church goers will help you find a good man.
The same is true regarding the whole “embrace your homosexuality” mindset. It’s like telling an alcoholic to embrace it and drink more.
That people are attracted to the same sex is not the point, we don’t know why that happens but it does. That said, allowing it to DEFINE who and what you are becomes a long term problem. The results are the same, you lose your youth, become unattractive, unwanted, with no kids or family future - you’ve built nothing that matters as you age.
Even getting “married” doesn’t solve this, statistically you won’t adopt and will have “other partners” while married. Most don’t “marry” anyway. It’s no wonder their lifespan is short.
I only had a single child - which was a mistake. That I’m blessed with two grandkids makes me very appreciative.