Posted on 08/30/2018 12:25:29 PM PDT by yesthatjallen
Karen Monahan, Rep. Keith Ellison's (D-Minn.) ex-girlfriend, accused the the congressman of a type of emotional abuse she defined as “narcissist abuse" in an interview with The New York Times.
“Narcissist abuse is very difficult to understand,” Monahan said in the interview. “It’s the gaslighting, it’s the habitual lying, it’s the making it seem like it was my fault for even asking why something happened.”
Monahan said it degraded her physically, “My hair was falling out, I was anemic — narcissist abuse is horrid.”
The Times noted that "narcissist abuse" was not an official psychiatric designation, but a term describing self-centered people in relationships.
Keith Ellison's office declined to comment when contacted by The Hill. In a statement to The Times, he denied abusing Monahan and said he cares “deeply for her well-being.”
The Times report comes after Monahan had earlier this month claimed abuse allegations against the congressman, including that Ellison had dragged her off a bed after asking her to take out the trash.
Monahan also claimed she had a video of the incident, though she has not released any of the alleged footage.
Ellison, who is also vice chair of the Democratic National Committee, has denied that allegation.
“Karen and I were in a relationship which ended in 2016, and I still care deeply for her well-being,” Ellison said in a statement to the Minneapolis Star-Tribune at the time the allegations first surfaced.
“This video does not exist because I never behaved in this way, and any characterization otherwise is false."
In her interview with the Times, Monahan repeated her claims against Ellison, saying he had grown angry when she did not respond to his request she take out the trash.
“He kept trying to pull me and pull me and pull me off” the bed, she told The Times. “And I just laid dead. Because I was scared.”
During the time when the alleged confrontation happened, Monahan and Ellison had already ended their relationship, though she was living in his home as she looked for a new place.
She did not provide the alleged video of the incident to The Times and she has not shown it to any other news outlet.
According to The Times, Monahan also called the police shortly after she made allegations against Ellison, claiming that her computer had been hacked and “that email conversations between her and Ellison have been randomly deleted off of her laptop,” according to the police report.
So why didn't she leave the first or second time this happened?
I once had a girlfriend that enjoyed being slapped around. Even slapped me to show she meant it. I would have considered it since the sex was so great. Either way we wouldn’t be doing it very long. She was into drugs.
This is the first article that’s made me feel sympathy for Ellison.
Didn’t anyone tell her muslim women are supposed to be subservient and take this?
“Put your burka on and be quiet.”
Because the make-up abuse was great!
As much as I despise this muslim ‘rat poser, the Ex sounds crazier every day.
It’s a shame they didn’t stay together for the sake of the cat or something. ;)
But I thought Muslims were always so well adjusted and would never have a bad temper.
“Narcissist abuse is very difficult to understand,” Monahan said in the interview. “It’s the gaslighting, it’s the habitual lying, it’s the making it seem like it was my fault for even asking why something happened.”
Oh, so it’s like the mainstream media!
Considering the source, that was quite likely the intent.
Well, ma’am, don’t you know who he is?
I am sympathetic to both sides of an ‘issue’ like this.
First of all, you can never just say “why didn’t she leave” if you don’t have fairly close or intimate knowledge of what really happened. There are legitimate reasons that abuse victims don’t leave abusive relationship that simply don’t make any sense when you read about them on paper, but let me put it to you this way. Have you ever prolonged the break up of a relationship with someone because you really just didn’t want to deal with all the drama that you knew was going to ensue when it happened? Well if you know that feeling, then multiply that fear and anxiety by 100, or perhaps more for truly physical abuse victims.
Now, on the flip side. A big problem I have are that a lot of people who were the manipulators and sociopaths in a bad relationship also leave the relationship making very nasty claims about the other person, and very often, they claim they are the victim when it’s over when in fact they spent most of the time as the aggressor and instigator. So I never ever trust claims of psychological abuse after the fact.
I once worked for someone like that. EVERYTHING was my fault. He seemed to think he had adult-onset ADD, and when he kept missing client appointments due to his lack of focus, he said that it seemed like I wasn’t planning to “step up to the plate” to keep things on track.
We had a long-range planning consultant come to work with our small team at one point, on a Monday morning for an all-day, off-site meeting. The narcissist boss had yelled at me over something that he felt I should have done better, on just the Friday afternoon before.
A sheet was handed out, listing the “deficiencies” in our organization. All of them, it seemed, were pointing to me. The boss made a little speech about how he had been working so much harder lately to be fair and objective. I asked about when he felt he had changed to being fair and objective, since he had just been yelling at me on Friday afternoon.
I pointed out how all of the issues listed that needed to be improved seemed to suggest that I was the problem (keeping him from having more long-term growth and success - though he was VERY successful). He immediately cancelled the planning session and sent the consultant home.
I was a single parent with a daughter in college, so I couldn’t just quit, but got fired a few months later for crossing him up on something else.
Saddest part was that I loved the work and helping the clients, and did an excellent job. But nothing I did would have been enough... At one point he wanted me to sign an employment agreement. The first paragraph said I agreed to work “only” for him, “24 hours a day, 7 days a week”. I said I could not sign that. He said it was meant that I could not do similar work somewhere else, while employed by him. I said that wasn’t what it said.... he refused to change it (because he insisted he was right), and I refused to sign it.
Worst part was some PTSD kind of stuff I had to work through, for a very long time after leaving that job.
The clue word is gaslighting.
I've been recently reading about narcissistic abuse. It is horrid. The abuser is a great con person, manipulator and is excellent at portraying themselves as victims. They are extremely convincing, and are the sweetest person to everyone except the one they're in a relationship with. By the time the partner realizes what is going on, they are trapped like in a spider web. It is a scary situation
I side with the ex girlfriend. I pray she gets all the help she can get to get over the abuse.
I’m sorry you had to go through that.
I’m glad you survived.
God bless you with peace.
ellison enemy islamist
Women who have been abused my men understand it, Karen. Not to worry.
Muzzy. She should have known.
This^^^^^^don’t know the specifics of this case of course but if you don’t know or have never experienced narc abuse you won’t understand....they are the devils walking among us...
well if she’s got a video, she needs to come out with it
right before early voting
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