"We have a blind date with destiny. And it looks like she's just ordered the lobster!
Posted on 12/29/2016 11:31:21 AM PST by ChicagoConservative27
In recent years, somewhere between endless Tinder swipes and countless OkCupid matches, the dinner date has fallen by the wayside.
As online dating surges in popularity, few millennials have the time, money, or desire to sit with a stranger over a long meal. Only 7 in 10,000 messages in a recent OkCupid IAC survey suggested “grabbing some dinner” and a somewhat less scientific survey this reporter conducted of several dozen actively dating 20-somethings found that dinner has become a highly taboo first date. Last month, Moody’s Investors Service slashed its operating-profit growth forecast for the restaurant sector. (This appears to complement another trend noted by market researcher NPD Group that suggests 57 percent of meals in the US are eaten alone.)
There’s good reason why people don’t want to sit through a meal with a stranger for an hour, or often longer. One singleton this reporter spoke to called it her “worst nightmare,” and another said the idea of sitting through an unspecified number of hours of food, drinks or dessert makes her anxious. A recent article in Cosmopolitan detailed “Why First-Date Dinners Suck,” listing similar reasons: The date category is antiquated, the time frame of the event is too long if there is no chemistry, and eating is too “intimate.”
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Well you have to have time with people to just talk in person, see their behavior, little idiosyncrasies you can’t pick up over face time etc. That time at dinner for instance is used to decide whether you’re with someone of quality or someone who is gonna kill if you get alone with them. So instead of investing tine getting to really know someone you’d rather go through a bunch of losers who ‘like’ your online pic or ask you for nudes on DM.
Nice.
Quality takes time and effort. DUH!
gee, these young folks are not socialized at all!!!!!!
they will mostly wind up living single lives and staying in their mommys’ basements
they aren’t even willing to share a meal with someone ???????
maybe we need to ask McD’s to close down the drivethru lanes or???????????????? they won’t even have dinner with anyone?
how sad......
what gives!?
If you read between the lines here, you can see that millenials only care about getting laid. The basis of relationships, intimacy, is completely dismissed as a waste of time.
It’s a safe bet that divorce rates will continue to climb. Hell, most millenials are eschewing marriage altogether since the legal and economic ramifications are too great. They’d rather cohabitate, share some bills, and if it doesn’t work out, they just go their separate ways.
Commitment is dead.
well, maybe we need to examine those “legal and economic” consequences ?
I don’t know ...
it is fine for some folks to live independently, but for so many young people ? I think there’s definitely something wrong....at any event i cannot understand it
and for many of them, they will get old and never enjoy the many benefits of family life ... and it can get very lonely too..do they realize this?
Good for them. Dinner dates suck. They’re a terrible way to get to know somebody, and just not fun. Only go to dinner with people you already know you like.
Why not a lunch date to break the ice?
Quality time does take effort. And I would advise the young people to first cultivate friendships with a number of opposite sex associates, and from that pool select someone to pursue an interest in mutual quality time.
But as another poster noted, millenials have a serious ADHD problem, and just don’t want to spend the time on dating. Or anything else but video games, for that matter.
Anyone who isn’t willing to spare an hour or two to enjoy a meal and some conversation with their date probably isn’t worth dating.
It’s not a game, it’s an opportunity to get to know a little something about a person.
If there’s no chemistry, no one wants to sit through a 3 or 4 course meal - just bail and keep swiping
The worst thing for many millennials is “awkwardness”.
Isn’t this why people develop social skills? To manage somewhat difficult social situations?
I like having dinner on a date. But I have learned never to suggest it for a first date in NYC.
Then go home a chow down.
>It’s a safe bet that divorce rates will continue to climb. Hell, most millenials are eschewing marriage altogether since the legal and economic ramifications are too great. They’d rather cohabitate, share some bills, and if it doesn’t work out, they just go their separate ways.
>Commitment is dead.
There’s zero benefit to getting married if you’re a guy. It just hooks you to a huge amount of debt and gives the women all the power in the relationship. Divorce is a game rigged for women and without changing that incentive there’s no reason to get officially married.
Foreplay is I ask her to get me a beer.
Doesn't seem to be working.
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