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Male Couples Face Pressure To Fill Cradles
New York Times ^ | August 9, 2012 | RACHEL L. SWARNS

Posted on 08/09/2012 6:58:41 PM PDT by reaganaut1

WASHINGTON — When the jubilant couple were wed in June, they exchanged personalized vows and titanium rings, cheered the heartfelt toasts and danced themselves breathless. Then, as the evening was winding down, unexpected questions started popping up.

One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids? When are you going to have kids?

Tom Lotito and Matt Hay, both 26, could not help but feel moved. They never imagined as teenagers that they would ever get married, much less that friends and family members would pester them about having children.

“It’s another way that I feel like what we have is valid in the eyes of other people,” said Mr. Hay, who married Mr. Lotito in June before 133 guests.

As lawmakers and courts expand the legal definition of the American family, same-sex couples are beginning to feel the same what-about-children pressure that heterosexual twosomes have long felt.

For some couples, it is another welcome sign of their increasing inclusion in the American mainstream. But for others, who hear the persistent questions at the office, dinner parties and family get-togethers, the matter can be far more complicated.

Many gay men had resigned themselves to the idea that they would never be accepted by society as loving parents and assumed they would never have children. They grieved that loss and moved on, even as other gay men and lesbians fully embraced childless lives. So the questions can unearth bittersweet feelings and cause deep divisions within a couple over whether to have children at all, now that parenting among same-sex couples is becoming more common.

The process can be also daunting logistically and financially, as would-be parents wrestle with whether to adopt or use a surrogate.

(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: antifamily; barf; homosexualadoption; homosexualagenda; recruitingchildren; rkselection; unnatural
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This pretty much says it all for me, regarding both “same sex marriage,” as well as the topic of this thread:

Scene from Monty Python’s “The Life of Brian.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFBOQzSk14c

Mark


61 posted on 08/09/2012 9:28:58 PM PDT by MarkL (Do I really look like a guy with a plan?)
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To: reaganaut1

PURE MADNESS


62 posted on 08/09/2012 10:29:26 PM PDT by HANG THE EXPENSE (Life's tough.It's tougher when you're stupid.)
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To: DBrow
Generally they are ‘custom ordered’ so to speak and are not ‘off the rack’.

The real question is are they going to induce a woman with money to carry and then turn over her child to a couple of deviants?

Also the proper answer is, NO we can't have children as sodomy doesn't result in offspring.

63 posted on 08/09/2012 10:57:23 PM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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To: reaganaut1

Asking two men if they are going to have kids is a sure sign you really are quite a stupid, stupid person.


64 posted on 08/09/2012 11:09:38 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: reaganaut1

Inseminating feces is how politicians are made.


65 posted on 08/09/2012 11:46:40 PM PDT by RichInOC (Palin 2012: The Perfect Storm.)
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To: reaganaut1
...now that parenting among same-sex couples is becoming more common.

More propaganda by the MSM. There aren't that many same-sex couples to begin with, and with the very small number of those who want to adopt a child, I wouldn't call that 'becoming more common'.

66 posted on 08/10/2012 12:07:23 AM PDT by SuziQ
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To: rcrngroup

Yep and 1 Cor 6:9 is also pretty specific too.

“Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders”

See my tagline.


67 posted on 08/10/2012 2:28:12 AM PDT by bjorn14 (Woe to those who call good evil and evil good. Isaiah 5:20)
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To: reaganaut1

This post needs a mega-barf alert and a PG-13 rating so the young don’t read about these disgusting sodomites


68 posted on 08/10/2012 2:31:39 AM PDT by dennisw (Government be yo mamma - Re-elect Barack Obama)
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To: Gene Eric
I guess a lot of straight assholes are interested in this outrageous, destructive experiment.

Must be because the polls have a high enough percentage approving of gay marriage. The young are more liberal on this than the older set who grew up knowing right and wrong and went to church even if they didn't listen (it penetrated)

69 posted on 08/10/2012 2:38:55 AM PDT by dennisw (Government be yo mamma - Re-elect Barack Obama)
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To: SuziQ

Add to that, that it takes ~20 years to bring up a child, and gay couples don’t normally stay together that long.


70 posted on 08/10/2012 3:31:34 AM PDT by thulldud (Is it "alter or abolish" time yet?)
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To: reaganaut1
Many gay men had resigned themselves to the idea that they would never be accepted by society as loving parents and assumed they would never have children.

That's a thouht worth holding on to.

71 posted on 08/10/2012 3:38:47 AM PDT by tbpiper
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To: reaganaut1

Sick puppies. Submit to your perversions, and you’ll never be normal.


72 posted on 08/10/2012 4:30:05 AM PDT by The_Media_never_lie
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To: reaganaut1
Male Couples Face Pressure To Fill Cradles

Well, I guess they had just been a little too busy filling other things.
73 posted on 08/10/2012 4:32:20 AM PDT by aruanan
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To: redpoll
I'm sorry to hear it, redpoll. I hadn't thought about it that way. The world is upside down.
74 posted on 08/10/2012 4:34:06 AM PDT by Caipirabob (I say we take off and Newt the site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure...)
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To: reaganaut1
It’s another way that I feel like what we have is valid in the eyes of other people,

You only FEEL it, dude. God set it up so it doesn't work that way.

75 posted on 08/10/2012 5:07:48 AM PDT by Right Wing Assault (Dick Obama is more inexperienced now than he was before he was elected.)
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To: reaganaut1

What are they going to fill the cradle with? Bloody feces?


76 posted on 08/10/2012 5:58:44 AM PDT by fwdude ( You cannot compromise with that which you must defeat.)
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To: reaganaut1
Here's their kid:


77 posted on 08/10/2012 6:02:07 AM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: reaganaut1

If you put your child up for sadoption can you specify that they do not get adopted by a couple of perverts?


78 posted on 08/10/2012 6:03:47 AM PDT by hal ogen (First Amendment or Reeducation Camp?)
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To: reaganaut1

If you put your child up for adoption can you specify that they do not get adopted by a couple of perverts?


79 posted on 08/10/2012 6:03:54 AM PDT by hal ogen (First Amendment or Reeducation Camp?)
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To: reaganaut1
"...their guests began asking: Are you going to have acquire kids? When are you going to have purchase kids?"

Minimal sanity requires major editing in this piece.

80 posted on 08/10/2012 6:04:16 AM PDT by fwdude ( You cannot compromise with that which you must defeat.)
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