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Pro 22:15 Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Pro 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for [if] thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Pro 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Smacked? They have an odd way of describing a good ole spanking in the UK. But then in my home I refer to it as “Applying the board of education to his seat of knowledge”
It is not surprising. I know kids from families that have a no spanking rule and in my observation it is the children that rule the household. Many times they are the ones hitting, biting, and “spanking” the parents. It’ll be a cold day in hell before I let a 2 foot tall little monster rule me. It is bad enough we have a society where the most worthless, with the least self control, and the most screwups are lifted up and taken care of like babies. I’ll not have my children become a part of those ranks.
It’s child ABUSE NOT to discipipline a child!
Being agressive is a "behavioural problem"?
Occasionally, I’ll see a story about a child who is extremely violent and out of control to the point of being expelled from school and brought for counseling by a desperate mother. The descriptions of the child’s behavior are usually horrendous: the kid kicks, bites, throws things, trashes the room where he is, etc.
When I see one of those stories, I wonder about what is going on that is not being included in the story. Has the mother ever disciplined the child? Or is she one of those mothers who sits with her misbehaving child, talking to him about why the behavior is bad, thereby rewarding him with Mom’s undivided attention every time he acts up? Conversely, is she one of those people who becomes uncontrollable herself when the kid does anything, and responds by waling on him for every little transgression? How many of those uncontrollable children received proper discipline, administered according to the situation?
There is clearly a need for more studies.
W. C. Fields is famous for saying....” man should beat his child daily, if he doesn’t know why, the child does “
...my dad took that to heart
DFCS and “Family” lawyers standing by to take your calls ...
I think there’s a happy medium. I still remember the wooden spoon that broke when I spanked my son with it...but of course, I also remember my mother’s hairbrush that broke when she spanked me with it! In neither case were these things it would have been very hard to break, btw. It was more symbolic than anything else, but it made an impression.
Spanking was only for things like playing with fire, trying to do bodily harm to a sibling, etc.
I hate the yuppy flake parenting style where they plead with the child to understand their point of view.
But, oddly enough, I have noticed that the group with the most dysfunctional children, blacks, have very severe parenting styles. Children are never spoken to in a normal voice, always screamed at, and usually hauled across the room and slapped and shaken for good measure. I’m sure these parents think they are doing the best for their children, but that’s not the way to do it.
If it didn't account for this difference then the study doesn't prove that smacking is a superior form of disciplining your child. It only suggests that smacking is superior to neglect.
My dad would occasionally spank me for serious screw ups, but his game was to toss me into the bathroom for an hour to meditate on what was to come. To this day I hate waiting for anything and have become proficient at cutting through red tape, demolishing a rival’s argument with direct logic, traveling from point A to point B with as few stops as possible, speaking my mind, being intolerant of stupidity and many other concept-to-direct-action behaviors. He also used to play his swing era 78’s real loud on weekend mornings like revile and I grew up with a talent for music. I guess that’s how psychology works.
Even from a secular, common-sense perspective spanking is required.
People at a young age experiment with playing games on their parents; “pushing buttons”, trying to manipulate to get what they want when they want it, etc. Can be mild to severe games. These are all simple little things that if the parent just spanks and goes on with life, wind up being the child’s difficulty, not the parents, hence, game over, parent wins. This is vital to learn as a child. Spanking teaches us that we have a place in society, that we are not the boss of everyone, that we can’t always have our own way, that we can’t steal from or hurt others without repercussions of our actions eventually coming back on us via jail, violence from those wronged or at the very least the frustration at the end of a misspent life.
That’s why they say it is out of love that children are disciplined, since to omit these seemingly difficult (though in reality so easy) lessons early in life, the liberal parent is sentencing their own children to a life divergent from reality.
I always joke that my parent’s spanking equipment worked so well that it was obsolete after the first time it was used; after which the link between backside and ears and brain was so securely put in place that any raising of the parental voice brought swift attention and compliance.
Why the anti-spanking types are so confused and clueless about the issue is that they are unable to differentiate between corporal punishment administered by a loving parent in order to correct and train and out of control violence by a merely angry parent. I shudder to think what would have happened to me if my parents had not cared enough for me to administer corporal; punishment when I needed it.
I learned when i was 13 years old and babysitting. The children whose parents made a point of saying loudly as they walked out the door “you have our permission to spank them!” never gave me an ounce of trouble.
the children whose parents said “we don’t spank our children” hit me , slapped me, jumped on the furniture...it was like trying to control monkeys! NEVER AGAIN! I knew then I’d spank my children someday...and I did...and their very well behaved and respectful young adults now.
A study found that youngsters smacked up to the age of six did better at school and were more optimistic about their lives than those never hit by their parents.