It is not surprising. I know kids from families that have a no spanking rule and in my observation it is the children that rule the household. Many times they are the ones hitting, biting, and “spanking” the parents. It’ll be a cold day in hell before I let a 2 foot tall little monster rule me. It is bad enough we have a society where the most worthless, with the least self control, and the most screwups are lifted up and taken care of like babies. I’ll not have my children become a part of those ranks.
Best and most accurate statement yet made about corporal punishment challenged children.
I only spanked one of my children once.
My son has over a 4.0 in high school at a Christian high school. He’s a good kid and well-liked. He’s never cussed in front of me or his sisters. He won’t let his younger sisters watch innappropriate shows on the TV or computer. He watches out for them. After going to public school for middle school, he was the one that wanted to go to a Christian school.
His younger sister is also very smart, and she is very, very sweet. She’s an over-acheiver (band, drama, high grades). She’s very helpful at home. She loves God, and that is very important.
My other daughter I spanked once. She’s tough because she has a brain injury, and she didn’t talk until she was 5. She can have terrible meltdowns (downright tantrums), some caused by medications. The psychologist says the tantrums are neurologically based. She says that bad kids are consistently bad. My daughter is good most of the time, and things (tired, hungry, sick) trigger her meltdowns.
Spanking instructions:
At age three, a child exhibiting insolence or anti-social behavior should be taken quietly by a parent to a private area. Child’s pants should be pulled down to expose bare butt and child should be laid across the parent’s knees. One sharp smack should be administered to the bare butt using an open palm, with more of an intention of creating a loud smacking sound, more than hurting the child. After one smack, the child should be grasped by the shoulders and quickly brought upright and standing. The parent should get down to face level with the child and wag an index finger close to the child’s face while sternly saying “I don’t want you to (describe the transgression). Then pull up the kids pants and walk away. You are basically done. If the child is feeling poorly later, you take him or her aside and gently tell him or her that you still love them, and you only spank them to teach them a lesson.
That’s it. It’s so easy. And you will only have to do this maybe four or five times for a short period of time. We spanked both our kids — a boy and a girl for only about a six week period when they turned three. They’re both in their 20s now. They are great, level-headed humans, loved by their peers (class-president-types) who basically have no worrisome psychological traits.
PS: They don’t even remember ever being spanked.