Spanking instructions:
At age three, a child exhibiting insolence or anti-social behavior should be taken quietly by a parent to a private area. Child’s pants should be pulled down to expose bare butt and child should be laid across the parent’s knees. One sharp smack should be administered to the bare butt using an open palm, with more of an intention of creating a loud smacking sound, more than hurting the child. After one smack, the child should be grasped by the shoulders and quickly brought upright and standing. The parent should get down to face level with the child and wag an index finger close to the child’s face while sternly saying “I don’t want you to (describe the transgression). Then pull up the kids pants and walk away. You are basically done. If the child is feeling poorly later, you take him or her aside and gently tell him or her that you still love them, and you only spank them to teach them a lesson.
That’s it. It’s so easy. And you will only have to do this maybe four or five times for a short period of time. We spanked both our kids — a boy and a girl for only about a six week period when they turned three. They’re both in their 20s now. They are great, level-headed humans, loved by their peers (class-president-types) who basically have no worrisome psychological traits.
PS: They don’t even remember ever being spanked.
It works for me. I don’t like having to do it but it is necessary. I don’t have time for playing silly mind games with them.
After a few times of this, all you have to do is say one and they will mind you. This only works if you give realistic commands that are age appropriate and when they do mind (without you having to count) then you shower them with praise, “Mommy just loves it when you mind so well!” or “Thank you so much for picking up your toys.” The kid wins big when he minds and loses big when he doesn't.
All kids should have a healthy fear of authority and it starts with parents being that authority.