I only spanked one of my children once.
My son has over a 4.0 in high school at a Christian high school. He’s a good kid and well-liked. He’s never cussed in front of me or his sisters. He won’t let his younger sisters watch innappropriate shows on the TV or computer. He watches out for them. After going to public school for middle school, he was the one that wanted to go to a Christian school.
His younger sister is also very smart, and she is very, very sweet. She’s an over-acheiver (band, drama, high grades). She’s very helpful at home. She loves God, and that is very important.
My other daughter I spanked once. She’s tough because she has a brain injury, and she didn’t talk until she was 5. She can have terrible meltdowns (downright tantrums), some caused by medications. The psychologist says the tantrums are neurologically based. She says that bad kids are consistently bad. My daughter is good most of the time, and things (tired, hungry, sick) trigger her meltdowns.
I don’t spank my children frequently. My Daughter almost never required any. My sons on the other hand but even they are fairly well behaved. However I do know that my one son in particular who likes to push his limits would’ve been horrible had we never spanked him. I’m sorry for your daughter, that is a different case altogther and pray she gets better with time.