Egypt anger over virginity faking

BBC ^ | 9/28/09 | Magdi Abdelhadi

[stuartcr]

You aren’t seriously comparing women that aren’t virgins, to porn stars, are you? That’s a pretty good stretch even for FR.

[stuartcr]

Or even learning something new!!

[gathersnomoss]

You people from the other side of the pond are just a hoot.

[TexasFreeper2009]

you said “To me, having had sex does not mean impurity, unrighteousness or any of that stuff”

so using your reasoning, there would be nothing stopping you from marrying a porn star since she has done nothing impure or unrighteous.

[gathersnomoss]

“stretch”....humor Ha, Ha.

[Boogieman]

From their perspective (which isn’t much different than the general views held in the West until a little while ago), a woman who engages in sex outside of marriage is not very different than a prostitute. How many men would line up to marry a prostitute?

[TexasFreeper2009]

And if you say someone being a porn star or a prostitute would stop you from marrying them... then what exactly is the problem is it the number of partners they have had? and if that is the problem then what is the difference between your arbatrary # that is acceptable and a husband wanting that # to be zero?

[Taffini]

I wonder if these men were virgins when they got married?

[MrB]

There is an “imprinting” that goes on with one’s first partner, both for men and women. This is a God-given bonding reaction. This is why the “puritanical idea” of being a virgin at marriage and not committing adultery is actually a good idea, if you want to stay married and have the best possible sexual experiences.

[stuartcr]

Not if I was in love with her, no.

[TexasFreeper2009]

I actually agree with that.

I also believe that people seem to lose a piece of themselves with every partner that they have. If you have ever seen a old hooker she usually looks 20 to 30 years older, it's as if each new partner took part of her life away.

[stuartcr]

I guess, since I do not have the same perspectives as them, that is why I don’t understand it.

[stuartcr]

Who knows?

[MrB]

Ever meet an old girlfriend at a class reunion or something and realize you left a part of your heart there, regardless of your level of “physical involvement”?

I heard one guy say he realized that when he saw his “girlfriend” that he had at 5 yrs old - she had a small piece of his heart.

[TexasFreeper2009]

well I will give you credit for being consistent.

But the vast majority of people would never marry a prostitute or a porn star even though many wouldn't expect their bride to be a virgin.

Nearly everyone has what they think is an “acceptable” number of partners they would accept in a possible mate.

[TexasFreeper2009]

Actually I have, and it is sort of sad.

[OB1kNOb]

I wonder if these men were virgins when they got married?

It depends. Do goats count?

[Taffini]

yes. they count as two.

[stuartcr]

Why wouldn’t I be consistent?

[TexasFreeper2009]

The vast majority of people in America are 100% fine with their wife not being a virgin, but they wouldn't even consider marrying a prostitute or porn star.

They are the ones that are not being consistent.

Either sex matters or it doesn't.

To me there is no difference between someone saying they wouldn't marry a slut who had slept with more than 10 guys than saying they wouldn't marry someone who had slept with anyone.

The principle is the same, only the number tolerated differs.