I also believe that people seem to lose a piece of themselves with every partner that they have. If you have ever seen a old hooker she usually looks 20 to 30 years older, it's as if each new partner took part of her life away.
Ever meet an old girlfriend at a class reunion or something and realize you left a part of your heart there, regardless of your level of “physical involvement”?
I heard one guy say he realized that when he saw his “girlfriend” that he had at 5 yrs old - she had a small piece of his heart.
Yeah. Liz Taylor had 7 (8?) husbands and she looked pretty haggard by the time she was finished with her last marriage. [/sarcasm]
Actually, I don’t mean to mock you, but I do disagree with you in a sense. Sexually promiscuous women do not look older but they do look jaded. Studies have shown that today’s middle-aged 45-year old woman, sexually active since 14, 50 or more partners, married at 37, one marriage and one child, has zero interest in sex anymore. In fact, they enjoy mocking their husbands’ loyalty and cloying love in spite of the fact that they’re not “getting any” anymore.
I think that sexually promiscuous women lose the joy of life, the joy of intimacy with men. It doesn’t necessarily age them.
Read Caitlin Flanagan’s “The Wifely Duty,” still available with a Google search for the author and Atlantic Monthly.