Posted on 01/07/2008 6:58:30 AM PST by shrinkermd
What a selfish SOB.
.....Bob
Opdyke's message to America:
"MY GRANDMOTHER IS SPONGING OFF ME AND SPENDS HER MONEY IN WAYS WHICH I CONSIDER FOOLISH. HOWEVER, BECAUSE I AM A CLASSY GUY, I GIVE HER THE MONEY AND SAY NOTHING!"
“So that leads us to the question we’ve been grappling with: When providing financial assistance to a family member, is it fair to say the money comes with constraints on how it is spent? Or, is financial assistance an exercise in unconditional love?”
He could always pay off her bills or whatever himself, rather than give her the cash. Or say sure, but the money is going to a financial planner so you can be more self sufficient.
Or, give her the money out of shame and penance for embarrassing her in public like he did in this article.
Maybe grandma didn't want to raise him but she did. I would think a few hundred dollars is nothing compared to what she did for him. Maybe she was the sucker....She gave her time and probably her money to give him a life. What a selfish man. If I were the grandma I would never ask him for a dime after he went & aired my business.
So, just buy her some dogfood and tell her to shut up.
Bingo.
There’s a lot of disconnect here. She’s not asking for money. She is asking for affirmation of her worth. If she truly needed the finances, she would ask for help rather than just ask for the cash. She can get a loan from the bank.
I guess me meant, other than to write about it in a national publication, completely humiliating her and her friends.
What a bleeding hemorrhoid. I can only hope that, when he’s old, his children treat him to a little bit of his “we owe those who brought us into the world nothing” philosophy.
And just for the record, SHE didn’t give birth to him; she unselfishly RAISED him which she was under no obligation to do. The turd.
Absolutely! Shame on him for bringing shame to her! I would have NEVER done that to my grandmother who gave me 39 years of love and care and laughter. What a selfish turd. He ought to give back as penance by serving at a nursing home, and for crying out loud, give her the money.
I really like what you're saying in that splendid tagline of yours!!!
Being from Arkansas, I have had the up close and personal experience of being governed by the Huckster.
Bingo...you pay up for granny...there’s no question about it but there is a question when a family member is a deadbeat and asks you for cash.
My Dad was/is a real POS...he really did very little for me when I was a kid, and considered me inconvenient...however I became convenient when I had a good paying job and he was out of work for the third time...then I was asked to help with his mortgage....then help pay his credit card bills...and on, an on... My Mom divorced him...not for financial reasons, but b/c he was crappy to her...I permanently lent my dad some money (he is my Dad) but he kept coming back...he would just take a job to help pay his bills...b/c he was entitled to a higher paying job...etc... always an excuse as to why he couldnt pay for things...finally I told him I couldnt give him any more money...it was a hard decision...but I had already done more for that man than he had ever done for me...and I realized he’d take my last dime even if it put me in the poor house if it put him in a better position...
My Mom was truly the only real parent I have (or ever had)...she always supported me however she could...so...if she ever asks for money...it’s hers...no questions.
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I absolutely believe that if I give a family member money, I do have a right to impose restrictions on how it is spent. If they do not agree with my restrictions, they do not have to accept the money.
I help my son financially. He is disabled and has recently had to quit working. The money does come with restrictions. I allow him to charge a certain amount every month on a credit card that I pay. I see the credit card charges and have some idea what he is spending it on.
When I saw that he was charging fast food and restaurant meals, I told him I was not going to pay for that. I don't eat out much because it is too expensive, so why should I pay for him to do it? If you are short on money, eat at home or pack a lunch.
sorry this should have been
“he would NOT just take a job to help pay his bills”
“The greatest generation” my arse. Grandma can suck it up and go begging to AARP for her weekly bingo money.
My philosophy on money to relatives is always consider it a gift with no strings attached. If they ask for too much, just tell them you don’t have it.
I know nothing of this man except this article. Only a no-class creep would write something like this, and I wonder what Grandma thinks of her plight being published in the newspapers?
I think this issue is a little too personal to broadcast to the whole world.
Is this guy a liberal?
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