Posted on 01/05/2007 8:32:57 AM PST by qam1
Oh I agree with you. I just suggested it as a way to wake the husband up to what a stay at home mom contributes. Since he is so hepped on economics.
I wrote what I did as a suggestion that she show her husband the contribution stay at home moms make to the household. The value of a mom who stays home and cares forher child can not be measured in just dollars.
I was not trying to put down what the husband contributed but since he seemed resentful of her not working I thought it would be good for or to show she is indeed working.
From the article it seems they are not in economic straits that means mom has to go to work just to provide basics.
As I have said before I wrote what I did because it seemed her husband did not realize that stay at home moms contribute a lot to a household. That if he was to place a value on the services and care she provides it would add up to quite a tidy sum. It is he that seems to think the only important work results in a paycheck.
As for never seeing his kids. I never said he should not see his kids. I just said that he could work some overtime. But from the article it does not sound like the family is suffering financial hardship.
I still think the best persons to rear a child is his or her parens. In infancy the parent best suited for that happens to be mom.
I agree with everything you write. My point simply was that the husband did not see the contribution a stay at home mom makes to the household. The most important of course being the rearing of children.
It is because he seemed to be most concerned with the economics of his wife not working. Since money seems his first language it just seemed better to communicate with him in that tongue.
And unless I missed something the husband said nothing to the wife about not working and learning to live within her means. They both seemed determined to keep things just as they were before children. But the husband was angry that his wife had to stay home while the sitter crisis was resolved.
That crisis would be resolved if she stayed home. He realized how important that is for their child. They faced the reality that with children your economic priorities change. That they learn love and care of two parents is one of the best gifts they can give their baby.
I was just discussing this issue with my husband yesterday. One of the guys who works for him has a new baby and they (the guy and his girlfriend) had been joking about asking me to babysit.
I knew the baby was about six weeks old now, so I asked if they had found a sitter. They have realized that they used to spend so much money going out to eat, and on activities, that they are doing just fine without her working.
The guy makes decent, but not spectacular money. It can be done...unless you're a snob, of course.
Let me amend this statement. If you live in California, Hawaii, or New England, all bets are off and you'll probably have to sell your organs to keep food on the table.
The love and joy far, far surpasses all of that. It is worth every moment.
Not every moment. Those 12 AM, 1 AM, 3 AM, 5 AM howling wake-up calls, for example. Those moments blow.
But everything else is aces!
It's like jazz. If you don't get it, you never will.
Let's do it. When's the first meeting?
Easy. To be fruitful and multiply. Children are a joy and a solid, loving family is the most precious thing on earth. No amount of toys or property can beat out the close-knit love of a well-developed family.
That's only if you buy into consumerist culture. And I speak from experience today in a big city--not as a 70 year old from the sticks perspective. I'm self employed and business has been thru some tough times until a couple of years ago. I would happily live in a rented double-wide before I would send my boy off to day care. I have happily ridden the bus around town when times were tight and eaten mostly rice and beans.
The baubles and the curb-appeal don't mean squat. Beyond a roof over your head and three squares, it's all extras. Sometimes they're fun. But they're extras. Anyone who forgets that usually ends up with their kids in daycare while they try to live the fabulous life.
My wife's family is from rural Mississippi--today. A bunch of them live in double-wides. Frankly, they have their priorities on a lot straighter than the dual-income-one-kid-in-daycare-curb-appeal families I know. If my business went into the toilet, I'd move rural and make it work. Kids belong with their families, not government certified nannies.
I'm embarassed that I didn't even consider that!
I see. I had interpreted her comment to mean that her husband was upset over having to share child-care duties so that she could continue working. This illustrates (additionally) what a poor communicator the author is!
Those are opportunities for prayer.
I'm series :-). If you got lemons, make lemonade!
Bingo. I can get a $200K/yr VP to consult for less than $3K/month and everyone is happy. Also, their resume doesn't have big holes in it either. Definitely quid pro quo.
They are also opportunties for thanking God for a healthy child. For remembering that this tiny human is totally dependent on our love and care. That the years pass by too quickly and we should enjoy that total acceptance and love while we can.
He says, "I think it was a language problem. I just misunderstood you. I thought you told me to go to the coffee shop and leave the baby at home."
Dumbass.
"Dumbasss". That reminds me of "Walter" one of Jeff Dunham's puppets (Jeff is a ventriloquist who appears on stage in various cities and has his own DVD.)
"Walter" is a crabby 60 to 65 year old puppet/character with a very unpleasant expression painted on his "face", who takes no guff from anyone and tells it like it is!
My favorite "Walterism":
"Walter" is now a greeter at Wal-Mart so Jeff asks him "What do you say to people?"
"Walter" replies that he says:
" Hello, Welcome to WalMart. Get your sh**t and get out of here!"
You have to see Walter to appreciate him!
Hey....I might agree with you on that one....and I'm a woman!
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