Posted on 12/08/2006 8:31:16 PM PST by rakovskii
Mary Cheney’s pregnancy poses problems not just for her child, but also for all Americans. Her action repudiates traditional values and sets an appalling example for young people at a time when father absence is the most pressing social problem facing the nation. With 37 percent of American children born to fatherless families, Mary Cheney is contributing to a trend that is detrimental to all Americans who will live with the ramifications of millions of children whose anger and frustration at not knowing their father will be felt in the public schools and communities of our nation.
Mary Cheney is among that burgeoning group of adult women over age 20 that are driving the trend of women who don’t want a man in the picture, but want to have a baby. These older women are pushing out-of-wedlock birth statistics higher and higher. At a time when teen births and teen abortions are declining dramatically, older women are having more un-wed births and more abortions, including repeat abortions (indicating that they are using abortion as birth control).
Well-educated, professional Mary Cheney is flying in the face of the accumulated wisdom of the top experts who agree that the very best family structure for a child’s well-being is a married mom and dad family. Her child will have all the material advantages it will need, but it will still encounter the emotional devastation common to children without fathers.
One Georgia high school principal reported, “We have too many young men and women from single-mother families that don’t have the role models at home to teach them how to deal with adversity and handle responsibility. They’ve seen their mom work 60 hours a week just to put food on the table; they end up fending for themselves.”
When fatherless children get to be teens, the girls tend to start looking for love in all the wrong places and the boys tend to find as their role model the bad-boy celebrities of MTV, NFL and NBA.
As they grow older, fatherless children tend to have trouble dealing with male authority figures. Too often children in single-mother households end up angry at their absent fathers and resentful of the mother who has had to be a father figure, too. Typically, the boys who have a love-hate relationship with their mother end up hating all women. Numerous of them look for vulnerable women where they can act out their anger and be in control.
Mary Cheney’s action sets an example that is detrimental for mothers with less financial resources who will start down an irrevocable path into poverty that tends to be generational –– children in households without a father tend to themselves have unwed births later in life. Experts from both the left and the right cite a disastrous litany of negative outcomes that are predictable when a child grows up in a fatherless family. Such children tend to get involved in drugs, alcohol abuse, and delinquency; they tend to drop out of school and have teen pregnancies. An assistant principal in a Junior High School said that many of the behavioral problems that teachers face in the classroom stem from households without a father’s influence.
Mary’s pregnancy is an “in-your-face” action countering the Bush Administration’s pro-family, pro-marriage and pro-life policies. She continues to repudiate the work to which her father has devoted his life. Mary has repeatedly said that “studies” show that children only need a loving home. Her statement is incomplete because the experts agree that for the well-being of children, they desperately need a married father and a mother.
All those people who talk about doing what is best “for our children” need to get back to the basics: children need a married mom and dad. Children can do without a lot of the trimmings of childhood, but nothing can replace a home where the mother and dad love each other enough to commit for a lifetime and are absolutely crazy about their kids –– enough to be willing to sacrifice their own needs to see that their children get the very best.
Janice Shaw Crouse, Ph.D., Senior Fellow at the Beverly LaHaye Institute, a culturally conservative think tank for Concerned Women for America, is a recognized authority on domestic issues, the United Nations, cultural and women’s concerns.
None of my posts have condemned her, just commented on her position as an MSM-touted role model. Your post consisted of "nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah." I really could care less about most individuals outside my family, truth be told. But I do care about the rule of law, society in general, and that the people should not be ruled by judicial oligarchs, who have been the proponents of extremism in pursuit of minting new "rights" not enumerated in the Constitution and that should be the purview of the legislatures. Gay marriage and parenting are definitely two areas that voters should get to vote on.
I will never "get used to it." It is clearly a violation of God's law. All of you who stand there and say nothing while this morally abhorent behavior takes place are partly responsible for what will happen to this country. We are in a steep moral decline, and those of us who are Christians and who care about our society should not sit back at let it happen.
I feel so sad for this child, who will never have a father, and who will face scorn for his mother's "choice" all his life.
You're very lucky.
My father died a raging alcoholic. My mom died four years ago from lung cancer (ELEVEN YEARS AFTER SHE QUIT SMOKING!!)
My wife died in 2000, still vivacious and young from a brain hemmorage, 41 years old. This woman was literally jaw-dropping beautiful.
My best and just about only friend, my dear Max the hound died three days before Thanksgiving. I loved that mutt, had him for 15 years.
I used to pray alot. Not so much anymore.
Nothing I have posted would remotely imply this conclusion. I disavow this hysterical response.
I've been there friend. Now may be just the time to take up the practice again.
Not trying to be pushy, I'm just saying it sure helped me out when I needed it.
I think if you'll try it you'll find you aren't nearly as alone as you think you are. Anyway that's how things worked out for me.
Best of luck.
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I should have phrased it differently....
75% of the time, it's the guy who cuts out.
Ah. I see. And how much of that 75 percent is the guy who cuts out because she kicked him out or made him so miserable with self-centered bitchiness that she drove him away? Hmmmmm? You've never actually seen that happen to a guy and then heard the ex's revisions later? I have. Way too often.
See post 514.
I gotta get some shuteye, I get to drop a starter outa a Blazer tomorrow.
(my "judge not" rule DOES NOT EXTEND to auto engineers, a DUMB eight year old kid coulda came up with a better way of mounting that starter!!! GRRRRRR!!!!)
Some posters here are just damned eloquent! :^ )
If the wrenches don't work, try some dynamite.
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This thread has nothing to do with judicial fiat. I actually agree with you on that. I thought the Massachusetts decsion was outrageous. However - I think you will see legislatures voting for civil unions in states like NY - it's already happened in Connecticutt. And, by vote of the legislature, it will in other states. It seems to me that California already has a domestic partnership laws. I could be wrong - but they have something there.
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There is partner violence in gay and lesbian homes and there is deliberate suppression of any news reporting on this subject by the gay-promoting MSM and by the community itself as it struggles for "normalization." But the stats on abuse are higher among gays as a percentage of abusers. The stats on abuse by the step-parent (and with GL couples, at least one must be the step-parent) are higher than among natural parents.
The reality for you to get over is: traditional Christian heterosexual parents are the vast majority of U.S. parents, and will continue to be for the foreseeable future.
I do think that in a perfect world, the very BEST thing for a child is the married biological parents of said child; a mother and a father. But life isn't perfect and frankly, many people, no matter their sexual preferences should NEVER raise a child.
Statistics can be and are made to say whatever those writing up the report wants them to say.
In times past, infant mortality was very high and so was the early death rates for mothers. Fathers didn't fare so well either, but for other reasons.
We are used to what we know, but few here take the time to look into what life was REALLY like when we weren't around. They should.
I am totally against the homosexual agenda being forced down everyone's throat; however, Mary Cheney's pregnancy and her sexuality are NOBODY'S business! She isn't marching in GAY PRIDE parades, nor is she in charge of anything that impinges on people's lives.
If you didn't mean to claim that the DoI had something to do with this topic, then WHY did you stick it in your post?
My question is quite relevant and not at all "hysterical" in any of the meanings of that word.
Others who you may believe are in violation of *God's Law* will continue to live by their own beliefs and not by yours. You may be honest in saying that you will never get used to it. But you may be much more wise to get used to it. We are a very large nation of 300 million people. There's room in a free society for lots of belief systems. And we sure have them.
The extremes seem to want to control, however, and that is not ok with the rest of us. I'm sure that the far left is trashing Mary Cheney on some site right now because she won't denounce her father. Whatever...
No, but I often hear and read a push among evangelists to adopt kids so that the abortionist won't murder them. The reason you cite is beneath consideration. You really do have a fear and loathing of Christ's teachings and those who attempt to follow them, don't you?
Yawn. There are a lot more important issue to get worked up about. How about everyone been happy for the Vice President that he has a grandchild on the way. Geesh!
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