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When mommy goes off to war, it's rough on kids [sickening]
The Seattle Times ^ | 11/28/06 | Donna St. George

Posted on 11/29/2006 8:36:31 AM PST by XR7

HAVRE DE GRACE, Md. — When they called her name, she could not move. Sgt. Leana Nishimura intended to walk up proudly, shake the dignitaries' hands and accept their honors for her service in Iraq — a special coin, a lapel pin, a glass-encased U.S. flag.

But her son clung to her leg. He cried and held tight...T.J. was 9, her oldest child, and although eight months had passed since she had returned from the war zone, he was still upset by anything that reminded him of her deployment...

The faraway move to live with his grandmother. The months that went by without his mother's kisses or hugs, without her scrutiny of homework, her teasing humor, her familiar bedtime songs.

Nishimura was a single mother — with no spouse to take over, to preserve her children's routines, to keep up the family apartment.

Of her three children, T.J. seemed to worry most... "He went from having one parent to having no parents, basically," Nishimura said, reflecting. "People have said, 'Thank you so much for your sacrifice.' But it's the children who have had more of a sacrifice."

When war started in Iraq, a generation of U.S. women became involved as never before — in a wider-than-ever array of jobs, for long deployments, in a conflict with daily bloodshed. More than 155,000 women have served in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Among their ranks are more than 16,000 single mothers, according to the Pentagon, a number that military experts say is unprecedented.

How these women have coped and how their children are managing have gone little noticed as the war stretches across a fourth year...

"I tell [the children] that if God needs Mommy to go ... then Mommy's going to have to go again and they're going to have to let me."

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This makes me ill.
For centuries, men have gone to war to protect their women and children.
Now we send the women and mothers. That's social suicide.
Chivalry is dead.
Our boys are raised to be "tolerant" and gay.
Girls are supposed to be tough ("grrlz").
We are living in the Brave New World indeed.

"I tell [the children] that if God needs Mommy to go ... then Mommy's going to have to go again and they're going to have to let me."

God did not "tell Mommy to go."
It is a society that has turned its back on God that allows a mother to go to war, when there are plenty of able-bodied men.

1 posted on 11/29/2006 8:36:33 AM PST by XR7
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To: XR7
God did not "tell Mommy to go."

Mommy chose to go.

And last I looked, we are a free nation.

2 posted on 11/29/2006 8:38:48 AM PST by Allegra (Can't Talk Now...I'm Busy Looking for That Civil War the Media Keeps Talking About)
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To: XR7

The feminists wanted "equal" opportunity in the military, which meant that we could no longer segregate duties to keep women out of combat roles. Unfortunately, none of the grownups who were supposed to be in charge had the balls to tell them to forget it.


3 posted on 11/29/2006 8:39:13 AM PST by VRWCmember
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To: XR7
"Nishimura was a single mother "

Uh, excuse me, but what is a "single mother"? I believe in the old days (before political correctness was enshrined by Liberals) that less-flattering terms were used to describe out-of-wedlock mothers.

4 posted on 11/29/2006 8:39:43 AM PST by traditional1
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To: XR7

no more men-- feminism and political correctness neutered them...


5 posted on 11/29/2006 8:40:57 AM PST by Nat Turner (DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME)
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To: XR7
We have a volunteer army.

If you want to argue for conscription, make a foursquare argument for conscription.

But spare us the melodramatic handwringing.

6 posted on 11/29/2006 8:42:15 AM PST by wideawake ("The nation which forgets its defenders will itself be forgotten." - Calvin Coolidge)
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To: VRWCmember

Don't you know? The feminist don't want "those type of women." You know, those that actually serve in the military?

SEE: Jessica Lynch, Shoshonna (sp?) Johnson.


7 posted on 11/29/2006 8:42:28 AM PST by avalon
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To: XR7

I tend to see women as equal and in some cases more equal but I still have a hard time with the idea of sending them into combat.

It's a little different for women without children but I'm still not thrilled with the actual combat role. My grandmother served in the WAVEs during WWII but she was a single unwed and childless woman.


8 posted on 11/29/2006 8:42:42 AM PST by cripplecreek (If stupidity got us into this mess, then why can't it get us out?)
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To: traditional1

I recall when the first Gulf War took off and the Air Guard F-16 squadron in Duluth, MN was activated. The support staff was mostly female and a lot of mommies found out what the National Guard can really mean.


9 posted on 11/29/2006 8:43:08 AM PST by Eric in the Ozarks (BTUs are my Beat.)
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It's not that men won't go; she VOLUNTEERED to do so. She CHOSE to have children without benefit of marriage; she chose to have them raised by her own mother; she chose to enlist. And this writer is trying to make us feel guilty for this woman's own choices?


10 posted on 11/29/2006 8:44:02 AM PST by Joann37
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To: Allegra
Mommy chose to go. And last I looked, we are a free nation.

Sure, she was free to go. But we are free to decry her decision.
11 posted on 11/29/2006 8:44:37 AM PST by Antoninus (When your party's platform is "Vote for US because THEY will be worse," prepare to lose.)
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To: Eric in the Ozarks

The Islamists are having a dozen children per woman, and we're sending our mothers into war zones. I wonder which civilization will endure in the long run?


12 posted on 11/29/2006 8:44:48 AM PST by mvpel (Michael Pelletier)
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To: VRWCmember
Unfortunately, none of the grownups who were supposed to be in charge had the balls to tell them to forget it.

Including our current "Commander-in-Chief."
President Reagan would have asked: "If not now, when?"
After six years with a Republican Congress - it won't be anytime soon.

13 posted on 11/29/2006 8:45:19 AM PST by XR7
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"Of her three children, T.J. seemed to worry most... "He went from having one parent to having no parents, basically," Nishimura said, reflecting. "People have said, 'Thank you so much for your sacrifice.' But it's the children who have had more of a sacrifice.""

Well, if the children sacrificed, it was by Nishimura's own hand. She willingly signed up to serve and knew she could be deployed at a moments notice. I'm out on a limb betting she wasn't worried about the sacrifice when she was back stateside at a desk job, using her GI Bill monies, and cashing her paychecks at the PX. BOTTOMLINE: She needs to STFU.


14 posted on 11/29/2006 8:45:56 AM PST by jgilbert63
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To: wideawake
We have a volunteer army.

Yeah. An Army that should be men.
We are a nation ruled by pussies.

15 posted on 11/29/2006 8:46:58 AM PST by XR7
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To: XR7

Women (some) have been shrieking for decades that they want to be treated the same as men. And this one volunteered.
The underlying presumption seems to be that white males have always lived a life of ease and privilege and have been stingy about sharing it. This presumption ignores little things like wars, working conditions, competition, stress, suicide rates and premature death. If they want to live like men, they'd better be ready to pay the price.


16 posted on 11/29/2006 8:47:05 AM PST by Spok (What if the Hokey Pokey IS what it's all about?)
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To: Joann37
It's not that men won't go; she VOLUNTEERED to do so. She CHOSE to have children without benefit of marriage; she chose to have them raised by her own mother; she chose to enlist.

It's not about us feeling guilt for her decisions. It's criticism of our society for allowing it. Not an unfair criticism, either. Any society that has unwed mothers going to war has something wrong with it.

17 posted on 11/29/2006 8:47:31 AM PST by Steel Wolf (As Ibn Warraq said, "There are moderate Muslims but there is no moderate Islam.")
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To: Joann37
And this writer is trying to make us feel guilty for this woman's own choices?

I don't feel guilty at all. I feel sympathy for the poor kid whose mother made such atrocious decisions in her life. Joining or remaining in the military and basically abandoning your children is not noble in any way.
18 posted on 11/29/2006 8:47:51 AM PST by Antoninus (When your party's platform is "Vote for US because THEY will be worse," prepare to lose.)
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To: mvpel
The Islamists are having a dozen children per woman, and we're sending our mothers into war zones. I wonder which civilization will endure in the long run?

Me too.

19 posted on 11/29/2006 8:48:04 AM PST by XR7
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To: XR7

Let's feel sorry for equal rights. /sarcasm


20 posted on 11/29/2006 8:48:47 AM PST by bmwcyle (The snake is loose in the garden and Eve just bit the apple.)
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