Rob,
My sister died yesterday. She ended up succumbing to a subarachnoid brain hemorrhage after first suffering from liver failure, kidney failure, and pneumonia. In reality she died of alcoholism. Her name was Wendy and she was 46.
I don't know what the status of your friend is, but I just wanted to share her story and let it be known that the alcoholic death is an ugly, painful death. I was warned ahead of time that it would be bad, but never could have fully anticipated the nightmare. This was not just "going to sleep" like in Leaving Las Vegas. It was lingering pain, agony, and suffering - for her and those that loved her and had to watch death creep in.
As her health began to fail she talked about getting clean, but by then it was too late, there was no going back. I don't know if my sister's story is important or will help anyone out there, but this thread has stuck with me as I have dealt with this and watched her condition deteriorate. I guess the odds would dictate that most alcoholics won't end up in her situation, but, man, for those that do...
And to think it all started with so much fun. But now she's gone. My sister is dead.
Steve
Thanks for posting this, Steve. We all have demons, just some have worse ones than others.
I have a family member that is going down this same path. Unfortunately, everyone around her is enabling her, even though all of them know what it does. I only hope that she sees the light before it is too late.
You can't do anything for a person like this. They must do it themselves. The best you can do is to be there for them when they quit.
My prayers for your sister.
May she rest in peace now.My prayers to you and your family.
I am sorry for your loss of your sister to this horrible poison, and for the pain that it has brought into you and your family's life. I hope that your sharing of this tragedy can help someone out there in need to make a decision to quit before it is too late. Thanks for thinking of all of those who suffer when you chose to share this story.
Rob
Steve,
You and your family are and will be in my prayers.
Alcoholism is an awful dis-ease and a horrific way to die. Your sister's story is important as is yours about the affects her alcoholism had on you and your family.
For those of us who have been affected by another's drinking, AlAnon can be a wonderful help in healing the lingering pain, agony and suffering.
Sally
Sincerest condolences. May God Rest her Soul and keep you in his Grace and Comfort.
My dad suffered a long time from the effects of Alcholism and eventually succumbed to it's ravaging grip.. I can understand what you must be going through. Being an alcoholic myself, I almost tipped over during that period but for the Grace of God and AA I didn't fall.
Your story will help someone, and it will help you by talking about it. It helped me, as I can never be completely safe.
Thanks for posting.
FWIW, I'm very sorry for your troubles. You can take comfort in two things. You did all you could do for your sister; you were a comfort just by being there. And, relating this story will help others. I know this because it's helped me. This is my future if I choose to pick up another drink.
Unfortunately, jails, institutions and death are the universal outcomes for active alcoholics.
Thank you for posting her story. It is a powerful reminder to a person like myself that was blessed to get sober from the beginning of late stage alcoholism at 21. I would not have made it to thirty. Still sober one day at a time at forty, I need the reminder that this is what is in store for me too, if I pick up that bottle again. Bless you.
I hear you Steve(((Hugs))),I lost my son Ed because of this on Aug.2nd.He was 44 years old.I can say I know how you feel. Prayers.
a BIG virtual hug and prayers.
God's peace and comfort to you and yours.
Prayers for your sister's soul and for comfort for all who loved her.
Dear Steve,
God bless you.
Hugs and tears.
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Hugs, Steve. I really mean that. Hugs.