Posted on 08/18/2006 1:45:48 PM PDT by nickcarraway
'WOMEN ARE equals now. They can fend for themselves. To offer a perfectly healthy woman a seat simply because she is a woman, however well-intentioned, is creepy. At best, she'll think you're from another country; at worst she'll feel old, or overweight enough to be perceived as pregnant."
And that is a lesson in modern manners, according to the new issue of GQ (with Clive Owen on the cover). Glenn O'Brien and other GQ scribes weigh in on e-mails, cellphones, gym etiquette, dressing for travel, how to handle chatty seatmates, sleeping with your friend's ex, online dating, wedding gifts and how to treat gay people: "Gay people don't want to freshen up the world, they just want to be a part of it." (So don't ask for makeovers and fashion tips.)
Oh, but you certainly should open doors for women: "Why? To be nice, you mannerless ape!"
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
It ain't gallantry, it's fear.
And that's humility.
;-)
And we appreciate it!
(No more Olmert! No more Kadima! No more Oslo!)
Texas manners there!
Or coulda' been the beer.......
Eaker!!!
We promised each other we'd never tell!
If you had any Texas manners you'd have let me tell first!
:-P
Yep.
Okay, enough nice stuff.
Time to get back to teasing and annoying them without mercy.
;-)
When walking on a sidewalk with a lady, is the man always to be closest to the street?
Isn't CQ a mag magazine?
GQ- the most important literary contribution in America...
only wussy men read that trash anyway...
GQ obviously is not circulated in the South.
Well, yes; that's our job.
After all, think how boring and meaningless their lives would be without us there to give them some good challenges.
(I love my job.)
;-)
That is the specific rule. The more encompassing one is that the gentleman always places himself between the lady and the greatest danger to her.
While strolling, the gentleman is on the lady's street-side prepared to remove her from hazardous oncoming traffic, shield her from being soiled by splashing, and intercept other approaching threats. Ideally, the couple would stroll on the left side of the street. When doing so the gentleman's weapons arm (presumed to be the right arm) is thus kept free.
Much of the social convention between man and woman is formalized protection of the woman. Doing so discreetly and graciously is a reaffirmation of men and women treasuring each other for what they are to each other and what they represent to civilization.
These actions and reciprocations are part of the distinguishing behavior of gentlemen and ladies. We all can perform them. The few requirements are a small effort and a large heart.
GQ: It is playboy for men who "play for the other team..."
real men don't read GQ.
Sometimes when a man performs them, though, he's screamed at by rabid feminists. My brother tried to hold the door for a woman in New York. What a mistake!
Maybe, I couldn't say. I flip through it occasionally for two reasons. One, it's an indicator of where our culture is. Two, every second or third issue has some nice pix of beautiful ladies.
I KNOW that.I had a rich aunt who gave our family summer access to the elite.Nothing more vulgar in the ghetto than what you find there.They just don't take their dirt out in the streets like they do in the hood.
You've done well with them, and I rarely have, even in terms of getting friendly responses to friendly gestures. You're entitled to conclude that they're nice and I'm equally entitled to conclude that they're shallow (though not necessarily stupid). But I think we're both a little off. The test isn't how they treat you, or more accurately speaking, how they react to you, or to me. The test is how they treat people they don't react to.
David DeAngelo, a dating expert who has some very good advice along these lines, always says that attraction isn't a decision. These women you're so fond of didn't decide to be nice to you. They reacted favorably to you on a gut level because, in some way, shape or form, they found you sexually attractive. Good behavior resulted directly from this, and naturally you thought well of them because of it. This doesn't make you a helpful source on the psychology of beautiful women.
I salute your talents and I'm glad you've had a good time, but most of us don't have such assets, haven't had such a good time, and won't be convinced by your rose-colored view of babes.
I haven't trusted anything from GQ since Hemingway died. Reckon I'll go out just the way I growed up... an antiquated, dyed-in-the-wool Gentleman. Young ladies can take or leave it.
It will be taken that way by a certain class of women, and these are not in fact angry feminists most of the time. A fair number of women are so narcissistically enamored of themselves that they interpret every gesture, word, or action by a man as an attempt to hit on them. If they happen to to be angry that day (usually about something else) they will snap at the man holding the door or offering the seat, especially if he is one who doesn't fit their criteria for physical appearance in a man (Brad Pitt never has this problem...) Their anger is not about "You chauvinist pig, I can open my own doors!" it's about "You pervert, what makes you think you can hit on me!!!"
This is why such reactions occur ten times as often in Los Angeles as they do in Texas - they come more often from the narcissists than from the feminists. So GQ's advice is spot on - if you live in L.A or New York.
You are correct, sir.
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