Posted on 03/07/2006 8:29:37 AM PST by GMMAC
Moms make lousy dads
By Burt Prelutsky
Townhall.com
Mar 7, 2006
One of the more fatuous beliefs that has been foisted off by self-proclaimed feminists and other politically correct lamebrains is that children don’t really need fathers. I used to say that American women, thanks to increased salaries and well- stocked sperm banks, had reached a point where they only needed men to open ketchup bottles and get stuff down from high shelves. Ladies, I was joking!
I had no idea that so many women took the line to heart. Thanks to my good joke and Gloria Steinem’s bad one – that crack about fish needing bicycles – women have become increasingly wacky. What is really surprising, considering that thirty years of feminist propaganda has promoted the natural superiority of females, is how masculine, in the worst sense of the word, women have become.
Surely I am not the only person who has noticed that these days young women are just as likely as men to smoke, to get bombed on booze and cuss in public, and perhaps even likelier to drive like maniacs and to flip you off for daring to share the road with them.
In the business world, far too many women salivate at the thought of being regarded as cold and ruthless. They are every bit as likely to torment and humiliate their employees, and to promote an atmosphere of fear and anger, especially among their female underlings. Call these women cut-throat and they think you’re trying to sweet talk them.
Perhaps it’s simply a case of Stockholm syndrome gone amuck. As you probably know, that’s a situation in which hostages come to identify, not with their rescuers, but with their captors. Women, in their own defense, might possibly claim that they’d been powerless for so long that it was inevitable that they’d take on the very characteristics they’ve despised. But that’s a load of hooey. I say, if you’re going to behave like an idiot and a bully, don’t make excuses for your boorishness. God knows men don’t!
Inasmuch as more and more women are eager to hand off their offspring to a nanny, a granny or a nursery school, you have to wonder why most of them even bother giving birth. All they seem to have to show for the experience are stretch marks.
In a society that is determined to accept the nutty notion that two gay men or a pair of lesbians are just as likely – they really mean likelier – to raise a normal, healthy child as a married man and woman, how could anybody dare suggest that a single woman isn’t equally capable? Well, she isn’t. This is especially true when the child is a boy. No matter how hard she tries, no matter how much she cares, no matter how many broken nails she’s willing to sacrifice in order to play catch with the kid, the bottom line is she’s a woman. And just because so many of the morons in Hollywood have turned single motherhood into just another fad, sort of like collagen lips and plastic bosoms, doesn’t make it a good idea.
It simply makes sense that a boy needs a man in his life to act as a role model, to show him not only how to curb his temper and to temper his testosterone, but also how to avoid being feminized into something resembling a well-dressed eunuch.
The point I am looking to make I saw made perfectly in a segment of a TV magazine show some years ago. It seems that in Africa, on a game preserve, the rangers were discovering the mutilated carcasses of several rhinos. They couldn’t determine who was responsible for the carnage, and they couldn’t imagine a motive.
After conducting an investigation, they found to their amazement that a band of teenage elephants were killing the rhinos for no other reason than that they felt like it. It was their version of drive-by shootings. Like our own urban gangs, the young rogues even had a leader.
The rangers thought long and hard about the problem. The first thing they realized was that the teenagers were free to make up their own evil rules of behavior because, like the blood-thirsty kids in “Lord of the Flies,” there were no adults in their world. All the bull elephants had been slaughtered by poachers for their ivory.
Then, because they didn’t have to answer to politicians or social workers, the rangers did two essential things. First, having determined he was incorrigible, they killed the leader of the pack. Next, they flew in several bull elephants. In no time at all, order was restored. The big guys let it be known that if there was any more rhino-stomping, there would be hell to pay. Their message was short and sweet; namely that elephants don’t behave that way.
So, for all their professional advances, there are still a few things that women simply can’t do as well as men. Some of those things, such as throwing a football forty yards in a perfect spiral or crushing a beer can on their forehead, aren’t all that essential. Important, I’ll grant you, but not absolutely essential to society at large.
However, when it comes to rearing male children, we’d all probably be better off if the ladies simply dropped the kids off in the woods for wolves to raise.
Burt Prelutsky has been a humor columnist for the L.A. Times and a movie critic for Los Angeles magazine. He is the author of Conservatives are from Mars (Liberals are from San Francisco).
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God defined what our roles were to be...deviate from that too far and guess what happens. Trouble.
Sorry if it seems like I'm stereotyping, but those are the only two guys I know who have had to go to foreign countries to find women who will at least pretend to like them in exchange for American citizenship.
And no personal offense to you intended, but it seems like the FR advocates of foreign brides are equally as pathetic.
But hey, it's just my opinion, and you know what they say about opinions.
I don't have an asian bride...nor am I planning any trips to get one. I'm simply noting that some men are going that route after bad marriages to American women.
I apologize if it seemed as though I was suggesting that this was your situation. I was actually trying to avoid that with the first part of that sentence. It didn't come across well.
I'm not even sure your average female has any business raising female children by herself. The problem is that too many women are too focused on their own angsts and problems.
When little Johnnie and or Susie screw up, the line is often "Why are you making my life so hard? Don't you love me? If you loved me you would clean your rooms and behave, and etc.etc.etc."
Daddies tend to clobber kids and the world is then safe, sane, and predictable.
Don't human life just suck sometimes?
parsy, who looks at reality even though it hurts.
I agree. If I hadn't had such a wonderful father, I might have settled for something bad. As it is, with my dad as an example, I ended up with a perfect husband (perfect for me anyway!).
Depending on how much of a mess, and any redeeming features the kid has, they may not want him. The military of today is lean and mean. They don't have the time,nor the resources to be messing with spoiled mama's boys, or girls for that matter. If the kid really wants to join, that's one thing, but a kid who doesn't want to be there is probably going to be a waste of the investment in time and resources that it takes to make a solider, sailor, airman, or most especially a Marine.
The more redeeming features, an aptitude for language or the ability to learn to maintain and operate the complex equipment the latter particular important for would be airmen or sailors, can offset some minor behavioral problems. But it won't offset a criminal record, even a juvenile one.
Bottom line, you have to raise your kids, don't expect Uncle Sam to do it for you.
That said, the judgment of parents, particularly step parents, as to the worth of their kids is not particularly good. It can off either way, but when it's off in the low direction, it's often way off.
What was Elton John's father like???? Anyone know?
Wonder what country American women can go to get a husband after a bad marriage to an American man.
Yeah, but the man can sing.
"I know of one situation where dads make lousy moms to little girls, too."
Dads shouldn't even try to be moms to little girls.
Little girls want mamas to struggle with, and daddies to play with. That's how it's supposed to be. Why any father of a little girl would want to give up being a father is a mystery.
Truth is, kids develop a particular, very special bond with the parent of the opposite sex. That's how it's supposed to be too. Kids love both parents, but they love them differently.
Well, my son's a "mama's boy" and he's a Marine. When he inlisted his recruiter told me the three things a Marine reveres most are the Corps, his country and his mama! But then, my son has a father, which is a good thing because I have absolutely NO clue about how to be a guy...I've never even been able to do that armpit farting thing that seems to be a rite of passage.
Cindie
Bump for Dads!
Anywhere she wants, and anywhere she might be highly desired... I believe in freedom - and let the chips fall where they may...
As an American man overseas, I would like to drag every man and woman out from America to take a look around at their options. Would certainly open quite a few eyes...
On second thought, no I wouldn't. There ain't nothing out here. It's exactly the same shyte as in America. Stay home.
"Mom, when is mom coming home?"
Well, sure, but I'm a Catholic.
I think divorce is a sin.
So, obviously divorce is going to lead to all sorts of atrocious issues and damage to everyone. That's what deadly sins do. Those are very good reasons not to consider divorce an option.
It happens anyway, of course, and it's always horrific for the people involved. Always will be. Nothing can be done to change that. It's like an amputation. There are no GOOD amputations, just less bad ones.
Honestly while your observations are probably the bulk of the mail order bride clientelle... I gotta tell you I, as a man, can't blame anyone for wanting a foreign bride, or at the very least a first or second generation immigrant as a bride.... Their minds haven't been turned to mush by feminist dogma... they understand that men are men.. and that we are rather base creatures... and have absolutely no problem being a wife and mother and aspire to be the best they can be at that role.
Why would anyone want to be someone who is going to offer less than their best at the single most important role a person has in their life? That being a parent... Lord knows I sure wouldn't want my children to be short changed because the woman I married thinks her career and a brand new SUV is more important than our children.
Its one thing to have to work, its another to "choose" to... and I wouldn't want to be with any woman who didn't know the difference or that did and still chose to. If she's the breadwinner, fine, I'll stay home, but this dual income just because you are unwilling shrink your lifestyle... no thanks.
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