51st Way to Leave Your Lover

Special to FreeRepublic ^ | 26 November 2005 | John Armor (Congressman Billybob)

[PAR35]

I should have written:
"It is my belief that God does not 'hate'

Malachi 1:3, Romans 9:13.

[doug from upland]

Best wishes, my friend.

[Tax-chick]

Simply astonishing.

[Quilla]

A couple of years ago I wrote a business plan for a wonderful chef who had experience with "commercial equipment and management for kitchens, and multiple styles of cooking" (however, not from different nations). He received backing from the first bank that read the proposal. His restaurant was functioning in the black within four months and is doing quite well today. (I am aware of his profitability as I set up the books, assisted him with them for the first few months, and am compensated with all the pecan pies my husband can eat.) It was a start from scratch venture with basically his cooking skills and experience, along with a novel premise, as collateral.

Should you choose to offer your wife a four star restaurant with complete creative control in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains, you are welcome to the plan. I would be happy to assist with pertinent revisions.

Best of luck to you, sir.

[grey_whiskers]

No words of mine can be appropriate for this.

I am in awe of your approach and reaction to this, and your honesty in posting this for the world to see.

If you need any support, prayers, or even just conversation, by all means...

we are here for you.

God Bless You!

[Congressman Billybob]

That is a very kind offer. But I do not deceive myself. Part of the reason that Kem accepted that offer was that it did not involve me, and it would allow her to leave this small town in the Blue Ridge. As excellent as your business plan is, somehow I think that those are "extraneous" matters that would be "deal breakers."

Cordially,

John / Billybob

[Congressman Billybob]

Thank you, grey_whiskers. (My whiskers would also be grey, if I had any.)

Many people on this thread, and in e-mails, have offered prayer and best wishes. All are appreciated. Nothing more than that is needed. The situation is resolutely okay.

John / Billybob

[The Red Zone]

Do you really love your hubby if you love him less than Texas?

[The Red Zone]

Part of the reason that Kem accepted that offer was that it did not involve me

Uh-oh. Maybe you're better off she said goodbye. Maybe there's a nice Samoan in this picture you don't know about. Wish him luck.

[The Red Zone]

If God loves some things then He will hate their opposites.

[The Red Zone]

You and Kem just try to stay friends.

People who stay friends after a divorce are rare as hens with teeth. That said, I actually had an aunt who did just that... strange. The man was a violent alcoholic and by some family reports had even tried to choke her to death once, but once they split they were seeing each other as friends all the time (and she made sure he kept taking his Antabuse). He passed away well before she entered her dotage.

[fatima]

Prayers friend,fatima

[The Red Zone]

If she's a freeper and we find out who... well, the flame fest will raise a cloud of smoke over the California servers visible clear to Maine. BB has been kind, but to do all he did without a heavy heart?... shoot even Superman got broke up over losing his lover. Ending a marriage isn't exactly like hitting the DELETE key on your computer.

[investigateworld]

A-G, thanks for breaking those fifty cent words to digestible portions.
Billybob:
Good Luck, God bless and remember it all works to His Glory. As mortals we don't understand, but in time .....

[flaglady47]

Even though this is a sad occasion for you, I must say I thought your title to this was very clever, and led in beautifully to the subject at hand. I have always admired your writing skills. You know, those writing skills will probably provide you with some comfort during this transition to a new way of life. There will be a new approach to life for you, you know. Different, but hopefully, in the long run, better. Time heals all wounds. Best to you.

[grey_whiskers]

Even though this is a sad occasion for you, I must say I thought your title to this was very clever, and led in beautifully to the subject at hand. I have always admired your writing skills. You know, those writing skills will probably provide you with some comfort during this transition to a new way of life. There will be a new approach to life for you, you know. Different, but hopefully, in the long run, better. Time heals all wounds. Best to you.

What she said. Ditto!

[Lazamataz]

I'm sad that your marriage broke up. I hope maybe you two might get back together again. :o(

[grellis]

I'm a few days late here, hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving.

What I cannot understand, Billybob, is this: You make your living as a columnist, don't you? Is there some reason that you cannot pack up your career and continue it from Samoa?

Is this job offer the opportunity of a lifetime, a "it's the only chance I'll ever get" deal? Nobody knows that.

Is your marriage?

[MinuteGal]

My son and daughter-in-law opened a high-end restaurant. They have chefs and sous chefs and line chefs and wait staff. It's a 24/7/52/365 job for both of them. That's the way the restaurant business is if you want to turn a profit in a brutally tough field.

You'd end up alone at home most of the time, or racing to the restaurant to pitch in bussing tables when all the help doesn't show up, which it never does.

You'd be married to a restaurant located in a dumpy island where God lost his shoes. You made the right call, FRiend. My best, as always.

Leni

[AppyPappy]

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage. I pray God opens a door for you.