The Good Wife's Guide (Guys - You're gonna love this)

http://www.gmu.edu/departments/economics/wew/misc/days.doc ^ | 13 May 1955 | Housekeeping Monthly Magazine

[Sally'sConcerns]

"Dad's" behavior in this sad vignette is a caution. Onus is on the WIFE to make something like THAT work? Sounds like "Dad" may not have been all that kind to his own wife and daughters before either.

The story about my Dad would be a whole nother chapter. For lots of reasons my Dad had a hard time loving me. After a little therapy, listening to family history, etc. I can understand about my Dad. He never physically or mentally abused my Mom or my sister, just me, but I know why and it's ok. So, not only was there that reason but my parents lived together til death and he fully expected my sister and I to do the same. Divorce just wasn't an option to him.

While I understand people can have an episode and it doesn't have to mean the end of the marriage, mine wasn't like that. I left once I realized it didn't matter how I acted when he came home, I was going to be in danger whether I was upset or whether I was happy to see him.

He's still out there and still abusing women he's in relationships with. I had one shot at maybe helping him learn how to do things differently. He really loved the wife after me and she left him for much the same reasons I did. I asked him if he was willing to do whatever it took to make that relationship work and he said yes.

Unfortunately by the time I located a counselor and talked his wife into agreeing to give it a 2nd chance, he changed his mind...all in the space of 4 hours. It's a shame because I really liked that wife but she deserved better.

[festus]

Even though men die about five or six years earlier on average than women, they don't count. After all the men are probably happier dead.

It has long been my view that the reason men die younger than women is that men have to live with women. If this whole lesbian marriage thing takes off and women start having to live with women I believe the women will start dying at the same age men do........

;-)

[kimchi lover]

This whole list is a steaming pile of excrement. The last line is the steamiest one of all, "A good wife always knows her place."
I make a hot dinner every night for my family, but, I did not sign indentured servant papers when I got married. The words of a certain song come to mind, "What have you done for ME lately?"

[I'm ALL Right!]

har.

[gogeo]

Well, they've fixed that now...

[festus]

Your edge and lack of a sense of humor are making my point perfectly. Keep it up sweetie.

[Alberta's Child]

LOL. I figured you'd get a kick out of this.

[.30Carbine]

I divorced him.

Sweet One, you may have filed the paperwork, but it was your husband who broke the covenant. I pray for blessings upon and in and through you in the Powerful Name of Jesus Christ.

There are thousands and thousands of stories like yours, and so many women who don't dare to leave - they feel damned if they do and damned if they don't.

Even Dr. Laura says first thing in her book, The Proper Care and Feeding... that her advice does not apply to women married to "jerks".

[Caipirabob]

Let me guess, this is from a NOW website? Heh..

[Uncle Vlad]

Nope. I just sat and made them up for a laugh. I have to admit though, I read through some of the items in the original list and thought, Where did we go wrong?

It's gotten rather rough out there since then, hasn't it?

[Caipirabob]

It's gotten rather rough out there since then, hasn't it?

Yes, sad but true, yet there should be enough good conservative women, American or not, who make "the commitment" worth the while.

I think the forgotten rule for the relationship is that it's not a 50/50 effort, it's 100/100 that makes it work. There's still a few who "get it".

For the rest, they need a good lawyer, the sooner the better.

[Dustbunny]

Fake document, but probably the real attitude back in 1955.

Yep, it sure was and what was even better, it was mutual. The men back then were more loyal, understanding, caring and appreciative. I thank GOD I still have mine. The years take their toll and we are both a little the worse for wear but still appreciative of each other.

[MagnoliaB]

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking in your prettiest black burqa, freshly starched.

[add925]

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking in your prettiest black burqa, freshly starched.

Starched burqa?! Hey wait a minute, that one has some possibilities! :)))

[TAdams8591]

Actually, my comment about the article was really tongue in cheek, because the it is way over the top though hilariously funny. Someone had posted it within a thread a few weeks ago and we had such fun with it. But on a serious note, suggesting to women they shouldn't question their husbands after they've been out all night, would be to leave women open to all manner of marital abuses.

"For a while anyway, our parents had it pretty good. Less stress, roles were more clearly defined AND THE APPLE PIE WAS BETTER!"

You say it succinctly but well capture the argument for stay-at-home mothers and wives. Don't run for the hills, lol, many of us very much agree with you.

[TigersEye]

My ex isn't all bad, he has his good points too, I'm just extremely grateful I wasn't one of those who stayed and stayed until I did end up dead.

I hear that!

[Texas Songwriter]

Did that sixth paragraph really say,.."like a mink?"

[Age of Reason]

I do not think this article is funny.

I find it commendable.