*snicker*
I'm sure there are others with the same problem.
: ^ )
Posted on 10/14/2005 10:20:29 AM PDT by add925
The good wife's guide
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal(especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.
3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces(if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
8. Be happy to see him.
9. Greet him with a warm smile and shoe sincerity in your desire to please him.
10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first- remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
12. Your goal: Try to make sure your homeis a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
13. Dont greet him with complaints and problems.
14. Dont complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
17. Dont ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will alwaysexercise his will with fairness and truthfullness. You have no right to question him.
18. A good wife always knows her place.
Ya had to go & remind me, didn't ya?
;)
my husband might not have dinner waiting for him at home, but he is thrilled if i can just get my son delivered to hockey practice for him, after i get everyone picked up from school and my 11 yo to and from ccd, on Tuesdays, after i have worked a full day myself.
1) Always make getting and keeping a full-time job with regular raises, benefits, bonuses and the potential for prestigious advancement your number one priority in life. Remember always that you have a wife and children who need your financial support, and that it is your responsibility to provide for them to the best of your ability.
2) Always arrive home refreshed and happy - put your bad day or your confrontation with your boss, the traffic, the crowds or the physical exhaustion you might feel aside and try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you possibly can. Your wife has been struggling with the children and the housework all day, she does not need to hear about how bad your day was.
3) Be prepared to help with household chores when you get home - let your wife relax or talk on the phone since she has been dealing with these problems all day. Make supper for her often, and offer to clean up afterwards so that she may rest and feel appreciated.
4) Do not bore your wife with stories of the troubles you faced at work today. Remember that you are lucky to have a job and that many other men would be happy to trade places with you. Remember that it is not masculine to complain or let worries trouble you. Your job is to provide, and whatever you must go through to achieve this is part of your lot in life. A good husband knows that he is lucky to have a wife at all, and that a woman wants a strong, silent man she can depend on.
5) Never expect your wife to have contributed to the smooth operation of the household. She has had a busy day and cannot be expected to provide meals or clean clothes for you. Never insult her by asking her to do such things while you're out earning money. Be mindful always that your wife may think you are being sexist if you ask her to help make a home for your family as part of your partnership.
6) Be prepared to account for your whereabouts every minute of the day, including an explanation as to why you were away from the phone when she tried to call or why you were unable to chat with her for twenty minutes when she did get through to you. You must always put her interests first, and be mindful of her natural suspicion about her husband's activities. A good husband knows that men can't be trusted, and that a wife has every reason to believe you will hurt and humiliate her.
7) Do not grumble or gripe about handing over your paycheque to her - she is in control of your finances and knows better than you how to spend or invest your money. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you will - you have a family to think about now, and their needs must always come before your own.
8) Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. She leads a hectic life and needs to feel listened to and appreciated. Never suggest ways in which she might solve whatever problem is vexing her. You need only listen; your suggestions are likely insensitive and unfeeling anyway. And do not counter with complaints of your own. She would love to have the chance to leave the house and work, she does not need to hear about how difficult your job is.
9) Be prepared to give up your weeknights or weekends to whatever projects or socializing your wife has in mind. If she has determined that cleaning out the garage or painting the upstairs bathroom would be the best use of your time, never complain that you would like to relax or pursue personal interests instead. She has every right to expect that you will make repairs to the house or help her redecorate during your time off. Do not be so selfish as to ask for personal time. You are a family man now, you do not have the luxury of personal time.
10) Always be prepared to take over in caring for the children when you get home from work. Your wife has been busy all day and deserves some quiet time. Allow her to watch television or chat with her friends on the phone, go shopping or simply relax. They are your children too, and it is unfair of you to expect to come home from a twelve hour day and simply put your feet up.
11) Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child for the next eighteen years. If you decide to have sex, you must know that pregnancy may result and be fully prepared to take responsibility for it. This, of course, does not apply to her. She doesn't have to be responsible for her actions, and can abort a child she conceived any time she wants, whether this breaks your heart or not. Accept this stoically. She has the special privilege of being able to kill her unborn child, carry it to term and give it up for adoption, or have it and raise it all by herself if she wants, but you have the responsibility of simply living with whatever choice she makes and quite often paying for it, too. Remember, you have no right to be a parent and no right not to be a parent, you are just a man. A good husband knows his place.
I told someone else the other day, I'm an observer. For those who have happy lives, I'm happy for them.
Honestly, there are some things, some feelings and some behaviors I can't comprehend, but it's fun to watch it happen to others. What is reality to many people is like Disneyland to me :)
Not even close. But, you should know that this sentiment is was bothers me. The idea that I'm some kind of wife beater just because I like that my wife takes pride in being a happy homemaker irritates me. My wife works hard, 20 hours a day, keeping our family together. That is largely due to the fact that she takes seriously a lot of the items on that list (in a more up-to-date fashion). See my answer to your fiance for more.
BTW - The Breakfast Club is only 23 years old.
Madame, June Cleaver would have never have shot Ward if he came home late because he was goofing around with Beaver.
:^0
not to bring something heavy to this thread which is supposed to be a fun one, but it was one of the problems i had with people ragging on Harriet Miers for never having married. it doesn't always present itself as an option to everyone, just through happenstance or God's plan or whatever. my feeling is, there but for the grace of God (and xshub) go i....
Amen, brotha, amen.
Maybe, but if I were married, I wouldn't care if we were 30 or 60, if I came home to a horny waiting naked wife, I'd like it!
This is exactly the way a good wife should be.
GreenEggsNHam says: "I agree 100% with everything you just said... except the dinner thing. Ericthecurdog is a better cook than me."
Ericthecurdog says: I'm sorry for being a jerk. Truce.
Sorry, but everything after the above sentence is blank and all I see is a white box below it with no text.
*snicker*
I think it's a pretty safe bet to assume that people here don't want to read about your sex life.
Ain't that the truth.
I had heard it was a very short woman, with no teeth, and a flat head to hold your beer.
I'M NOT A GROUCH!
(I've just been a little crabby since 1971.)
Point taken (except Stripes DID come out 24 years ago). Between you and me (yeah right) GreenEggsNHam IS good at, and practices, nearly all of the items on the list (the last three are just too much bs to acknowledge)... but she does them because she wants to and not because I ask her or it is expected... by me OR by society.
*snicker*
I'm sure there are others with the same problem.
: ^ )
The thread started as a mini-humor break from the heavier stuff, but it does stop & make you think about having to send both parents out to earn a decent living today.
For a while anyway, our parents had it pretty good. Less stress, roles were more clearly defined AND THE APPLE PIE WAS BETTER!
(now I'd better run for the hills)
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