Posted on 09/18/2005 3:05:48 AM PDT by Caipirabob
Over a casual dinner, Rachel Kaplan turned to her boyfriend and asked, "You're open for a prenup, right?"
Darren Waldohlz, 38, a partner in a successful speed-dating business, admits he was caught off guard. But he said he realized a prenuptial agreement would protect the house he owns, too.
"It's not that I plan to get divorced," says Kaplan, 23, a single mom from Fort Lauderdale, who has a sizable inheritance. "I have to protect myself and my daughter."
While men are still more likely to seek a prenup, "women are becoming a more dominant force," said attorney Alan Braverman, who has offices in Fort Lauderdale and Boynton Beach.
Experts attribute the change to women marrying later or more than once.
"It's not uncommon in today's world that women are entering marriages with assets and stock options," said matrimonial attorney Jacqueline Valdespino, in Coral Gables. "Now both sides have equal bargaining power."
(Excerpt) Read more at sun-sentinel.com ...
Age of Reason, I guess you plan on being single for the rest of your life.
So you're saying that a man can be a pretty immoral creature, and it's OK.
But a woman has to follow a very narrow path to be worthy of above mentioned man?
Repulsive.
Good luck in finding a virgin who is too stupid to know whether or not you have money, and willing to have the baby's DNA checked after its birth making sure you are indeed the father.
Knuckles drag much? Hypocrite.
Upon thinking even deeper on the subject,
I realize that a woman must be tremendously inferior to said man for his immorality to exceed her virtue.
LOL
So, do you know how many marriages she's had since you? I just can't get over having 3 marriages before you're even 18 : (
At least she couldn't soak you.
Some of the things people say in this forum just leave me shaking my head.
Disgusting.
Between my bf and I, we have enough baggage to fill the Battlestar Gallactica ;-)
It's exactly the same kind of baggage, so it's okay.
It almost seems like this guy is saying such things just to get a rise out of everyone....or maybe he just is a total boob.
~slaps najida~
Sorry, I had to do that, Najida.... you've bought into this A$$-clown's idea of his worth.
Those strong virgins are saving themselves because character and purity are important. They are not holding out for such a ~weak~ man.
Well,
I think baggage is fun.
I mean, you forget that old Samsonite down in the basement but one day you trip over it...so you open it up and WOW!
All these cool things you had forgotten about are there. Mebby they were bad when you packed them, but now they're just fun to pull out, laugh at and play with.
Sorta like Christmas in July.
Hey!
That hurt! ;)
But I deserved it...
See my next post about just how inferior a woman has to be to be worthy of such snakebelly (and I was being really snarky, is there a snark emoticon?)
Oh I wish it was like Christmas in July. No, this is the baggage that keeps on biting you in the ass.
OTOH, I did find a suitcase with all my pretty outfits when I was in pep squad. It was buried out in my folks garage. Some baggage is very cool : )
Those factors don't enter into any relationship as soon as children are born? Your simple and unencumbered young couple will soon also find that they are together because they both love and need each other. ..............HairOfTheDog
Exactly. The "young unencumbered couple" came together because they "LOVED EACH OTHER". "Each other" and "love" is what brought them together.........
.........Not the desire to have the financial ability to quit a job to stay home with an already existing child....Not a desire for the future financial security for an already existing child....Not a desire for help raising an already existing child.........
They came together because of "EACH OTHER".
Congratulations to the woman from your office. You never know, could be her husband is happy too.
Congratulations for declaring outright that she was bound and determined to marry a man ( who she had not even met yet!) within one year before she turned 30 and get pregnant a few months after that?
Congratulations for forcing the issue to fit her arbitrary timetable with a man she had just met over the Internet, who lived 100 miles away and who could only see her two days on weekends for a few months before she pressured him into giving her an engagement ring?
Congratulations for getting her stay-at-home Mom role within the totally arbitrary and rushed deadlines she set for herself and then not even bothering to mention her husband in phone conversation with her former co-workers?
Imagine how that courtship went:
Charlie: " I think I love you, Jane. But we have known each other only four months and it's too soon to get engaged. I think we should know each other better before we make a lifelong commitment."
Jane: "Sorry, Charlie. I have a one year self-imposed deadline to meet and that won't cut it. You just made me waste 4 months out of that year and now I only have 8 months left. You're outta here! Excuse, me, I have to call someone. Hello, Joe, this is Jane the one you asked out 3 months ago....Yeah, well guess what? My boyfriend and I just split up and I would love to go out with you to that place you told me about. Excuse me, for a moment.......So, Charlie? Why are you still here? I'm talking to my hopefully future husband here. Hit the road! "
That sure sounds like a "young couple that are together because they both love and need each other".
Oh, yeah. That sure sounds like True Love.
RE your coworker: Imagine how that courtship went:
I imagine it was quite different than you assume.... Unless you think the man who fell in love with her was just a stupid victim, like you have assumed all men who suffer women. Don't make so many assumptions about the hearts of others. So she talked about the baby to former coworkers.... would you rather she talked about the great sex that made it happen?
I met my husband 'over the internet', right her on FReeRepublic as a sheer coincidence.
He lived 1400 miles away, and we only got to date in person a week before he decided to go home and pack. Of course, we knew each other quite well before we ever met. I assume this coworker of yours knows all about that. But you don't. ;~D
That depends on why the couple got married in the first place.
How did that old fashioned rhyme go?
"First comes love. Then comes marriage. Then comes the baby in the baby carriage."
.......it's all just about entrapment from there on out.
Sometimes it is, especially if the child was there before the marriage.
Preposterous.
Only "it's all just about this" or "it's always that" statements are preposterous.
The advice "Look very carefully before you jump" is not preposterous. It is common sense.
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