Posted on 03/30/2005 8:13:49 PM PST by paulat
"I am single and plan to stay that way til my youngest is 18 and my kids will not be able to be hurt by my bad choices in men!"
Unfortunately, kids never do get that old. A divorce at any age is painful and destructive to every member of the family. Although I do commend your decision.
Children grow up, leave home, form families of their own, don't need their parents as much. My husband will be here after our last one leaves the nest, and I still want to know who he is and what he thinks when we're alone again.
My husband and I are more in love and closer than we ever have been now that most of our kids are grown.
Your number one job as a mother is to protect and love your children. Nothing or no one comes before that, save God. Husbands to some come and go. But your children are always your children.
There is a very negative name for women who put their men over their children.
I think they are short changing women.
A good women has enough love to give her husband and children plenty. And enough left over to love every one who is good and just.
Thank you. :)
I'm not so worried about a divorce as I am being with someone who would emotionally or physically abuse my children. I would end up in prison because I would have to put him 6 foot under. I don't have the best track record in the choices I have made, but I am not one who will let a step parent hurt my babies!
I'd love my kids in a different way than my husband. But if my love for my husband lessens to the point where I don't want him physically as much as I used to, where I spend more time talking nonsense with children than having the kinds of intimate, brilliant discussions I used to have with him, where I go around looking like a frump all the time and don't care about attracting him anymore, then that is a problem!
I don't think the kids should come first in a family. The relationship between the husband, the wife and God is the foundation.
I agree. What happens if you're husband is not the father of you're children? You're children should always come first.
No. Absolutely no. But then again, I hate divorce with a passion. They don't come and go. He's supposed to be your mate for life. It's children who come and go.
No, it was Susan Estrich who complained.
Who said anything about not being a wife? Loving my child more doesn't mean I can't also be a good wife.
All in all, someone I could never relate to.
I've never heard of an ex-child. But I have heard of an ex-husband.
Marital love and maternal love are 2 completely different kinds of love. To me, comparing them is like comparing apples and oranges. It is scary that this woman has thought so in depth about who she she would choose. Maybe she should stop wasting her time thinking those kinds of thoughts and just count her blessings.
Maureen bashes Susan here, while at the same time complaining about the need for more female op-eds:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1361633/posts
I agree. One of the best gifts we can give our children is the gift of two parents in a strong, loving marriage. I have been married 24 years and never felt that my husband and children had to compete for my affection. Cause the affection for my husband is different than that for my children. And a good Christian marriage should include a very healthy sex life. Also it should be noted we give love to our children hoping that they will become independent strong moral adults who can move on to their own lives. We give love to our spouses cause we really hope they stay. The good ones that is.
A woman who has enough love to give her husband and children and has enough over to love everyone who is good and just MUST have a husband who loves her as Christ loved the church. If she doesn't, then it isn't because she's not a good woman, it is because she doesn't have a good husband.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1371055/posts
Kind of humorous.
The best threads always seem to come on late at night. I wish I could stay but it's late.
Night all.
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