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I happen to agree with you. Here is how I see it. Your kids leave you when they are grown and they should, this is the way it works. If you put them first in your life then when they are gone you have nothing left.Lots of divorces occur because of this syndrome. Your spouse should be the main love of your life because they will be with you until you die, or they should be at any rate!

My husband and I are more in love and closer than we ever have been now that most of our kids are grown.

Your number one job as a mother is to protect and love your children. Nothing or no one comes before that, save God. Husbands to some come and go. But your children are always your children.

There is a very negative name for women who put their men over their children.

[Free2BeMe]

I agree. What happens if you're husband is not the father of you're children? You're children should always come first.

[DameAutour]

Husbands to some come and go.

No. Absolutely no. But then again, I hate divorce with a passion. They don't come and go. He's supposed to be your mate for life. It's children who come and go.

[sauropod]

"There is a very negative name for women who put their men over their children."

"beloved wife?"

soulmate?

mate for life?