I think they are short changing women.
A good women has enough love to give her husband and children plenty. And enough left over to love every one who is good and just.
A woman who has enough love to give her husband and children and has enough over to love everyone who is good and just MUST have a husband who loves her as Christ loved the church. If she doesn't, then it isn't because she's not a good woman, it is because she doesn't have a good husband.