Posted on 01/03/2005 8:31:56 AM PST by qam1
Well, you have to admit that some are :-). In fact, I would guess that all of them scream on occasion, and are brats now and then ...
that is what this homo-advocate-author wanted.
I think you are a$$-backwards. Had you 'grown up' before you had kids....my bet is you never would of had them.
1 of the 3 top reasons for divorce, one spouse wants a child, the other doesn't. And better yet, if you have one, and she still didn't want it, 99% chance she will love the baby, she will be hostile towards you. I see it all the time. This, like money should be agreed to in writing before ANYBODY gets married.
Very true. :) But that is not all they are, and I think it's a shame to view them in only an unflattering way. If having children can't be a positive experience, there wouldn't be so many who DELIBERATELY have more than one. :)
Possibly. I don't think he would have to have an agenda for this to happen, though. :(
It's definitely your decision not to have babies, but I can assure you, they don't *always* scream, and aren't *always* brats.
Just at night...
When you are trying to sleep...
But they napped and are bored and WIDE AWAKE.
But the positives have outweighed the negatives for me, at least! :o)
Sometimes they are screaming brats, no doubt.
Other times they are funny, loving, or interesting.
Yeah, right.
Have fun on all those riding trails.
My three little nephews are adorable and are always well behaved when Uncle Clemenza is around. I can tolerate (and even enjoy) children in small doses.
True - we do know where they're coming from :-). Just the atmosphere of the thread, probably ... people are going to extremes.
I know that some of my friends are bitter about getting married so young and having kids. They had to follow the rest of society and feel they were short-changed in life.
Have you asked her why? Like in a comfortable setting while she is in a good mood?
Also, sometimes just backing off can help. She might feel pressured or have fears about it. Then boom, one day she says lets do it on her own. (I am a guy so my advice may be bunk)
But dont let the disagreement tear you apart. Be patient.
OK.
I was going to post something along the same lines... that there is much risk with pressuring someone who is unwilling, to make such a move, no matter which of the pair is reluctant. The marriage may certainly not survive such a pressured decision. And the marriage may not survive disagreement over such a fundamental life decision. There is risk either way, the only difference is the number of people affected by the divorce.
My friend who just had her baby never said she wanted to be a mother until she married a man who wanted children. Even pregnant, she never said it. I'd say, "Are you happy about this?" she'd say "Tim is". Time will tell how well this goes.
I'm glad you have a good relationship with your nephews... I'm sure they appreciate it, and will appreciate it more as they get older. It can be fun for you, too. If I didn't have kids (I tried for 10 years before having my daughter), I planned to be "Crazy Old Aunt Penny" with 12 cats and 15 pomeranians.
Ah, the best laid plans...
Having children certainly does not make us more spiritual. However, I find that being a parent keeps me on my knees and makes me utterly dependent on the Lord for wisdom and grace. Love in action helps us move past our selfishness and do what is good for another. I do appreciate your post. God does demonstrate His love--which is unconditional--through Jesus Christ. Through our relationships--work, family, friends, community, He will comform us into His image. It's not always easy, but great is the blessing!
God bless you!
I say because of temporary insanity. j/k I have five. I'm really insane. ;-)
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