BOOZED-UP GOP BIG BASHED ME, SAYS WIFE

New York Post ^ | December 22, 2004 | FREDRIC U. DICKER

[nickcarraway]

The New York Republican Party's top lawyer has been arrested on a charge of attacking his wife, The Post has learned.

Jeffrey Buley, 44, was arrested and arraigned in town court in Bethlehem, an Albany suburb where the couple owns a home, last month after being accused by his wife, Cheryl Ritchko-Buley, 40, of a drunken assault, official records show.

[Tax-chick]

I was not drunk when my husband beat me up.

I thought you said the article wasn't about you. I'm confused!

[af_vet_1981]

If this were a Democrat the article would either have not been published or his party affiliation would have been buried.

Alcohol is depressing.

[closet freeper]

You go, girl.

I am a single, professional female. A scientist. I have published extensively (well, for the stage I'm at in my career, anyway) under my maiden name. I've done well enough that my name is recognized within my field, at least among those working on a similar problem. If and when I marry, I will keep my maiden name because I dislike hyphenation. To hell with anyone who has a problem with it.

[Bushforlife]

For hundreds of years women took their husbands last names. Just recently, all of a sudden, some of them either refuse, or do so in a qualified way [hyphenation]. Why the change? Why introduce such confusion? By tradition, everyone in the household had the same last name. It has always been a shame that the recent accelerated occurrence of of another deplorable trend, divorce, has resulted in multi-named households. Why add to it?

The bottom line is that these women are basically making a public statement that they have other priorities that are more important than their marriage. In essence, ME ME ME ME. "Look at ME, I am too important to subjugate myself to a man by taking his name".

Another possible scenario is that in the professional world the fashion is against the woman taking her husbands' name, and they fear it would hurt their professional advancement should they be so crass and retro as to follow the tradition of their mothers. These women, are in essence, hypocrites who "cave in" to popular opinion in the workplace. They don't have the integrity to stand up for their principles, and to be able to say that they believe that in marriage a woman takes her husbands' name.

They thus dishonor their husbands, their mothers, and their fathers.

[Gabz]

OOPS!!!!!!!!

Great comeback on that typo!!! I love it.

[Bushforlife]

In addition, women have the right to choose whatever name they want. But men also have the right to choose not to marry such a woman. Dating is a process of getting to know the person; any man who on getting to know a particular woman, finds out that she intends to deviate from long term tradition by refusing to take his name had better take that as a sign that she has a larger attitude problem, and run for the hills.

It doesn't matter if these women are high powered television executives or published scientists; for long term peace of mind, the better choice is that they are sweet rather then seemingly smart.

[mplsconservative]

"You yourself pointed out that your main motivation for not taking your husbands' name in your professional life was that you wanted to impress others. Apparently, that means a lot to you."

Yes. It does.


"A conservative believes that you don't change hundreds of years of tradition, and a system that works, in order to be fashionable or to impress others."

I live in today's world. I respect your opinion.

As I stated, I went to a very liberal school and endured endless jibes for my conservatism. I am not one to back down in a conversation, or in life. I am proud of my accomplishments. If you take offense that I kept my maiden name as a badge of pride, so be it.

"The only thing outrageous here is that instead of responding logically to the discussion, you chose to resort to name-calling ["newbie"] and accusations about DU. I guess your view is that anytime there's a disagreement then the person who has been here longer must be right?"


Bud, you're the one that said in CAPS that I was DISRESPECTFUL TO MY HUSBAND IN PUBLIC by keeping my name on a TV credit role. That's harsh IMO.


"You can pose as a conservative, but the fact remains that you choose to ignore a tradition followed by generations, and to do so to further your professional reputation. Kind of like saying Happy Holidays in public, but Merry Christmas at home. God forbid that you should have to explain that you now have a married name; that kind of old fashioned retro thinking could hurt you in certain professional circles, I guess."

I don't 'pose' as a conservative. Check out my 800 plus posts. I live and breathe conservatism.

Also, I've had a married name since I got married.

In case you have a reading comprhension problem, I stated that I haven't worked since my son was born. To further clarify, that was eight years ago.

Lastly, I don't say Happy Holidays in public or private.

My savior is Jesus Christ so naturally I say 'Merry Christmas', and I say it to you too, my friend.

Please lighten up in the name department.

A rose is a rose, by any other name.

[Gabz]

My apologies for you having to go through the explanation about Birkenstocks - I forgot the (/sarcasm) line at the end.

My husband doesn't find it disrespectful that my legal name is hyphenated, he actually thinks it's hilariously funny because he knows it was unintentional.

It took a lot of people a long time to get used to using my married name because they had known me for so long under my maiden name (after I got out of radio I became a lobbyist, same people different relationships).

My husband doesn't give a rat's behind what I am called - he knows I'm going home with him every night. My control-freak, abusive ex-husband was the opposite.

Merry Christmas, mplsconservative

[TigersEye]

Women are more violent

My anecdotal observation bears this out as well.

So does mine.

[maro]

A woman should either take his name or keep her own. Someone who hyphenates can't make simple decisions.

[Gabz]

Did either of you bother to read my explanation for why my "legal" name is hyphenated???????

Since you want to do the broad brush thing here, I will 'splain it quickly.

It was a MISTAKE. I was 37 years old and had been signing my name the same way for most of those years. I was handed a pen and told "sign here" on the marriage certificate and just signed my normal signature.....I then realized my mistake and added my new last name to it.

I do not use the hyphenated form of my last name except for filing tax returns. I am very proud to be Mrs. hislastname and our daughter has only his last name.

If any of the bashers of hyphenated last names wishes to foot the bills for me to change my surname, I will be more than happy to do so.

[Bushforlife]

Your replies did not address the issues. For instance, I do think hyphenated names disrespect the husband. Most men look askance at a man with that problem ["what a wimp!"]. That's my opinion, and at least that opinion is germane to the discussion. The truth sometimes is "harsh".

The issue of whether one is a "newbie" or a lurking DU'er in no way related to the subject of the discussion, and is just name calling for its' own sake.

So let's just agree to disagree. You raise your children to believe as you wish, and I'll raise mine in like manner. I guarantee to do the best to raise them such that none of my girls will choose to hyphenate, and that none of my boys will marry anyone who does. In the meantime, Merry Christmas to you as well.

[Sloth]

Women with hyphenated surnames often deserve beating.

LOL... Somehow, I suspect that if this had been posted by a male FReeeper, the mods would not have left it up.

[Gabz]

Another broad brush painter.

[hosepipe]

[ Women with hyphenated surnames often deserve beating. ]

LoL....

[NeoCaveman]

Did either of you bother to read my explanation for why my "legal" name is hyphenated???????

I never bothered reading beyond post #20

Heck some people don't even read the articles before commenting :-)

[Dan from Michigan]

When Jenny "I don't want to raise taxes" Granholm got married she became Jenny Mulhern Granholm....and Dan Mulhern became Dan Granholm Mulhern.....

Don't blame me - I voted for Posthumus.

[Happygal]

So I used my maiden name as my "stage name" (I was in radio)

Well that makes sense! :-)
I'm not married, but I often wondered what I'd do about my name if I did marry. I'm nearly 15 years working as a journalist, and well, people get used to the name. By changing my name if I married, it would be like 'starting over' - particularly in print journalism. I think I'd have to keep my name for work purposes (at least).

[mad_as_he$$]

Yikes R U gonna get when dad gets home!

[hosepipe]

[ Sweeping generalizations are always wrong. ]

Not always....
"Nothing too extreme can be said about liberals because it's all true." -Ann Coulter