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"You yourself pointed out that your main motivation for not taking your husbands' name in your professional life was that you wanted to impress others. Apparently, that means a lot to you."

Yes. It does.

"A conservative believes that you don't change hundreds of years of tradition, and a system that works, in order to be fashionable or to impress others."

I live in today's world. I respect your opinion.

As I stated, I went to a very liberal school and endured endless jibes for my conservatism. I am not one to back down in a conversation, or in life. I am proud of my accomplishments. If you take offense that I kept my maiden name as a badge of pride, so be it.

"The only thing outrageous here is that instead of responding logically to the discussion, you chose to resort to name-calling ["newbie"] and accusations about DU. I guess your view is that anytime there's a disagreement then the person who has been here longer must be right?"

Bud, you're the one that said in CAPS that I was DISRESPECTFUL TO MY HUSBAND IN PUBLIC by keeping my name on a TV credit role. That's harsh IMO.

"You can pose as a conservative, but the fact remains that you choose to ignore a tradition followed by generations, and to do so to further your professional reputation. Kind of like saying Happy Holidays in public, but Merry Christmas at home. God forbid that you should have to explain that you now have a married name; that kind of old fashioned retro thinking could hurt you in certain professional circles, I guess."

I don't 'pose' as a conservative. Check out my 800 plus posts. I live and breathe conservatism.

Also, I've had a married name since I got married.

In case you have a reading comprhension problem, I stated that I haven't worked since my son was born. To further clarify, that was eight years ago.

Lastly, I don't say Happy Holidays in public or private.

My savior is Jesus Christ so naturally I say 'Merry Christmas', and I say it to you too, my friend.

Please lighten up in the name department.

A rose is a rose, by any other name.

Your replies did not address the issues. For instance, I do think hyphenated names disrespect the husband. Most men look askance at a man with that problem ["what a wimp!"]. That's my opinion, and at least that opinion is germane to the discussion. The truth sometimes is "harsh".

The issue of whether one is a "newbie" or a lurking DU'er in no way related to the subject of the discussion, and is just name calling for its' own sake.

So let's just agree to disagree. You raise your children to believe as you wish, and I'll raise mine in like manner. I guarantee to do the best to raise them such that none of my girls will choose to hyphenate, and that none of my boys will marry anyone who does. In the meantime, Merry Christmas to you as well.