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I wish I had waited
L.A. youth ^ | jan. 2004 | anonymous

Posted on 04/04/2004 9:04:31 AM PDT by freepatriot32

I am a 15-year-old girl who’s had sex since the age of 13. There are two main reasons I got into having sex at such an early age. One, I didn’t know much about sex so I wanted to see what it was like. I saw it everywhere from Victoria’s Secret shops to television shows.

Two, I was influenced into having sex because "everybody" in high school was doing it. I was in eighth grade and I hung around people who were older than me. The guys were not virgins. They would say things like, "It is not a big deal." So I thought that if I was not a virgin it would not matter that much because it had lost its specialness.

My parents and teachers were too embarrassed to sit me in a chair and talk to me about sex. My parents thought that I would not become sexually active because my brothers and sisters had not become involved with sex. In my middle school I did not have any sex education classes. At that time I was wondering stuff like, how does it feel to have sex? Do I get pregnant the first time? What is a condom? I once saw a condom on glasses worn by Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes and I wondered what it was.

The first time I had sex, I had to depend on what the guy knew. I was 13 and the guy was my sex education class. He was 16 years old and not my boyfriend. It was his idea to have sex and I was really adventurous at the time. I wanted to know more and it just happened. It was his idea to use a condom because I didn’t know much about birth control. After I had sex, I realized it was too late to take back the biggest mistake of my life. I went home and kept telling myself, "I’m not a virgin, I’m not a virgin." I felt really bad about it because growing up I was taught that you shouldn’t lose your virginity until you’re married.

Months later, when my parents found out that I was having sex, they lost their trust in me and sent me to a group home. But sex is addictive. I became addicted to the feeling of being loved because I wasn’t getting enough love from my family. I began to have sex with people that I really did not want to have sex with. Once I started having sex it was not easy to stop.

I personally believe that middle school is one of the most important places to be given sex education because when you get into high school you will see things about sex everywhere. Nowadays people do not wait to be seniors at the prom to have sex. They just have sex when they think they are ready, whether or not they are.

I wanted to save my virginity for someone special, not just some guy. I think that if I had known more about sex and taken sex-ed classes in middle school, I would have realized that sex is not a game. After the sex-ed classes I took in ninth grade, I learned that there is much more to sex than the "fun" of it. There are sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, and with those risks comes a lot of responsibility.

In the future, I want to wait to have sex until I meet someone who appreciates me. Sex can bring negative things when you are not ready for it.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Front Page News; News/Current Events; Philosophy; US: California
KEYWORDS: 30yearoldrat; 30yorat; education; had; i; party; peer; pressure; promiscuity; sex; sexeducation; slut; teenage; teens; waited; wish
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1 posted on 04/04/2004 9:04:32 AM PDT by freepatriot32
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To: freepatriot32
The only difference between modern times and the old days is the NUMBER of kids indulging. Knowing nothing or all about sex is a cop out. You do it, you decide, you live with it.
2 posted on 04/04/2004 9:10:34 AM PDT by cynicom
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To: freepatriot32
Oh yeah, I REALLY believe a kid actually wrote this.....
3 posted on 04/04/2004 9:11:02 AM PDT by Pukin Dog (Sans Reproache)
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To: freepatriot32
Unfortunately for us humans, experience is that thing that you get right after you really needed it.
4 posted on 04/04/2004 9:11:08 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (The LINE has been drawn. While the narrow minded see a line, the rest see a circle.)
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To: Pukin Dog
Why don't you believe this is a kid?
6 posted on 04/04/2004 9:13:12 AM PDT by netmilsmom (Busybody of Free Republic)
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To: freepatriot32
Right. A 15-year-old wrote this. [/sarcasm]
7 posted on 04/04/2004 9:14:00 AM PDT by pabianice
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To: freepatriot32
I think a big part of the problem is that an equal standard is not applied to the boys (regarding virginity until marriage). Boys are so pressured to be sexually active (peer group-wise) that it is actually considered shameful for a boy to admit to being a virgin. In fact, when I was in high school, I was routinely taunted for being one. (Not that they would know but they just assumed.)
8 posted on 04/04/2004 9:14:43 AM PDT by SamAdams76 (I'm voting for John Kerry until I vote against him in November)
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To: Pukin Dog; freepatriot32
Okay... following her logic, she wouldn't have had sex if she'd only had sex ed classes in middle school. By my calculations, this girl would be in 8th grade at age 13. When she does decide to have sex, it's with an older guy in her SEX ED CLASS!

This article is a load of crap. If she'd only had sex ed earlier, instead of 13, she'd be a virgin now. Right!
9 posted on 04/04/2004 9:21:11 AM PDT by demkicker
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To: netmilsmom
Are you joking? How many kids do you know who use the word 'specialness'? Give me a break.
10 posted on 04/04/2004 9:21:30 AM PDT by Pukin Dog (Sans Reproache)
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To: freepatriot32
"I think that if I had known more about sex and taken sex-ed classes in middle school, I would have realized that sex is not a game."

I think that if I were a liberal activist pretending to be a child in order to get noticed, I would try to come up with a more original talking point.

12 posted on 04/04/2004 9:25:48 AM PDT by Pukin Dog (Sans Reproache)
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To: Pukin Dog
I don't buy it either:)
13 posted on 04/04/2004 9:35:00 AM PDT by international american (Support our troops!! Send Kerry back to Boston.Idaho.Virginia.Georgetown.France. Cape Cod!!)
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To: Pukin Dog
I don't buy it either:)
14 posted on 04/04/2004 9:35:01 AM PDT by international american (Support our troops!! Send Kerry back to Boston.Idaho.Virginia.Georgetown.France. Cape Cod!!)
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To: Pukin Dog
You nailed this one. My mind was screaming, "IT'S A WORK!" about two lines in.

Her family put her in a home for having sex? Sure, if it were my daugthter I'd be fuming, but I sure's Hell wouldn't boot her to the curb that way and INSURE that she'd remain in that life. Please.

And the language used is what an adult author might THINK a teenager would sound like.

15 posted on 04/04/2004 9:36:08 AM PDT by Long Cut (Hell of a thing, killin' a man. You take away all he's got, and all he's ever gonna have)
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To: pabianice
Right. A 15-year-old wrote this. [/sarcasm]

I will assume you don't have in your family, or know of, any intelligent 15 year old girls.

16 posted on 04/04/2004 9:42:58 AM PDT by af_vet_1981
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To: cynicom
But sex is addictive

No its not.

#1 no way a kid wrote this.
#2 pictures?
17 posted on 04/04/2004 9:45:22 AM PDT by Bronco_Buster_FweetHyagh
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To: Long Cut
Her family put her in a home for having sex?

Some families use crisis intervention and tough love to save a teen from an ugly life. When a teens rebel you have limited legal options and strong moral directives.

18 posted on 04/04/2004 9:46:59 AM PDT by af_vet_1981
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To: af_vet_1981
When a teens rebel When teens rebel
19 posted on 04/04/2004 9:52:12 AM PDT by af_vet_1981
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To: freepatriot32; All
I wrote to.... editor@layouth.com

"A forum in which I participate has been discussing whether or not this letter is genuine.
What assurance can you give that a 15 year old girl actually wrote this"

I'll let you know if I get a reply.

It is difficult for me to assign this letter to either a conservative or liberal forgery because it poses 2 actions (abstinence and sex-education), one of which is contrary to either position.

20 posted on 04/04/2004 9:53:44 AM PDT by kanawa (Calling a tail a leg doesn't make it one.)
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