Posted on 03/05/2004 5:24:16 PM PST by Go Gordon
The Good Wifes Guide
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so youll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.
6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the childrens hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
8. Be happy to see him.
9. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
12. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
13. Dont greet him with complaints and problems.
14. Dont complain if hes late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
17. Dont ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
18. A good wife always knows her place.
I'm 44 (recently) and I assumed these ladies were in their 50's. Listening to these "gals" cackle away (remember the proverbial sewing circle?), I found out a couple of them were in their late 30's the rest in their 40's. How they can have no better self respect to make themselves presentable, if not for their hubby's, but for their own self esteem, is beyond me.
Laughter, anger, a hey that sounds good to me to utter contempt for the ideas expressed.
I say this is exactly how a marriage should be. A happy marriage where both parties are satisfied and content.
How can that be you ask.
Well, it' like this...
A good wife will gladly do all these things and more if she has a good husband who is willing to do all the same things for her and is appreciative of these things.
Ok, you say but what is a good husband.
I'm glad you asked because I happen to be an expert in this feild.
A good husband above all else is faithful.
Loving, caring, williing to help out with any chore, routinely does these chores because he seeks to make his wife happy and show his appreciation for all the many things she does for him and the family is they have one.
Exceptions:
10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
His topics are not more important. They are as equally as important as your topics. He will gladly discuse and ask about your day out of genuine concern and desire to be a part of it and you.
11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you.
True but this happens so rarely that you would never complain on that once in a blue moon accassion it does. He want to spend all or most of his leisure time with you. You are his best freind!
14. Dont complain if hes late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
True for the late part but if he stays out all night there is a problem and it needs to be discussed. Of course a good husband would never ever stay out all night.
I think that about sums it up. If all couples acted this way towards one another then divorces would never happen.
Well, that is my advice anyway and it has served my wife and I well for nearly 15 years.
Hot passionate sex is always good too. Where both partners are free to do and say what it is that pleases then and the other gladly obliges.
And why you are at it tell your partner how beautiful or handsome they are and that their faults as they see them are in fact attributes and the very things that make you love them and/or lust after them.
I agree with you..that *is* sad.
Agreed. Its amazing how something as simple as a pronounced nose, or glasses makes a women uncomfortable, yet can be very attractive.
Pronounced nose and glasses on HER? Or HIM?
My hubby has a pronounced nose and I think it's very attractive.
he shouldn't think of you like you just rolled out of bed.
Oh, really? ;)
On the woman.
I just knew I was missing out. Now I have proof.
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