Why do men cheat on their wives?

Ask Dr Gaylen ^

[kezekiel]

*smile* You dont know this man. He'll do fine, thanks.

I hope so. Good luck to you both!

[ValerieUSA]

If a good percentage of our military will not honor their marriage vows, then a good percentage of them are without honor, yes. Same goes with Congress and former presidents and professional athletes.

[ATOMIC_PUNK]

You took the pixels right off my monitor

[discostu]

I spent the majority of my first marriage being accused of having an affair with any man that I knew

That's probably the one "valid" excuse there is for cheating. If the spouse is gonna make you do the time you might as well do the crime. Of course even then getting rid of the spouse before being with someone else is better. Glad you're out of a bad situation.

[Tennessee_Bob]

Nope, divorced - wow - two years and five days now. The anniversary passed and I didn't even realize it.

[StolarStorm]

He/she without sin cast the first stone....

Nobody is perfect. Marriage vows that have nothing to do with sex are broken often by both parties. We aren't perfect beings. Saints were sinners as well. I'm not sure that anyone could measure up to your standards.

[AmishDude]

Should have told her that you will go and have that affair and make her watch. Then she'll have something to complain about. (Sounds like she was having one of her own.)

[Howlin]

In droves.

[ValerieUSA]

Don't make the vow if you won't honor it - how difficult is that? If you are saying that it impossible to expect anyone to live up to a vow of fidelity, then do away with the vows and marriage - let's all stop pretending.

[Tennessee_Bob]

(Sounds like she was having one of her own.)

That thought has crossed my mind several times. But other than the constant accusations balanced against folks saying that "the one accusing is the one doing it," there's no real evidence. Some circumstantial stuff, but if I had accused her of it with nothing more, then it would have just caused more "chaos" in the household, and things were chaotic enough.

One thing the author of the article said that struck home was about the children of alcoholics not liking order and preferring chaos. I'll testify to that, based on my experience in being married to one for ten years.

[Thumper1960]

Apparently, WJC and "Cardinal RATzinger (RAT?) follow the Yul Brynner (King And I) theorem. Roughly, that women are flowers while men are bees. Flowers do not go from bee to bee to bee...rather bees go from flower to flower to flower.

[AmishDude]

so gallantry can wait . . . Marriage is so far off in the future, . . . think about that right now.

Time passes quicker than you think. :)

I'm not looking for a hero. If I wanted children, that might be another story entirely.

True enough. But remember, love often evades the most carefully-laid plans. Best of luck to you and him.

[Tennessee_Bob]

...and you picked up Laundry skills for your time!

Already had the laundry skills and the cooking skills before I met her. Now I've got my daughter, I'm single, and I'm back in school.

Sex? What sex? There was no sex for the last three years of the marriage. And none since the separation in late 99.

[discostu]

You should get rid of him. He's going to give you a disease. When people cheat (women do it too) it's because they're no good pieces of sh!t, period. It doesn't take two, anybody that thinks the person being cheated on (except under very specific circumstances) "forced" the person out is just excuse mongering. When one enters into an exclusive relationship (marriage or otherwise) then it should remain that way, if someone can't keep it exclusive then they should get out of it, if they just plain can't do it then they shouldn't get into exclusive relationships ever.

[homeschool mama]

***One thing is, is that as women get older they become less attractive.***

What an amazingly ignorant thing to say. Simply amazing.

[Doctor Stochastic]

However, it does seem that men are far more likely to cheat or to want to cheat.

If so many more men cheat than women, with whom? The numbers don't add up. Perhaps people aren't telling the truth somewheres.