Gen X saved America in 2024.
Posted on 08/25/2026 3:02:55 PM PDT by Angelino97
Have you found a girlfriend yet, young man? I ask because people are pairing off at the lowest rates in modern history.
While many argue over the causes, everyone—both left and right—agrees on the culprit: men. The internet is awash in articles positing some variation of the title “Where have all the good men gone?”
On the left, one of the most prominent works on this question is the New York Times’ essay “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back” by Rachel Drucker. Leftists never consider the mess that is the modern dating world—or their role in creating it—and how it might incentivize the “good men” to go their own way.
Consider the #MeToo movement. After watching baseless accusations destroy the lives of countless powerful men, modest guys stopped pursuing women. When the media, divorce courts, and prospective employers decided to #BelieveAllWomen, young males afflicted by nothing worse than shyness backed off, because they didn’t want to become the object of social ridicule or make women uncomfortable. Courtship died.
Certainly, there are bad men out there, but rather than consider them an outlier, the left has encouraged young women to take a negative view of men in general.
While many establishment conservatives frame the issue differently, they agree that the courtship crisis is men’s fault. Fox News darling Tomi Lahren, for example, insists that “the pickings are slim” for young women seeking quality masculine men who have their affairs in order.
Attributing blame to a failure of personal responsibility on the part of men is, however, only a half-truth. Men are leaving dating behind because they no longer believe it’s possible to achieve what their fathers and grandfathers did.
Social conservatives love to blame pornography, but they get cause and effect backward. Porn does not cause men to retreat from dating; modern dating causes men to retreat into porn.
After realizing they were playing a losing game, a good many men stopped dating. They made the calculation that porn was the best they were going to get. You can think that ignoble—I certainly do—but they’ve come by that conclusion honestly. Of course, the same can be said of all the other petty vices our young men use to while away their days—video games, online trolling, doomscrolling, anonymous posting on 4chan, et cetera.
The underemployed online drifter will not square up if he doesn’t think his life is going to materially improve as a result. He thinks that, regardless of his effort, he will likely never meet someone who loves him back. Even if he could, he will likely never have the means to provide for her, or own a house, or raise a family. While not commendable, it is understandable that he throws up his hands and decides he might as well take what pleasure he can.
So, young man, I don’t blame you for checking out. I really don’t. But why is this happening now?
Modernity has taken from men the roadmap to demonstrate excellence. Sexual egalitarianism has set men and women on the same social level. Indeed, as universities and corporations increasingly favor women in admissions and hiring, women may soon be looking down at men on the social hierarchy.
But women are not attracted to men below them or on equal footing; they prefer men above them, as Jordan Peterson has noted. As a result, when the average woman assesses the average man, she finds him to have neither greater earning potential nor higher status, and therefore she finds him lacking.
And yet, modernity happened; women have been liberated, and turning back the clock is neither feasible nor desirable. Women are not giving up the vote or leaving the workplace anytime soon.
So, what then? On a societal level, that’s a good question that better minds than mine have tried and failed to grapple with. Individually, however, there is something I can recommend to every young, unmarried man: Get up!
Sure, the “me too” movement threatens you; both conservatives and progressives blame you for everything; the economy isn’t what it was in the 1950s; all sorts of new obstacles stand in your way. But you can—and should—view these as obstacles to overcome. Sure, your modest income does not elevate you within the social hierarchy and provide the default path to marriage and family that your grandfather had, but you can—and should—make your own path.
You can demonstrate excellence in an art—call it a hobby, if you like. Women have always been drawn to great artists—painters, composers, musicians, sculptors, architects, and craftsmen. Of course, women gravitate to some arts more than others (I find swing dancing to have strong female appeal). Excellence within an art reveals an ability to order things well, which is a necessary quality of leadership—and women seek men who can lead.
A great many men will not “make it.” They will wither away into nothing and might as well have never existed. Will you be one of them? Young man, you know that won’t do.
As Shakespeare says through Benedick in Much Ado About Nothing, “The world must be peopled.” You have a duty to civilization to get up. No, actually, don’t do it for civilization. That puts the cart before the horse. Civilization is the byproduct of men who get up and achieve. Do you aspire to be such a man? Then screw what people think, screw your feelings, your ego, your pride.
Make your own path, pursue excellence, and—for goodness’ sake—go talk to her!
Society tries to shame men into relationships with women who are not capable of relationships.
I met the future Mrs. Mountain when I had nothing ...
We got married and built a life together ... for better or worse, in sickness and in health, 'til death do us part.
I know one thing for sure, decades later ... and knew it back then too: She didn't marry me for my money. She's not a gold-digger.
Be very careful what sort of "girl" you allow into your life if you already have worldly wealth.
Being well adjusted to a sick society is NOT a definition of success. Being single is a refusal to accept and adjust to a sick society.
This is one of the ways the left plans to conquer us,
None of those apply to him. But yeah, he is too nice. That’s a turn off for Gen Z and maybe all of them. I’ve told him to be an ahole and see how it goes. But he is big on respectful and polite. He feels as if he was born in the wrong time period.
Society has become extremely hostile to men and wanting men to take a 2nd class role, while simultaneously expecting those same men to shoulder the primary responsibility of society itself. Why would we expect any male to accept that?
Once society became an Accusatory Society where weak, defective people blamed others, calling them racist for being white, toxic for being male, homophobic for their normal sexuality, don’t be surprised when that same man shrugs, says to himself, “let it rot”, and walks away.
I blame Jane Austen. So many women read her books, and expect to meet the tall rich man, and there just isn’t that many of them.
Her core subject matter is ME. MY FEELINGS, MY WORRIES, MY PROBLEMS, MY HOPES, MY DREAMS, MY OPINIONS.
Throughout history, men wrote mostly about subjects outside themselves: politics, theology, history, literature, science, etc.
Most women "journalists" write "society" and "human interest" articles, which invariably focus on their opinions and subjective experiences on the matter.
My mistake. James is a male name.
However, in 40 years of marriage, most people have at least one arguement where they might say some mean things. My point is that all you saw was Steven’s reaction. You don’t see her input that caused the reaction. She might have said something terrible as well.
The problem for women is that they got what feminism promised them - a world where they aren't bound to men, financially, emotionally, sexually.
Well, that works both ways. Men have found life much easier and less expensive without women.
Gen X saved America in 2024.
Men aren’t dropping out, they’re rejecting “traditional male roles”. Women have rejected “traditional female roles” but SEETHE when men reject “traditional male roles”.
Post A: The system penalizes marriage. Steven Crowder found out the hard way that marrying a Biblical woman, virgin and raised in a Christian household, is a guarantee of getting a woman that you can be married to for life and is unaffected by the culture around her.
Post B: He married a young woman who was supposedly the Biblical ideal. She ended up acting like the culture around here and did all the things that women do when they are wanting to divorce their husbands, like being deceptive to make the husband look bad when wanting to divorce him. It is a unicorn today to find a woman who wants to marry you, who will stay married to you for life and treat you well. That’s just reality and it’s unfortunate.
If you can reconcile those two statements, then one of us has cognitive dissonance issues. And it's not me.
Really? They read? You serious?
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My wife agrees with that view, but perhaps for not the same reason. She suspects the pill disrupts their sense of attraction and affects their minds. She was very briefly on the pill back when we were college. Said it really messed her up and got off it fast. So, perhaps the hormonal disruptions are affecting them along with all the tiktok and Instagram aspirations.
Such propagandist shaming tactics and yet they pretend to wonder why men walk away.
Also, let's see the same terminology applied to women: "Unemployable gold digger with multiple children from different fathers will not grow up".
Many older men frown on younger men playing computer games but I don’t see it as any different than watching sports or playing golf. Many young men should be spending more time working on polishing their skills, starting a business, or some other potential productive and worthwhile endeavors.
Young women are focusing on their careers (or is it perhaps just status for many?), travelling, and having fun. I am not sure their choices of having fun are morally superior to playing computer games. Is their extreme focus on “choice” indicative of their morality? Tattoos?
Most serious men prefer someone who is fit, feminine, friendly, and frugal. Fair or not, the market for girl bosses is small and getting smaller. Young women have to realize their peak fertility years are 18 to 35 and that is being generous. So a 30 year old women has burned up over 70% of her fertility. Many of them have converted their nurturing nature into saving the planet or other great social causes. Not sure if God approves, but they will find out.
You’re Welcome. I’m very late Gen X(born in 1979).
We also heard allegations of bullying and sexual harassment from people who worked with him. Just because someone has Conservative political views doesn’t mean that they are ‘good’ or decent human beings.
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