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Posted on 08/25/2026 3:02:55 PM PDT by Angelino97
Have you found a girlfriend yet, young man? I ask because people are pairing off at the lowest rates in modern history.
While many argue over the causes, everyone—both left and right—agrees on the culprit: men. The internet is awash in articles positing some variation of the title “Where have all the good men gone?”
On the left, one of the most prominent works on this question is the New York Times’ essay “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back” by Rachel Drucker. Leftists never consider the mess that is the modern dating world—or their role in creating it—and how it might incentivize the “good men” to go their own way.
Consider the #MeToo movement. After watching baseless accusations destroy the lives of countless powerful men, modest guys stopped pursuing women. When the media, divorce courts, and prospective employers decided to #BelieveAllWomen, young males afflicted by nothing worse than shyness backed off, because they didn’t want to become the object of social ridicule or make women uncomfortable. Courtship died.
Certainly, there are bad men out there, but rather than consider them an outlier, the left has encouraged young women to take a negative view of men in general.
While many establishment conservatives frame the issue differently, they agree that the courtship crisis is men’s fault. Fox News darling Tomi Lahren, for example, insists that “the pickings are slim” for young women seeking quality masculine men who have their affairs in order.
Attributing blame to a failure of personal responsibility on the part of men is, however, only a half-truth. Men are leaving dating behind because they no longer believe it’s possible to achieve what their fathers and grandfathers did.
Social conservatives love to blame pornography, but they get cause and effect backward. Porn does not cause men to retreat from dating; modern dating causes men to retreat into porn.
After realizing they were playing a losing game, a good many men stopped dating. They made the calculation that porn was the best they were going to get. You can think that ignoble—I certainly do—but they’ve come by that conclusion honestly. Of course, the same can be said of all the other petty vices our young men use to while away their days—video games, online trolling, doomscrolling, anonymous posting on 4chan, et cetera.
The underemployed online drifter will not square up if he doesn’t think his life is going to materially improve as a result. He thinks that, regardless of his effort, he will likely never meet someone who loves him back. Even if he could, he will likely never have the means to provide for her, or own a house, or raise a family. While not commendable, it is understandable that he throws up his hands and decides he might as well take what pleasure he can.
So, young man, I don’t blame you for checking out. I really don’t. But why is this happening now?
Modernity has taken from men the roadmap to demonstrate excellence. Sexual egalitarianism has set men and women on the same social level. Indeed, as universities and corporations increasingly favor women in admissions and hiring, women may soon be looking down at men on the social hierarchy.
But women are not attracted to men below them or on equal footing; they prefer men above them, as Jordan Peterson has noted. As a result, when the average woman assesses the average man, she finds him to have neither greater earning potential nor higher status, and therefore she finds him lacking.
And yet, modernity happened; women have been liberated, and turning back the clock is neither feasible nor desirable. Women are not giving up the vote or leaving the workplace anytime soon.
So, what then? On a societal level, that’s a good question that better minds than mine have tried and failed to grapple with. Individually, however, there is something I can recommend to every young, unmarried man: Get up!
Sure, the “me too” movement threatens you; both conservatives and progressives blame you for everything; the economy isn’t what it was in the 1950s; all sorts of new obstacles stand in your way. But you can—and should—view these as obstacles to overcome. Sure, your modest income does not elevate you within the social hierarchy and provide the default path to marriage and family that your grandfather had, but you can—and should—make your own path.
You can demonstrate excellence in an art—call it a hobby, if you like. Women have always been drawn to great artists—painters, composers, musicians, sculptors, architects, and craftsmen. Of course, women gravitate to some arts more than others (I find swing dancing to have strong female appeal). Excellence within an art reveals an ability to order things well, which is a necessary quality of leadership—and women seek men who can lead.
A great many men will not “make it.” They will wither away into nothing and might as well have never existed. Will you be one of them? Young man, you know that won’t do.
As Shakespeare says through Benedick in Much Ado About Nothing, “The world must be peopled.” You have a duty to civilization to get up. No, actually, don’t do it for civilization. That puts the cart before the horse. Civilization is the byproduct of men who get up and achieve. Do you aspire to be such a man? Then screw what people think, screw your feelings, your ego, your pride.
Make your own path, pursue excellence, and—for goodness’ sake—go talk to her!
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There’s plenty of good men around, it’s just that we’re not all 6’ or taller, and make a six-figure salary.
The system penalizes marriage. Steven Crowder found out the hard way that marrying a Biblical woman, virgin and raised in a Christian household, is a guarantee of getting a woman that you can be married to for life and is unaffected by the culture around her.
Until the system changes, it’s an act of suicide to get married these days. That is unfortunate. Many men would have liked to marry, if the blue-pilled propaganda on relations was correct, but it’s not. That is what the red-pill is all about.
Huh? Wha?
>>You have a duty to civilization to get up.
F “civilization”. A society that hates the very people that built it deserves to die.
Yep. My son is very accomplished and good looking. But he is around 5’8. He has been told outright by many girls that they don’t date guys unless they are 6 ft or higher (or very rich). Fat girls, ugly girls, all types, say the same thing. Gen Z is messed up. It’s not the men, it’s the girls. I think about 40% of them are lesbos as well so that cuts down the ratio a lot.
I have seen a lot of things on the internet.
Some of them are very stupid.
This is one of them.
Women have achieved equality.
That pretty much means that ALL of the women are chasing about the top 10% of the men.
(And the top 10% percent of men are sleeping with a ton of women and have very little interest in settling for just one.)
Didn’t bother reading the whole thing, but I have an observation that is obviously not being considered: modern women. Especially leftist women. I grew up in the 60s (dating age) and it was different then. Women today are cynical and whiny. How does one please such? Who wants to bother? Men are blamed for everything these days. I think conservative couples work out better bc they have a different world view than the left-leaning, who want to blame anyone but themselves...men & women alike.
I see nothing in this article to encourage young men. At all. Stephan ends where he started, young men are the problem.
Back to college!
Even if you can’t get into an Ivy League, MIT, or Stanford, you can get into a good state school. You might even get into that school’s honors college!
Major in something decent (for 2026), and work had to get good grades. And go after good women—NOT feminazis or “Noo” Socialists!
What the Hell Is Wrong With Women?
Townhall ^ | 08/24/2026 | Kurt Schlichter
Posted on 8/24/2026, 11:23:48 AM by Responsibility2nd
𝐺𝑒𝑛 𝑍 𝑖𝑠 𝑚𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑢𝑝. 𝐼𝑡’𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑚𝑒𝑛, 𝑖𝑡’𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑔𝑖𝑟𝑙𝑠. 𝐼 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 40% 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑙𝑒𝑠𝑏𝑜𝑠 𝑎𝑠 𝑤𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑐𝑢𝑡𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑡.
It’s not just Gen-Z, it’s also Gen-X, and the Millenials too. I’m closer to fifty than I am to forty, and after the past couple of years I’ve accepted that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. I’ve got at best 30 years left, and I’m going to make the best of them.
I might recommend checking out, and maybe gifting your son copies of The Book of Numbers, by Aaron Clarey, and also The Menu: Life Without the Opposite Sex. Clarey puts things into perspective.
Silly days.
I’m 5’7” and never had a problem. I have a really big........
Mind.
Oh, I think there’s plenty of dating going on -— if you have a source of income. Guys playing video games all day are losers who aren’t datable. There are plenty of women who aren’t datable, but most likely not for the same reason.
Take a look at the lists of requirements delineated on any dating website. It isn’t, to be sure, a categorical representation of what all women want but it is of what all the ones on that site demand. Salmon have an easier time swimming upstream then men do navigating that torrent.
“He has been told outright by many girls that they don’t date guys unless they are....[it doesn’t matter]”
Tell him to make his money first. Then the girls will show up.
Excuse me, but a major theme that appears daily is the celbration of the American woman as whore. I wonder that there is any marriage at all. To blame men for the condition that surroudnds us, is fatuous.
Evolution will still win. Only those that multiply will stay in the game of life.
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