Posted on 12/01/2024 9:49:51 AM PST by TheErnFormerlyKnownAsBig
It's that time of year where we gather with Loved ones and "not so loved" ones.
This will be an ongoing thread through the holidays where we can vent about those who we would rather not be around but are required to do so.
Feel free to vent here about that special someone who manages to ruin your holidays, inlaws you abhor having over for dinner, and even that boss or co-worker who destroys the Xmas spirit.
Brother-inlaw hates turkey so I made prime Rib also.
He has been such an JERK since he has been here I had to leave the house for several hours on Friday to avoid punching his lights or and/or ruining my relationship with my good sister (the other sister is another epic story in its own right.)
He has so many bad traits that I overlooked for years, making excuses for his behavior, but this trip has broken my ability to make excuses for him.
At his core he is a 50+ y.o., selfish child who must get his way. He will try to manipulate people by controlling their emotions with his behavior much like a woman who might be on a reality TV show.
When we are at his house (massive technology driven home with 120+inch TV and sound system in his entertainment room and each common room having 2-5 tvs on the wall including the kitchen) he pretends to be gracious by asking “what do you want to watch” as he goes thru all the movie options.
No matter how many times you say “that looks good” he keeps going until he finds what he wants to watch and all the while he keeps saying “just say when see something you like.”
It got to the point where I just answer that question with “whatever you want to watch Frankie” everytime.
He cannot be without control of the TV and went behind my back to ask my adult son if it was OK to bring his “apple TV box”
I found out and told Frankie “of course you can bring it.”
Well he shows up, plugs it in to the TV, and watches some stuff but he had to wait for the football games to be over on Thanksgiving.
The next morning he went to town for a while (we are out in the county) and I tried to get on my YouTube TV account and Netflix but the only things that were available on the TV were stuff from his apple TV control box.
I couldn’t figure out what was going on and after a phone call to him where he gave me suggestions to fix the problem which were not going to fix the problem....I had to unplug his apple TV control box.
Voila! Instant fix.
So I watched some stuff and the next day...same problem.
I had to unplug it again and he layer gave me a dirty look when he found out.
I heard my sister whisper to him “just ask him for the wifi password”
It was at that moment I realized why we kept getting stuck on his apple TV account.....he brought his ATT wifi router (the exact same model I have that runs on cell tower connections and which we had spoken about when I got it, even sending him a photo of it and he remarked that it was the same as his) and he was using his router to talk to his apple TV controller attached physically to my TV.
So that was why I could never get on my tv with my accounts....he had taken over my TV with his router system, didn't tell me, and it was all because he had either refused to ask me for the wifi password (would have gladly gave it to him) or he wanted to be in total control.....most likely both.
His response to that was when I made a glass baking dish of scrambled eggs in the oven, and fresh bacon, for breakfast the next morning was to ignore what I made, not serve any of the eggs and bacon to his 3 y.o. son but offer him rice from the rice cooker, and then refuse to eat the scrambled eggs (which I made specifically because that was what he requested) and say “I want sunny side up eggs.”
I ended up refusing and my sister cooked him sunny side up eggs.
You may be thinking “Ern, nobody likes their brother inlaw, you are probably blowing this out of proportion. You may even be causing this by being a jerk yourself.”
My wife who has prayed for Frankie to change and “gave it up to God” recently to give her patience in dealing with him, and loves to “put me in check” is in total agreement with me.
Just so you know I’m not crazy....He is such a crazy control freak JERK, HE REARRANGED THE SILVERWARE IN OUR DRAWER AND MOVED ALL OF IT INTO DIFFERENT LOCATIONS.
This is when I had to leave the house for a few hours.
And if you still think it may be me.....
He doesn’t like dogs (even though he owned one before) and he yells at my old dog and puppy when they come over to sniff him.
At midnight on Thanksgiving/black Friday I was asleep and I heard the old dog (Bear) bark to go out and pee.
I was pulling on pajama pants and the dog barked a 2nd time.
I went to the living room and the dog was standing next to the door and couch..... waiting.
Frankie was sitting right next to the door on the couch, 1 foot away from the dog, legs up on the extended couch, ignoring the dog while everyone was asleep, watching his apple TV on my TV.
He would have let that dog POOP on the floor.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Haven’t heard from daughter since 11/6. We asked what’s up....ghosted. Less expensive Christmas is the way I see it.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/g5N6mOxxcME
you’re the conservative uncle at Thanksgiving
Someone here on FR posted their TG get together.
I am impressed with your restraint. At my age (77) there aren’t a lot of relatives left around. Even so, none of mine through my life even approach the oddity that is your Frankie!
I am so sorry. My mother died in July & my brother & I are now estranged. I am thankful for my husband’s beautiful, loving family. I so hope things work out with your daughter.❤️
You mean a moderator on a site called Free Republic, Censored words? I don’t read censored material.
You mean a moderator on a site called Free Republic, Censored words? I don’t read censored material.
Yes, I saw that it was hilarious.
I have a couple of annoying relatives that are only invited for dinner and that is it. Better for all if we keep our interaction to a minimum.
Rearranging my silverware drawer would end up in bloodshed at my house I am afraid. Do not touch my kitchen. This is known.
Rearrange everything else in the house except my kitchen and my bookshelves.
This sister who’s married to the horrible brother-in-law is sweet and nice.
My other sister is the problem child of the family she is one of those who cuts people out of their life after Trump got elected the first time
It’s hard to fathom why someone married that brother-in-law of yours...
I wouldn’t allow that in my house.. so it’s the wife and I and either daughter’s family or both with grand kids.. all well behaved and they help out.
Only talked with my brother once in the last 15 years or so and I’m good with that. He’s super liberal so nuff said.
I won’t deal with idiots, family or otherwise. You should put your brother-in-law in his place in front of everyone. That sends the message.
No words, but you are a man with a lot of self control. He’s beyond a jerk. It boggles the mind. If you end up, don’t please, going to prison......I will send you snacks.
She is following thr age old story of “I can fix him after I marry him”
Many women have tried this and many have failed
My dear sister has informed me that she will be leaving the country. I can’t say how long this will last, but I’m not expecting a Christmas card this year.
In an attempt to make peace, I sent a tin of Danish butter cookies. After a few days, I asked if she liked them “oh they were from you...”
She has been so smug for the last four years, it’s quite a comeuppance to lose. Bigly.
My D parents admitted I was right all along about Kamala and were super nice with compliments, sort of, “Oh you haven’t forgotten how to cook and where’s the corn casserole we like so much?” Hmm, I don’t trust them.
I have another sister who I have not spoken to in a year or so....
I won’t talk to her in person, alone, and try to have any comms with her be text so there is a written record of what is said.
We have a niece that nobody in the family has heard from since Trump who we all voted for had the audacity to beat hillary.
Bless her heart
Hope she has a good life...
The mistake you are making is with your sister.
You need to have a very uncomfortable discussion—one that will make her very uncomfortable.
She is banned from your house—forever.
If they want to stay at a hotel—fine.
If they want to meet at a neutral site—fine.
Life is about boundaries.
Get your alpha on and set them.
Your home is your castle—and you make the rules.
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I am normally very charming to everyone—until they cross “the line”. To those people I am considered “rude”.
I wear that badge with honor.
P.S. I draw the line—no debate allowed.
Oh yea recently SHE has changed her name from Sophia to Elijah.
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